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"Financial Domination" - 3/17/2007 12:23:53 AM

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I was wondering what others thoughts were on this.
when ever i hear someone talk about this, it makes me wonder where theyre prioritys lie, you know? same thing with the "gifts."

im not experienced with anyone who was into it, so i may be wrong, so i ask.
any thoughts?

RE: "Financial Domination" - 3/17/2007 12:30:30 AM

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My thoughts are that this is not a form of domination that you want to start out a relationship with. If someone is proposing it, especially in an online only situation, I would run for the hills.

Conversely if it is but an element of a relationship that is real time and solid it can work for people. There is an element of "financial domination" between me and my Master. My paycheck is direct deposited into an account that he controls (mind you my name is actually on the account, but he decides how the money is spent). If I need money from this account or need money for something other than groceries and gasoline, I am required to ask him for it. The bigger the request, the more likely that I will have to beg for it.

I once crawled to him at a crowded BDSM conference to ask for the money to buy a cat that I wanted to buy so that I could use it on my boy.

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RE: "Financial Domination" - 3/17/2007 9:20:50 AM

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Financial domination is a means to control. It seems to be very much a Fem Dom/male sub kink. It's like the movie line, "He who has the money has the power." Done responsibly, it does not make the submissive go broke and both the Dom and the sub are fulfilled by the exchange and fufillment of a mutual kink.

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RE: "Financial Domination" - 3/17/2007 9:53:27 AM

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lol, Any Domme wanting to control my finances must be into micro management ;)

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RE: "Financial Domination" - 3/17/2007 3:31:26 PM

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There have been a lot of good points already. It seems to be something you hear about online alot, but not sos much something you see in real life. Almost always a Fem Dom/male sub thing, generally not a form of domination that you want to start out a relationship with. But your right, it's all about where prioritys lie. Sometimes thats not to easy to figure out. If it's part of several other areas of control, then my guess is she's into micro management, which is usually the defining point between a submissive and a slave.

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RE: "Financial Domination" - 3/17/2007 7:05:02 PM

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heh heh, nice fergus.

but, yeah, i was just making the comment and the question based on what ive seen on this site alot.
I mean, to advertise that you like "finantial dom." seems a little shady to me. while i may be totally wrong, it just seem... yeah, shady, like lookin for a sucker.
im not in a such situation, i just noticed it recently....

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RE: "Financial Domination" - 3/18/2007 6:12:19 AM

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I get contacted by subs who want financial domination. What it is about is someone who feels that having no control over their financies is the ultimate in giving up control. Just as others might see the ultimate in giving up control of orgasms/masturbation.

I do not advertise that I'm interested in financial domination. I am open to it with those who are honest. I have a slave who sends cash each week, and if I so demand, he sends more than he originally budgeted and does without "fun money" for the week. He also has sent me his credit card, and there is a card in my name on the same credit card account. In return for the amount of control this gives, and the amount of trust this entails, I notify him very soon after I use the CC, I do not make major purchases on the card without speaking to him first, and when he tells me how much money he has each week, I make sure that the card is paid off in short order "Send X to the CC and Y to me."

Sir doesn't require me to give him cash or purchase gifts. He does require me to put a certain amount in savings, and tells me when I am responsible for an expense (I paid our way into a party last night). Since he pays for the lion's share of things, and doesn't require me to spend my own money very often (he makes more than I do), I trust him to continue doing this, and would trust him if he said "Go make this semi-large purchase." When I move in with him, he will have a great deal of control over my finances, although I will still manage how much goes into savings for my child and how much goes to pay my parents each month. He has the right to say "don't make that purchase" or "wait until next month for that" as well. But for me, the control of my finances isn't financial domination so much. It's just a natural outgrowth of our relationship and the control I give to him, and the trust that I have of him. It wasn't ever a "goal" in our relationship; it just is.

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RE: "Financial Domination" - 3/18/2007 10:45:48 AM

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I can definitly see the control part... but from what you said, it seems you have to be very carefull with it. when i was reading your discription, i had the "faud" alert ringing in my head, haha.

i can see, though,the draw of it.

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RE: "Financial Domination" - 3/18/2007 12:10:57 PM

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Just like any element of control, financial domination is something that can start out mild and grow.

At first, I would tell my slave 'Valentine's Day is coming up, I expect you to save up and buy me something' and I would send him a wishlist. For a few years, our relationship did not involve financial domination - it involved sissification and humiliation, anal training and a few other things. When he felt that he could trust me, he requested financial domination as well.

I do not control all of his finances - he has given me control over certain things and that is where things are. He gives up more control as he feels more trust. When he feels cautious, he sets limits. It is because I respect his limits that he is able to trust and give up more control.

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RE: "Financial Domination" - 3/21/2007 8:19:34 AM

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My first thought is that it's pretty sweet if you can get it. I can think of all kinds of ways to spend some extra money.

But, I'm not sure I'd really like it. I am not the best money manager. I've had so little at times that when I do have some I tend to splurge on things I've wanted for awhile. Still, it would be fun to test drive that option. :)

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RE: "Financial Domination" - 3/21/2007 8:52:11 AM

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You are correct,if they are just into financial domination then it seem to be on the shady side if they offer you nothing else then taking your money...bounty

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RE: "Financial Domination" - 3/21/2007 8:57:02 AM

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My thought, for what it is worth, on this matter is that I want to develop a long term/permanent relationship with somone. If I bankrupt them or rape them financially, then I just have to start training over. Besides, I'm not that good at financial management and I'd much prefer someone who is good at it so we can live comfortably. I really don't want to work for the rest of my life. And if he is able to manage our resources so we can retire comfortably, then I think that is a job well-done.

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RE: "Financial Domination" - 3/22/2007 9:52:50 PM

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First, financial domination can definitely be a part of a long term relationship. Second, financial domination does NOT have to involve financial rape or bankruptcy - any more than consensual sadism has to involve blood or hospital visits.

Thoughts on financial domination:
1) It lets the Domme have fun money, without guilt, while allowing her to pay all her bills and put money into her savings.
2) The Domme can choose to put 10% (or whatever percent makes you happy) into savings and use THOSE funds to buy gifts for the sub, or toys for their play.
3) The Domme can order the sub (a live in committed relationship) to put X amount or Y percent into savings, or investments, or what have you before forking over the rest to her.

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RE: "Financial Domination" - 3/23/2007 6:33:41 PM

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Im a switch. Ive had situations where a sub has wanted to give money. I instructed her to save 2000 and let me know when it was available. When it was we put it in in a 6 month cd to earn interest. I never saw it, it wasnt mine and the best thing I could do for her to honor her desires was to help her forward. As a sub I was asked for tribute. I asked the Domme why my heart wasnt enough. She wanted money. I told her oral sex was 7 dollars by the airport from a crack ho and I requested that she leave my site or took a swing at me so I could legally bust her frikkin jaw in self defense. Prostitution is illeagle, but I have more compassion and understanding for common crack hos than I do for money grubbin bottom feeding pro domme scum bag pieces of parasitic crap garbage bitches. I seriously feel violence twords these people and I cheer when I hear of scene gone askew and they end up getting hurt permanantly. If they want to dominate your finances then they dont value your heart and your submission. Its that simple. They are the sickest and the lowest of our breed.

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RE: "Financial Domination" - 3/29/2007 3:18:57 PM

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Buying someone underwear, a nightie, a bunch of flowers, etc are all fine. Wanting money is never ok. If it's a sub wants one to control his/her money, it's creepy, but I think doms have a responsibility not to take advantage, otherwise it cheapens the whole experience. Eeeeew.

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RE: "Financial Domination" - 4/4/2007 8:11:56 PM

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to each his/her own. Some things are not compatible with me. doesn't make them wrong, just not for me.

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RE: "Financial Domination" - 4/15/2007 10:49:37 AM

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Very on target as I do finacial domination as well i't dosent even have to be as deep as you descirbe either thats the fun of it.

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RE: "Financial Domination" - 4/15/2007 12:39:34 PM

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I liked Teach me tonights part about her name still being on the account where her paycheck is going

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RE: "Financial Domination" - 4/15/2007 2:00:04 PM

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There is also the other situation where finial domination is some how suppose to weed out those who are not serious about domination. Not sure I go with that thought, but I have seen a couple of web sites where theyexpect you to first give out your finances including monthly income, and how much you plan to spend on them before you even talk to them.I mean really,,I am not buying a house.But if you advertise your message to enough people, somebody will become finially dominated by them

One Mistress who is on here , expects the slaves money in her control , from her name on the bank accounts, and insurance and allowance for the slave, to actually having your pink slip for your car so if it does not work out , it will be over on her terms , never the slaves. Her search is still continuing ....

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RE: "Financial Domination" - 4/15/2007 2:28:03 PM

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If it pisses you off, then don't pay.

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