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RE: Doms requiring us to be braless - 4/7/2007 4:58:24 AM

iwearpanties

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as a sub male here id like to ask have any of the Mistress's or Master's ever make a sub male wear a bra and panties under there clothes .. a few Mistress'es i have met siad they would or might but i never got the chance or the orders too....

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RE: Doms requiring us to be braless - 4/7/2007 1:21:16 PM

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Over weight women with breasts that hang down get mighty sweaty under the breasts, which is unatractive to have under boob sweat problems, and it causes nasty unsightly heat rashes to have your large breasts hanging skin to skin. It's also very tacky to keep having to dry your under boob area every 5 to 10 mins. I am a large breasted woman, Even with a bra they sweat like mad underneath the band, but it's 10 times worse hanging skin to skin.

This really wasn't an image i enjoyed...

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RE: Doms requiring us to be braless - 4/7/2007 1:22:35 PM

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Also if I don't wear panties I get whicked heat rashes and massive irritation between my thighs that litterally becomes a health issue, since the rubbing thighs and the friction will eventually make open sores. Panties absorb some of the moister I guess, I'm not really sure why but wearing panties means the ability to walk well and not get friction burns.

Ewww! This wasn't good either!

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RE: Doms requiring us to be braless - 4/7/2007 1:47:32 PM

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Greeting-
On first meeting I will instruct a girl on how I want her to dress. I tell her exactly what to wear.
It is to see if she can understand when she is given exact instructions, but I also make sure I
know how big a girl's tits are before that conversation. I can then make a good choice on bra
or no bra. As a rule of thumb if a girl is a C cup or smaller I will not list a bra as one of the article
of clothing she is to wear.
If the fellow did not have the sense that you were to big to go around even for a short time
with no support it might be well that you did not give yourself to him.

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RE: Doms requiring us to be braless - 4/7/2007 3:39:37 PM

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i ment no disrepct with my comment i will not post again

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RE: Doms requiring us to be braless - 4/7/2007 4:41:37 PM

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I don't understand why you would even bother to meet with such a person. If I had been in that situation, and Dude had told me to wear no bra, I would have politely explained, that this is NOT a counter urth where titties are forever perky and bouncing, and that at a G cup, bra is a necessity, and that if he couldn't handle that fact, then he should just keep a- fishin.

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RE: Doms requiring us to be braless - 4/7/2007 9:38:21 PM

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Hello,

Out of curiosity for the dominants whose procedure for a first meeting is for the person they are meeting to perform some small acts of obedience - is it a deal breaker if the person tells you they are not comfortable or willing to follow orders before meeting face to face?

Take care,

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RE: Doms requiring us to be braless - 4/7/2007 10:00:57 PM

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ORIGINAL: PeggyO

Hello,

Out of curiosity for the dominants whose procedure for a first meeting is for the person they are meeting to perform some small acts of obedience - is it a deal breaker if the person tells you they are not comfortable or willing to follow orders before meeting face to face?

Take care,

Peggy

For me it would be as I never ask anything that would put the other person in any danger
or even make it clear to anyone just watching them walk down the street into the coffee
shop or bar that there was anything out of the ordinary about them or what they were doing.
I tend to be one who does not "wave it around" in public. If a female that is interviewing
with me can not handle the simple instructions of how to dress for the interview without
freaking out then it is not very likely that she would work out.

If a girl thinks she followed my instructions on how to dress, but shows up wearing panties
and a bra (unless I listed bra in what I wanted her to wear) then we at least have something
to discuss about what listening to instructions really entails.

I once asked a girl to meet me at a bar at a certain time. I told her to wear a skirt, blouse
that buttoned up the front, bra that hooked in front if she had one, shoes that looked smart,
but were good for walking, and stockings if she wanted, but no panty hose. I also gave her the
option of a small bag. She was instructed to say something to the bar tender.....this would let
me know who she was so I would not be talking to all the wrong females that night......
Well she latter sent me an email saying she freaked out thinking of following those instructions
and she was sorry. A week latter she asked for another try. I provided her with similar
instructions. She showed that time, and even asked after short while to be mine. After
the third time she was with me when she had to do some work in my office for me one night
she split. Said she could not take being used for looking through files.......ever since then
if a female freaks at basic instructions for a first meeting I figure she is not worth meeting.

Having said that......if the instructions are something like come to my house open the door walk
in and put on the cuffs that are chained to the bed.......I would say a girl might want to look elsewhere!

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RE: Doms requiring us to be braless - 4/7/2007 10:19:48 PM

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While I've done the meeting a guy with instructions for dress on the first time and all thing- at this point in my life I think it's silly if you want to really start seeing eachother for possible long term things.

It's a first date- and already you're objectifying them and going for the physical. I know most people really do just want the hot sex and kinky stuff and all their fabulous words about "reading my soul" and "slave heart" tends to fly out the window when the heel hits the pavement, but that's just not to my taste anymore when I'm thinking of the long term.

You want to fuck me for a hot night, sure I'll wear a great corset and short skirt and cute heels. For a first date on a serious possibility? I want you to care about me/us- not the hotness possibilities.

Secondly- what's so difficult with "I'll be wearing a red tie and holding a red rose" to make sure it's the right person? Or in this day and age- cell phones! Call eachother when you get there and meet at the door.

And seriously- filing work for a second date? Sounds like serious novice kinky seen Secretary a few too many times crap to me- not basic building relationship dynamics.

There are plenty of cute novice subs out there who will bark like a dog all night for a few pats on the head and the chance to update their profile status- but that doesn't make a solid long term relationship.

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RE: Doms requiring us to be braless - 4/7/2007 10:35:56 PM

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I know some may not agree with me but I do not feel that as a dom I have a right to require you to do anything when first meeting. I can ask but not require. If I ask you not to wear a bra or to wear a blue blouse and you do not then I think that is wrong. If you say you are uncomfortable not wearing a bra or you do not have a blue blouse when we first meet, then I think of something else. If I am meeting you at a restaurant I will have you arrive before me and make sure you are seated and have orderred me a glass of ice tea before I arrive. It tends to give the waitress or waiter the idea we know one another better than we do but nothing else. So no, a Dom does not have the right to require you to do anything but if you refuse to do everything he asks, and he refuses to change his request then the two of you would probably not get along anyhow.

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RE: Doms requiring us to be braless - 4/7/2007 10:47:03 PM

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ORIGINAL: captainblack

For me it would be as I never ask anything that would put the other person in any danger
or even make it clear to anyone just watching them walk down the street into the coffee
shop or bar that there was anything out of the ordinary about them or what they were doing.
I tend to be one who does not "wave it around" in public. If a female that is interviewing
with me can not handle the simple instructions of how to dress for the interview without
freaking out then it is not very likely that she would work out.

I think this is probably where people have the misunderstandings they do. When I am meeting someone with the mindset that they might be relationship material - it's not an "interview" for me. I'm not trying to get a job. I'm trying to get to know the other person and see if we're compatible.

The point for me isn't whether or not someone is asking me to do something that will attract unwanted attention or may be potentially harmful. It's the fact that I'm not comfortable following orders issued to me before I've even met the person. I will not meet a prospective dominant as anything other than a peer, and if they're giving me orders, no matter how trivial, we're not peers.

So is that a deal breaker for dominants out there?

Take care,

Peggy

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RE: Doms requiring us to be braless - 4/7/2007 10:59:50 PM

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

ere and meet at the door.

And seriously- filing work for a second date? Sounds like serious novice kinky seen Secretary a few too many times crap to me- not basic building relationship dynamics.

Lucky-

You should note I do not deal with "subs" only slaves. I have never seen the movie you speak
of, but I have heard of it. For me like most other goreans I know it is about service, not sex. Hell I can teach any female to be good at sex if she is not when she comes to me, but if she
does not have a service mindset it is sure that she will not work out.

My goal is to find out sooner rather than latter that she will not work out. Hell I had one girl
that really wanted to be mine according to her emails, and online chats.... She was
some distance away and I knew that I did not want her moving if she was not going to work
out.....So her first task was to clean my boat while I ran errands I needed to do. She
left town the next day and it was probably best for everyone.

In my book a slave is there to please and serve, not for me to give her hot monkey sex!

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RE: Doms requiring us to be braless - 4/8/2007 8:24:32 AM

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It's a first date- and already you're objectifying them and going for the physical.

Exactly, it's being more interested in being WHAT they are, than being interested in WHO they are. I had no interest in being with someone that had no interest in getting to know me, instead of his fantasy.

Next comment: men out number the women at least 3 to 1. Quite frankly, I interviewed them. Maybe 1 out of 10 made it past the first meeting to the first date. Not too many made it past the first date. I knew what I wanted. I was picky. And a lot of the guys didn't meet what I was looking for and were hoping to have the D/s frenzy blind me to the fact that they didn't meet my criteria.

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RE: Doms requiring us to be braless - 4/11/2007 5:59:23 AM

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ORIGINAL: PeggyO
Out of curiosity for the dominants whose procedure for a first meeting is for the person they are meeting to perform some small acts of obedience - is it a deal breaker if the person tells you they are not comfortable or willing to follow orders before meeting face to face?

Everything is negotiable.

However when something has been agreed on and is not carried out by the subbie

That is the deal breaker.

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RE: Doms requiring us to be braless - 4/13/2007 1:53:43 AM

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I think that real question should be why is this dom giving you such a stupid useless task as going braless, when he could be doing something of real benefit to you, such as putting you on a strict diet and exercise regime, which would actually benefit your mental and physical health.

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RE: Doms requiring us to be braless - 4/13/2007 2:34:54 AM

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I have talked to Doms who "wanted" me to be braless and I respectfully explained that I was not comfortable with that. Like "Peggy" stated..when I meet someone the first time, we are equals. I have not submitted nor have I agreed to. We are getting to know each other..nothing more or less. I once met a Dom (before I realized I had the RIGHT to say no) braless as he has requested. When the waitress walked me to his table, he was sitting there with a pair of nipple clamps hanging off his finger and immediately explained--in front of the waitress, while she was asking for my drink order--that I was to put them on the ladies' room and come back. I immediately left, but not before dumping a large glass of ice water in his lap. I am submissive, I cannot deny that..but I expect the SAME respect be given me on a first meeting that the Dominant expects from me. Anything less and I walk away. If he cannot respect me on a first meeting, he will not respect me in play and that is a risk I"m not willing to take.

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RE: Doms requiring us to be braless - 4/13/2007 2:44:02 AM

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ORIGINAL: GLITTERBOMB

I think that real question should be why is this dom giving you such a stupid useless task as going braless, when he could be doing something of real benefit to you, such as putting you on a strict diet and exercise regime, which would actually benefit your mental and physical health.

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RE: Doms requiring us to be braless - 4/13/2007 2:46:35 AM

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ORIGINAL: butterfly231

I have talked to Doms who "wanted" me to be braless and I respectfully explained that I was not comfortable with that.

you established BEFORE meeting that you were not comfortable with it..NOT AFTER the agreement was made as the op made comment to.

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RE: Doms requiring us to be braless - 4/13/2007 3:17:16 AM

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a strict diet would prove obedience and mindset more than going braless.

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RE: Doms requiring us to be braless - 4/13/2007 3:19:59 AM