LadyEllen
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Joined: 6/30/2006 From: Stourport-England Status: offline
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Crikey. Well, I got married and I have two kids, and I changed gender. It just happened, and its difficult to explain - its not that I wasnt a willing participant, but more like I wasnt really there - it was someone else and I was watching from the sidelines. I dont regret any of it, apart from the hurt I eventually caused to my best friend in this world. So, I'm homewrecking scum right? Well, maybe if you think that way. But I'm pretty sure its better for my ex and my kids that daddy is a girl now, and still providing all the financial and emotional support they need, than for daddy to have killed himself five years ago. What do you reckon? If I'd been selfish about it, I'd have killed myself you know? After all, it was me suffering and me to suffer more, whether I stayed the same or changed as I saw it back then. As it was and is, I've been incredibly lucky though. It isnt so for many. Children are of course at the heart of the anguish over a parent changing gender - it did indeed worry me a lot, how it would affect my kids, and it still does. But here's the thing - they seem to take their lead from others on matters like this, and with my family and my ex being accepting, so are they. They are growing up in a strange situation of course, but they do have two parents, which is more than many of their peers can say. The only concern now is over bullying from some possibly less enlightened kids who have gained their less than favourable outlook from unenlightened parents and family, but so far so good. I could ramble on and on about this, but my point is that it is all in how this stuff is handled, not the nature of the situation itself. In the Stanton case, it appears to have been badly handled by way of others' unwarranted intrusion and it is therefore to them we must look for any fault in this case. E
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