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NAKED! sighs~ - 4/5/2007 6:19:32 PM

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ok girlies, heres my deal.

My husband (who is overseas right now

) is actively trying to "come into" his own dominance... ok so basically he is just a newbie to the lifestyle *giggles* which really dosent matter becouse my question could be vanillas or lifestylers... Ive always had a "barrier" of being naked...completely...

... my husband tells me you know thats the end of this, he demands it (when he gets home of course) there will be no more "please baby cant i leave my shirt on" nasty-nasty sessions ... Im not un-attractive, or so I believe.. *hehe* but ive always been like this... i dont want to dissapoint him by going against his will and i agree with him, its ridiculous, here i am a married woman and cant even get naked with my husband!! nevertheless naked as his feet etc... How do you girls do it?!?! I know we all dont have perfect bodys but how do you get past the "i want to be completely pleasing thus meaning my body needs to be perfect before im naked" notion. How do you have the confidence to be naked and proud before Your Master/Hubby/Whoever! Need some help here yall! *grins counting on tips of lil fingers how many more days left before he comes home...1,2,3,4,5.....12 more days to get some help!! woot*

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RE: NAKED! sighs~ - 4/5/2007 6:36:11 PM

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I've always been shy to get naked in front of someone for the first time but never once they have seen me. I guess it's all about having confidence in yourself and the way you look. The only suggestion i can make is getting a full length mirror and just looking at yourself for a while, get to know your body, find what you like about it and such. Other than that i just don't know.

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RE: NAKED! sighs~ - 4/5/2007 6:36:47 PM

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The more you do it, the more natural it will feel. The more you are around other naked people, the more natural it will feel. Start walking around the house naked when you can NOW. By the time he gets home, it'll be more familiar.

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RE: NAKED! sighs~ - 4/5/2007 6:38:26 PM

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I find it rather simple. When I am focusing on Him, the rest just falls into the background.

Maybe just try to change your focus...instead of being self-conscious, be Him-conscious.

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RE: NAKED! sighs~ - 4/5/2007 6:39:43 PM

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ORIGINAL: XahleenaXkajiraX

ok girlies, heres my deal.

My husband (who is overseas right now ) is actively trying to "come into" his own dominance... ok so basically he is just a newbie to the lifestyle *giggles* which really dosent matter becouse my question could be vanillas or lifestylers... Ive always had a "barrier" of being naked...completely... ... my husband tells me you know thats the end of this, he demands it (when he gets home of course) there will be no more "please baby cant i leave my shirt on" nasty-nasty sessions ... Im not un-attractive, or so I believe.. *hehe* but ive always been like this... i dont want to dissapoint him by going against his will and i agree with him, its ridiculous, here i am a married woman and cant even get naked with my husband!! nevertheless naked as his feet etc... How do you girls do it?!?! I know we all dont have perfect bodys but how do you get past the "i want to be completely pleasing thus meaning my body needs to be perfect before im naked" notion. How do you have the confidence to be naked and proud before Your Master/Hubby/Whoever! Need some help here yall! *grins counting on tips of lil fingers how many more days left before he comes home...1,2,3,4,5.....12 more days to get some help!! woot*

Learn to get off on that feeling of humiliation.
Or just get comfortable in your own skin.

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RE: NAKED! sighs~ - 4/5/2007 6:47:09 PM

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The more you do it, the more natural it will feel. The more you are around other naked people, the more natural it will feel. Start walking around the house naked when you can NOW. By the time he gets home, it'll be more familiar.

Master Fire

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RE: NAKED! sighs~ - 4/5/2007 6:50:39 PM

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I don't have nearly a perfect body. But, after 3 years, naked to me is not much different than wearing clothes at the parties we go to. Men, and others in general, take a much kinder view of your body than you do. Just ignore those voices in your head. To a certain extent, this is part of becoming a good sub anyway - learning to subdue the voices in your head with reason and control. This ability will serve you well in other parts of your life. This is a good way to start a spiritual journey with your kink.

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RE: NAKED! sighs~ - 4/5/2007 6:59:51 PM

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I dunno, naked was always more comfy for me. My partner teases that body simply repels clothes as to how quickly I get naked whenever I get home.

Just strip as soon as you get in the door. Everything. Make it a ritual. Keep a robe near the door for just in case situations, but otherwise, just get it all off at once- like diving into a pool, and you'll get used to it.

One perspective is to stop being selfish and thinking it matters what you think about your body. You're the one who cares, but you aren't the one making the rules, so get over yourself. :)

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RE: NAKED! sighs~ - 4/5/2007 7:00:16 PM

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You get used to it. I honestly can not stand to be naked now. Yet when he requires it...... and i slightly balk he.. uh.. helps me along.. by having me completely and utterly expose myself. After awhile........

eh, you get used to it and you dont think about it.

Try and remind yourself - that HE finds you attractive.. that HE likes your body.. and that HE wants to see your body.... so your body is pleasing to him... (no matter what it is to you)

Reminds me of a joke - A husband and wife get married and every time they have sex she wears a hat. Her husband eventually asks her "why do you always wear a hat"? and the wife replied "My mother said never let a man see you completely naked"

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RE: NAKED! sighs~ - 4/5/2007 7:07:01 PM

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At my size I never thought I'd actually be required to be completely nekkid in front of the Dominants I know. I was wrong. It's still difficult for me but once I realized that it wasn't the body they were as interested in as the submission of *being* nekkid that they wanted, it got easier. Plus I have found a way to ignore my state of dress or undress most of the time. And they enjoy the blushes so I know I'm pleasing them, which helps.

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RE: NAKED! sighs~ - 4/5/2007 7:11:20 PM

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I also think that ultimately you have to wrap your mind around the notion that what matters more is -his- pleasure in your body as it is now, rather than your wanting to present a perfect body to him. None of us has a perfect body or ever will; I know I certainly don't

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Getting a mirror, getting used to looking at yourself, are also great ideas. Something that worked for me when I was first getting used to the "naked" notion (as I had problems with it too!) was to learn to "love" my body; literally! By this I don't mean physical love so much.... it sounds corny, but look in that mirror, take your hands, run them over your breasts and hips, stomach or whatever you are having trouble with, as though you -loved- the way it looked rather than wanted to cover it up.... practice actively enjoying it. It's hard at first, but it's what ultimately got me over the inhibition of wanting to be clothed all the time. Now, more often that not, I prefer to be nude.... it's more natural and I glory in the freedom, even though my body -is- less than perfect, seeing someone else's pleasure also makes me purr.

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RE: NAKED! sighs~ - 4/5/2007 7:24:39 PM

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This is a perect example of why God made alcohol. Drink until you "go for it". Geez, it IS your husband we are talking about , not a bar full of strangers.

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RE: NAKED! sighs~ - 4/5/2007 7:41:15 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: XahleenaXkajiraX

ok girlies, heres my deal.

My husband (who is overseas right now ) is actively trying to "come into" his own dominance... ok so basically he is just a newbie to the lifestyle *giggles* which really dosent matter becouse my question could be vanillas or lifestylers... Ive always had a "barrier" of being naked...completely... ... my husband tells me you know thats the end of this, he demands it (when he gets home of course) there will be no more "please baby cant i leave my shirt on" nasty-nasty sessions ... Im not un-attractive, or so I believe.. *hehe* but ive always been like this... i dont want to dissapoint him by going against his will and i agree with him, its ridiculous, here i am a married woman and cant even get naked with my husband!! nevertheless naked as his feet etc... How do you girls do it?!?! I know we all dont have perfect bodys but how do you get past the "i want to be completely pleasing thus meaning my body needs to be perfect before im naked" notion. How do you have the confidence to be naked and proud before Your Master/Hubby/Whoever! Need some help here yall! *grins counting on tips of lil fingers how many more days left before he comes home...1,2,3,4,5.....12 more days to get some help!! woot*

i was very nervous about being naked in front of my Dom. But every time we met, he took off one piece of clothing. For example, on the first time we actually played he took off my pants, second play was the shirt. And by the 3 play i was comfortable enough to always be naked around him. Now when i had my friend over to play i was extremely nervous about my body. Eventually the nerves settled down and i started to relax.

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RE: NAKED! sighs~ - 4/5/2007 9:00:18 PM

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This thread might help:

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RE: NAKED! sighs~ - 4/5/2007 9:49:47 PM

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ORIGINAL: XahleenaXkajiraX

ok girlies, heres my deal.

My husband (who is overseas right now ) is actively trying to "come into" his own dominance... ok so basically he is just a newbie to the lifestyle *giggles* which really dosent matter becouse my question could be vanillas or lifestylers... Ive always had a "barrier" of being naked...completely... ... my husband tells me you know thats the end of this, he demands it (when he gets home of course) there will be no more "please baby cant i leave my shirt on" nasty-nasty sessions ... Im not un-attractive, or so I believe.. *hehe* but ive always been like this... i dont want to dissapoint him by going against his will and i agree with him, its ridiculous, here i am a married woman and cant even get naked with my husband!! nevertheless naked as his feet etc... How do you girls do it?!?! I know we all dont have perfect bodys but how do you get past the "i want to be completely pleasing thus meaning my body needs to be perfect before im naked" notion. How do you have the confidence to be naked and proud before Your Master/Hubby/Whoever! Need some help here yall! *grins counting on tips of lil fingers how many more days left before he comes home...1,2,3,4,5.....12 more days to get some help!! woot*

I agree with the Master Fire - be naked now whenever you can. It will become more natural.

On an amusing side note - Valyraen has trouble getting me to keep my clothes on when we are in the house alone. What can I say... I like the feel of my own skin!

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RE: NAKED! sighs~ - 4/5/2007 11:01:21 PM

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I have always been comfy naked ever since I was little.

But if you have a problem with that I agree with everyone else it gets easier with time, as I had to get used to leaving my clothes on most of the time...lol...everything gets a little bit easier with everyday.

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RE: NAKED! sighs~ - 4/6/2007 1:56:53 AM

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My master likes to keep me naked, which i always liked but it was wierd when his friends came over. I got over it before long though and I really like it

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RE: NAKED! sighs~ - 4/6/2007 5:38:58 AM

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<snip>How do you girls do it?!?! I know we all dont have perfect bodys but how do you get past the "i want to be completely pleasing thus meaning my body needs to be perfect before im naked" notion. How do you have the confidence to be naked and proud before Your Master/Hubby/Whoever! Need some help here yall! *grins counting on tips of lil fingers how many more days left before he comes home...1,2,3,4,5.....12 more days to get some help!! woot*

by letting 'vanity' fly out the window, and seeing myself through their eyes.

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RE: NAKED! sighs~ - 4/6/2007 6:05:42 AM

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It's all about knowing that HE likes my less-than-perfect body, HE likes looking at it, HE is not appalled or disgusted or turned off, HE wants me this way.....

.....and MY thoughts and feelings don't enter into the equation, just as it should be for a submissive, right?

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RE: NAKED! sighs~ - 4/6/2007 7:20:25 AM

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thank you all for your amazing responses... You all are very very right

will try to just get into the state of mind! *runs and strips peeking to the mirror with a sly grin*

lindsey

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