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SHOULD BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED ACROSS A BDSM FORUM OR BE IGNORED N ALL PERSONS TREATED AS VANILLA ?


BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED
  52% (25)
BE TREATED AS VANILLA
  47% (23)


Total Votes : 48


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RE: SHOULD BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED ACROSS A BDSM FORUM ... - 5/27/2004 5:13:38 PM   
MistressDREAD


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quote:

IMHO, this poll question does not apply "only" to a BDSM forum. It applies to nearly every walk of life

Excuse Me
this poll applys only to BDSM Forums
when I desire to make a poll about
vanilla issues or every other walk of
life thing I will do so. This is about
BDSM protical NOT D/s half steps
nor anything not related to collarme
like your relation with your boss or
what you did in school 20 years ago
or what you face in your vanilla life.
This is spacific to BDSM roles and how
you as a lifestyler address them either
in lifestyles ways or in vanilla ways
simple.

read the polls question and answer
using the answer that best fits your
thoughts. If you dont agree with the
poll dont take it and dont comment
on it. To many people complain about
the politics of the day with out even
being a registered voter. Get My drift.

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RE: SHOULD BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED ACROSS A BDSM FORUM ... - 6/2/2004 12:44:45 PM   
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The phaomnenil pweor of the hmuan mnid.
Aoccdrnig 2 a rschearceh at Cmabrigde
Unervtisy, it deosn't mttaer n waht
oredr the ltteers n a wrod r,the
olny iprmoetnt tihng is taht the frist
n lsat ltteer b at the rghit pclae.
The rset can b a total mses n u
can sitll raed it wouthit a porbelm.
Tihs is bcuseae the huamn mnid deos
not raed ervey lteter by istlef,
but the wrod as a wlohe. I taert
all farkes ealquly, Of cruose I look
at all ppleoe as farkes dnot U?
gleiggs....Frignig amzanig huh?

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RE: SHOULD BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED ACROSS A BDSM FORUM ... - 6/2/2004 12:48:23 PM   
proudsub


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quote:

Tihs is bcuseae the huamn mnid deos
not raed ervey lteter by istlef,
but the wrod as a wlohe.


It is amazing, and a good thing too or i wouldn't be able to read most posts here

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RE: SHOULD BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED ACROSS A BDSM FORUM ... - 6/2/2004 1:06:34 PM   
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LOL! Too true, proud!

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RE: SHOULD BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED ACROSS A BDSM FORUM ... - 6/9/2004 1:51:42 PM   
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I believe that everyone should show courtesy to everyone else, regardless of what their "role" is. I don't expect that every submissive I encounter should show me respect, simply because I say, "I am Dom...hear me roar". Respect is something to be earned. Showing courtesy... that's simply good manners.

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RE: SHOULD BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED ACROSS A BDSM FORUM ... - 6/13/2004 5:54:45 PM   
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RE: SHOULD BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED ACROSS A BDSM FORUM ... - 6/13/2004 6:40:05 PM   
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Again, personal opinion, but I feel plain and simple common courtesy would be the best way to handle things. Once you start talking to someone, ask how they wish to be call. Myself, I prefer Ma'am or M'Lady. Others prefer to be addressed differently. We are not aliens here, common manners and politeness go a long way.

Be well.

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RE: SHOULD BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED ACROSS A BDSM FORUM ... - 6/14/2004 7:55:49 AM   
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I agree, that respect is earned, but when we found our "home" in the D/s community, we picked a lifestyle. Before I get a hundred emails asking what about switch, parttime etc, when you present FOR THAT TIME, you have picked a place to stand. For me Ma'am is the title of choice to begin with, it is safe for both the slave and myself. A title that is sadly lacking a vast majority of time in the vanilla world, but still very common place, so therefore it would not bring undue scrutiny to bear. Along the same line, I call the slave by his first name, or nickname, wide smile and on occassion sweetmeat, which also passes without comment. The reason being that I do go out and about with my males, this way they or myself do not slip up. Manners are becoming a rare commodity no matter what your choice of lifestyle. Dom or sub I think everyone needs to have manners, a title presents at least the illusion. Emails without salutations or closings are a prime example. In my opinion, Tess

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RE: SHOULD BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED ACROSS A BDSM FORUM ... - 6/25/2004 1:52:03 AM   
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Do you need to supplicate yourself to me who you don't know just because I'm a dominant? Does the fact that some guy hangs a dom shingle out today mean that I have to bow and kiss the ring, even if I'm a dominant?

Hi, we're on a chat board. This is no different than being in person at a bar, sitting around and talking to one another. We're all human beings, and aside from using some respect and manners, there's no reason why any of us have to yield to another's chosen kink or position in the scene.

Just a personal opinion, mind you....

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RE: SHOULD BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED ACROSS A BDSM FORUM ... - 6/25/2004 8:54:54 AM   
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I voted yes, and yes. Treating someone 'vanilla' does not mean I am not disrespecting their self professed role. I address other Dominants by the name they use for themselves, excepting the Mistress or Master or Lord or what not just like I don't address my boss as 'General Manager Isabel.' I also don't call a sub or slave 'submissive sandy' or 'slave andrea' unless the only name they have listed for themselves is something like 'slave4u' or some such. If someone is arrogant enough to just use the name Master or Lord - I'll just avoid referring to him by name. I don't believe that a submissive should ask permission to post in this forum, and I see no situation where I should 'scold' a submissive or slave for their behavior here - at least no more then I would someone who was vanilla.

You are not your role, you are not playing a part. I am a person first, a Dominant second. This doesn't mean I do not respect the BDSM roles - it means I keep that role within perspective when addressing someone. This doesn't just apply to this message board, but in all aspects of my life. I don't treat my boss as a 'thing' that I cannot speak to, reason with, or otherwise be friendly. She may sign my paycheck, but she's still human under the suit.

quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressDREAD

quote:

IMHO, this poll question does not apply "only" to a BDSM forum. It applies to nearly every walk of life

Excuse Me
this poll applys only to BDSM Forums
when I desire to make a poll about
vanilla issues or every other walk of
life thing I will do so.


Seeing as you're scolding a slave that isn't yours, perhaps this is an example of how you treat other vanilla people? If you don't want someone's opinion, don't solicite opinions via these polls.

Stephan


< Message edited by Voltare -- 6/25/2004 8:55:26 AM >


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RE: SHOULD BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED ACROSS A BDSM FORUM ... - 6/27/2004 6:42:52 PM   
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An interesting poll but it's a catch 22 as well. To address anyone, either another Dom/me, Master/Mistress or sub/slave in their full name or CAPS abreviation should be done... it doesn't cost you any harm to. I get a roflmao when they want the "Sir or Ma'am" after it and a smile to boot. If they are a pain, they show disrespect to you or someone you know then you can ignore them and use whatever tools the website has or permits to keep from being bothered by them.... IWY.

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RE: SHOULD BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED ACROSS A BDSM FORUM ... - 6/29/2004 6:53:04 AM   
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I almost never post. Synergy says it beautifully anyway.

But, since you jumped on him/her for being OT...

I sincerely believe that forum is no different than a normal relationship. Normal as in *not kinky*.

If some ass thinks that I am a sub because I don't use capital letters for my login like some windoze weenie without asking politely, I don't see it as my problem. What I call myself is meaningful only to me. Well, that's not strictly true either, since it is largely meaningless.

Posting is like a cross between chatting and blowing smoke rings.

oops, ranting there. Sorry.

So I see there were Prodigy fans. How about the IBM network or GEnie folks? Anybody remember the "lookbusy" script????

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RE: SHOULD BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED ACROSS A BDSM FORUM ... - 6/29/2004 8:46:35 AM   
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This subject of "BD/SM roles" comes up in many discussions, forums, chat rooms and many e-groups.

Since nearly every different place has there own rules, expectations and practices, my answer is that is it courteous to follow the conventions in use where you are. If the site owner or moderators wants Dominants to use caps and subs to use lower case, it IS T/their site. If they forbid this, then use normal English capitalization.

My own personal opinion is that the only labels that have any validity are those a person places upon their own forehead. Top, Bottom, Dom(me), Sub, Slave, Master, Domina, Mistress are all words subject to interpretation by everyone and meaning different things to different folks. Language can be deceptive.

I try to respect the wishes of others, so if I am posting on a Dominant Women/male sub site i may use lower case just because men are expected by the group to do so, even though I am a switch.

Life is way too short to get hyper about whether other people are using the "correct" label or not. If a beloved submissive woman in a relationship with me says she is Lesbian, so be it. Others have said "but she's with you so she MUST be bi." Not their business!

Goddess best!

Phil

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RE: SHOULD BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED ACROSS A BDSM FORUM ... - 6/29/2004 12:36:17 PM   
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This one is new to this site. If she offends by responding then she will offer the appropriate apologies and not return. However, until that time, she will speak. She believes that all people are entitled to good manners and gentle speech. When O/one presents themselves in a rude manner, she simply ignores. There are many different styles and perspectives in BDSM. Listening and discussing these differences is what helps U/us all carve O/our own paths. She finds it most stimulating. There is one comment, however, that she does take exception to:

quote:

I am also not a slave. My Dominant loves me for having a mind.


This one is a slave, and her mind is well in tact.

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RE: SHOULD BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED ACROSS A BDSM FORUM ... - 7/5/2004 7:43:32 PM   
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actually Voltare I was not scolding but correcting
sumone whom read wrongly into My words.
maybe You need to learn what My way of scolding is.

A poll gives choices
I dident ask for anyones
opinions here I posted a poll
with the choices to choose from.
and THAT is what I was seeking,
answers to the POLL. If I could
of turned off the opinion areas in
order to gain the polls tally I would
of done so. Its not a option.

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RE: SHOULD BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED ACROSS A BDSM FORUM ... - 7/5/2004 7:53:49 PM   
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Oh yes and one more issue Voltare
what You choose to be and how or
how You look at Your self is up to
You but dont tempt to push off how
You look at things as to how I am
expected to do so. That is not My
reality. I am sure that You would
not appreciate the way I treat
Vanillas either or people in general
but then again I do beleive that
You forgot one small issue. Im a
Sadist. I am a part of a Alternate
Lifestyle becauseeeeeee I DO NOT
conform to whats concidered NORMAL
Ya know like being all Social and Mannerly
and such.

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RE: SHOULD BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED ACROSS A BDSM FORUM ... - 7/5/2004 8:11:19 PM   
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quote:

A poll gives choices
I dident ask for anyones
opinions here I posted a poll
with the choices to choose from.
and THAT is what I was seeking,
answers to the POLL.



quote:

I DO NOT
conform to whats concidered NORMAL
Ya know like being all Social and Mannerly
and such.


As these polls first came to the board over 6 weeks ago, and even with your continuing to bump them up, the majority of the answers seem to be other than the given choices, I decided to lock them. Polls should be given a specific amount of time to get results, not continual bump ups with the same people responding over and over.

If anyone wishes to have an answer to any of the 3 polls and has not voted, please write me on the collarme.com side at ModeratorFour and I will add your answer for Dread to add to her calculations.

Mod4

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RE: SHOULD BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED ACROSS A BDSM FORUM ... - 7/8/2004 7:51:40 PM   
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how would YOU inforce it? Whip me? Go ahead..........make my day ;)

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RE: SHOULD BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED ACROSS A BDSM FORUM ... - 7/8/2004 7:55:17 PM   
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How would

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RE: SHOULD BDSM ROLES BE RESPECTED ACROSS A BDSM FORUM ... - 7/8/2004 9:05:13 PM   
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It has been stated I have way too much time on my hands.

Not sure where this is since I work 7 days a week and try to dance 3 nights a week, but ok.

http://www.fanta.dk/news.asp?nid=30AEE147-F47A-4580-BBB1-AC77AB307FED

Amazing what one finds online.

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