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SHOULD BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED ACROSS A BDSM FORUM OR BE IGNORED N ALL PERSONS TREATED AS VANILLA ?


BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED
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BE TREATED AS VANILLA
  47% (23)


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RE: SHOULD BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED ACROSS A BDSM FORUM ... - 5/22/2004 11:39:51 AM   
ShadeDiva


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ORIGINAL: indigo302

"prodigy day question"

We can't be talking about the days of Prodigy, when it was 1.95-2.95 per hour for hours and hours of endless chatting...<g>

And not the "Pseudo" Prodigy Chat rooms, right?


Both actually. On "Classic" prod. I haunted *both* sides, I was *one of THOSE people* LOL.

I was also fairly vocal and talkative on the "BBs" there as well even back then.

That was also where I was at my er, ah, most exuberant and obnoxious. lol.

Before RP became so ..... trite. In some ways I think that's a bot sad, but then on the other hand - it wasn't real sooooooo, I'm a realist enough to prefer the real deal. lol

I *still* have the old prod hugs (as ya can tell, lol) and a few I made, though I've lost a few here and there.

My name there turned into my nilla name, so less likely to hand that out willy nilly lol, don't need folks bugging me at work and stuff. LOL.

I still hear from those folks here and there Chevy (mr cute butt!) and them still meet on irc, last I heard, Kiss and Morgan are still around, haven't seen Padlmaker or heard from him, I see smitten here and there ... <thinks>, I am still in touch with sweetlori and Dave, I see HeartzDelite online sometimes (Dominer's sub), Deeb (oh I KNOW I fudged that up) I heard is doing well,heard through Apalonnia, ummmmm, let's see who else have I bumped into ... I hear bits and pieces about Whims every so often, havent seen randisu in forever, KatetheShrew & Lovey I see every few months (we do bbqs and holidays and stuffs lol), Ive heard a tad about Sunni, last I heard she was well, havent seen LipzofFire or Winterdove in years, and I know Im missing a few others I've run across from the "pseudo-side" for the *other side of prod* folks .. lets see, Im still in touch with Dark Angel, Toucs I heard was doing well, havent seen Tears, ran across Dominim a couple of years ago, Kyrisong I see online, LordLaughter I run into on AOL somewhat often, and ummmm, I'm sure there's a few others that have escaped my blonde brain at the moment, LOL!

A few have passed on, MV and Nan were the last I had heard of bless their hearts. I will never forget MV going to town on those BBs! LOL! I had a lot of those archived, but I think the file corrupted - I'd LOVE to compile them on a site someday just for good ol times sake!

Gosh talk about a blast from the past. I feel all homey and shit now. LOL! Don't miss the 800-900 a month phone bills though LOL! I *still* have a few of the old prod disks around hehehehe!

Soooooooo anyone else get any memories stirring from that bit and pieces roll call? LOL

And no RealPower brewhaha, okay? LOLOLOLOL. I had enough of that drama back then to last me my whole life, ROFL!

~ShadeDiva, who all a sudden feels kinda sorta old and crap wah!

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RE: SHOULD BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED ACROSS A BDSM FORUM ... - 5/22/2004 11:40:59 AM   
ShadeDiva


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ORIGINAL: sub4hire
Now, if she had asked me. There would have been a different response. Although, I can't say I remember what nickname I had back then either.


Well hell.

REMEMBER ALREADY!

LOL!

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RE: SHOULD BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED ACROSS A BDSM FORUM ... - 5/25/2004 4:33:44 AM   
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SHOULD BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED ACROSS A BDSM FORUM OR BE IGNORED N ALL PERSONS TREATED AS VANILLA

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RE: SHOULD BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED ACROSS A BDSM FORUM ... - 5/25/2004 8:30:43 AM   
indigo302


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Status: offline 		Wow! How cool to meet people from the past! I was mostly on the Pseudo side, but I ventured into the Classic side as well from time to time. Especially when I'd been too verbal and people needed a chance to calm down *chuckles*

LOL I'd forgotten about RealPower!

The others I hear about from time to time on a mailing list I am on.

Many I've forgotten, but those I miss most are Ainee and Donatien. I met them when I first went to Prodigy Pseudo.....

And who could forget MalloryK????

indi

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RE: SHOULD BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED ACROSS A BDSM FORUM ... - 5/25/2004 10:41:34 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MistressDREAD
SHOULD BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED ACROSS A BDSM FORUM OR BE IGNORED N ALL PERSONS TREATED AS VANILLA

IMHO, this poll question does not apply "only" to a BDSM forum. It applies to nearly every walk of life. It applies as "simple" common sense.

Would you make yourself welcome at a Gay Convention by telling insulting Gay jokes? If you were stupid, maybe... but if you have any common sense at all, you would use some form of discretion, or diplomacy... and blend in with the audience at hand.

Discretion and/or diplomacy seem to be the more appropriate answers to your poll... NOT simply your chosen answers of "BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED" or "BE TREATED AS VANILLA".

This "poll" approach is hard line "cut & dried", a rule versus a way of thinking. Do you want to teach a "rule", or a manner of thinking... a philosophy?

I feel the philosophy approach is better... simply because any dumbass can follow a rule.

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RE: SHOULD BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED ACROSS A BDSM FORUM ... - 5/25/2004 7:47:20 PM   
Sinergy


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Status: offline 		Prodigy *rolls his eyes*

Was I the only one in 1987 who hacked into an unused professer account at CSU Fullerton and got access to Prodigy without ever paying a dime?

Wait, am I sharing too much again?

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RE: SHOULD BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED ACROSS A BDSM FORUM ... - 5/25/2004 7:59:57 PM   
ShadeDiva


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Status: offline 		Oooooooooooh I eventually found a way to not have to pay LOL!

Hey! It was my very very first time ever online at all - give a neophyte a break! LOLOLOL

It takes time to learn how to navigate such things. Pfffffffbt.

hehehe

Was ya Sinergy back then too?

~ShadeDiva

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RE: SHOULD BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED ACROSS A BDSM FORUM ... - 5/25/2004 8:04:40 PM   
ShadeDiva


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ORIGINAL: indigo302
Wow! How cool to meet people from the past! I was mostly on the Pseudo side, but I ventured into the Classic side as well from time to time. Especially when I'd been too verbal and people needed a chance to calm down *chuckles*

LOL I'd forgotten about RealPower!

The others I hear about from time to time on a mailing list I am on.

Many I've forgotten, but those I miss most are Ainee and Donatien. I met them when I first went to Prodigy Pseudo.....

And who could forget MalloryK????


LOL I remember them folks, slightly, not as much as the other, well yanno, shakers. I think Ainee and Donatien left shorty after I appeared, not too familiar with them, remember a bunch of stories shared though.

That was one great group of people. This site is the closest to coming near the same kind of community as that was that I've seen since.

In some ways I miss it, in other ways it was time.

~ShadeDiva

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RE: SHOULD BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED ACROSS A BDSM FORUM ... - 5/25/2004 8:06:19 PM   
Sinergy


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Was ya Sinergy back then too?


No, I was some other name. [takes the 5th] Sinergy is an incarnation which comes from an internet game I play, and my profile on alt is tesuji.

I have had a few other names along the way, but Sinergy is fairly new for me.

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RE: SHOULD BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED ACROSS A BDSM FORUM ... - 5/26/2004 5:01:12 AM   
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No, I was some other name. [takes the 5th]



Show me yours and I will show mine...<g>

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RE: SHOULD BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED ACROSS A BDSM FORUM ... - 5/26/2004 5:24:22 AM   
MizSuz


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Status: offline 		The problem with poles is they skew the results before you even get a chance to answer.

For example, one would think that there are only two correct answers to this question, "Roleplay" or "Vanilla."

I choose "none of the above."

I reserve the right to decide on a case by case basis how I interact (and respect anyone else's right to do the same). There are people who are protocol insistent that I have no interest in humoring or playing along with. In fact, in a few instances I'd RATHER that person wasn't in my scene at all; and I have no intention of 'assuming the position' with them simply because they prefer it.

BDSM is (at least mine is) based in consent. I do not consent to assume roles with someone just because they proclaim themself this or that; further, I see no departure from BDSM simply because I am not willing to assume said roles with everyone. This does not make me 'vanilla' this makes me 'discerning.'

In fact, I much prefer the deference that is given from someone who is discerning over that which is made by blanket protocols. It means more to me.

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RE: SHOULD BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED ACROSS A BDSM FORUM ... - 5/26/2004 8:17:00 AM   
Sinergy


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BDSM is (at least mine is) based in consent. I do not consent to assume roles with someone just because they proclaim themself this or that; further, I see no departure from BDSM simply because I am not willing to assume said roles with everyone. This does not make me 'vanilla' this makes me 'discerning.


Well put, I agree.

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RE: SHOULD BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED ACROSS A BDSM FORUM ... - 5/26/2004 8:39:54 AM   
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BDSM is (at least mine is) based in consent. I do not consent to assume roles with someone just because they proclaim themself this or that; further, I see no departure from BDSM simply because I am not willing to assume said roles with everyone. This does not make me 'vanilla' this makes me 'discerning.'


Bravo! I agree 100%.

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RE: SHOULD BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED ACROSS A BDSM FORUM ... - 5/26/2004 4:53:30 PM   
ShadeDiva


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lol

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RE: SHOULD BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED ACROSS A BDSM FORUM ... - 5/26/2004 6:14:38 PM   
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Status: offline 		So noting an error is a lack of respect? An objective error.

Then I guess I will be direspectful and not that I would not have much respect for a Master or Mistress who took issue with such a thing.

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ORIGINAL: proudsub

I try to treat everyone with the same respect, reguardless of their role. If my Master asks me to show more respect to a dom or domme then i will. For example He was upset about the grammatical correction i made for MistressDread and said i should of repected her position more, and btw He did punish me for that.

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RE: SHOULD BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED ACROSS A BDSM FORUM ... - 5/26/2004 10:07:54 PM   
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So noting an error is a lack of respect? An objective error.


My Dom felt it was not my position to correct a Mistress in public.

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RE: SHOULD BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED ACROSS A BDSM FORUM ... - 5/26/2004 10:26:54 PM   
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RE: SHOULD BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED ACROSS A BDSM FORUM ... - 5/27/2004 3:38:14 PM   
sudja


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Status: offline 		Which is certainly between you and your Dom.

In my opinion, it is either polite and appropriate or it is not.

It's all subjective, of course.

So long as you're good with it, cool.

sudja


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ORIGINAL: proudsub

quote:

So noting an error is a lack of respect? An objective error.


My Dom felt it was not my position to correct a Mistress in public.

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RE: SHOULD BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED ACROSS A BDSM FORUM ... - 5/27/2004 4:03:48 PM   
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So noting an error is a lack of respect? An objective error.


Well, my opinion on this is that noting an error is not in and of itself a lack of respect.

There are disrespectful ways to note an error.

The issue with noting an error is to realize the other person may get defensive and cranky and have an emotional melt down and call you names and flame you on internet message boards.

My approach is to caveat things like that with apologizing, being polite, indicating it is just my opinion and I could be wrong, etc. And what I refuse to do is engage if the person gets their knickers in a twist.

As usual, that is just me and I could be wrong

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RE: SHOULD BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED ACROSS A BDSM FORUM ... - 5/27/2004 4:05:20 PM   
Sinergy


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My Dom felt it was not my position to correct a Mistress in public.


Well, from my perspective, it is up to your Dom whether or not you correct somebody
in public.

And please give my regards to your Dom.

Sinergy

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