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TigerNINTails -> RE: Punishment Suggestions (4/18/2007 11:13:51 PM)
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I think everyone's pretty much covered every viewpoint that I could state on suggesting a "punishment" or a "discipline" in regards to the behavioural problem stated, though really, I wouldn't even call it a behavioural problem.
For me, when I engage in "punishment" it's for something severe... Malicious intent, either verbal or physical, lying to others, or in some cases, oneself, stealing, or cheating, no matter at what.
These deserve my punishments. Disciplines, are indeed a kink, and a strong one for me. I'm a bit of a disciplinarian, and attempt to instill self-discipline (to avoid a need for punishment), through the use of daily discipline in my slaves and those that I train.
Sometimes, this discipline is just for fun, but in other situations, it can be used as corrective, though I don't consider it a "punishment". I wouldn't even consider ignoring the slave as a punishment, though for some it may work. My thought on this is that you're pushing the problem outside of awareness, not actively seeking to provide a solution.
Direct interaction, a solid showing of displeasure in the action and time and time again it has been proven that behaviour improves, as it instills in the slave a desire to improve to avoid disappointment.
I agree that if there is a continued issue with organizational skills, hyper activity resulting in absent mindedness or lack of attention span, a visit to a medical physician and a psychiatrist might be in order to determine the presence of ADD or ADHD...
But then again, perhaps repetitive slowing of ones actions intentionally could also overcome the "not thinking" portion of what had occured. We all suffer this from time to time. As a result, we tell ourselves (usually) to slow down and double check what we're doing.
But I've found calling attention to it, calling attention to my disappointment and a stern "I don't want "sorry", I want it fixed." usually works well enough. Though there can be other aspects involved as well.
Most of the time (the other day, while it upset me, and I became irritable) the keys became locked in my slaves 4-Runner. Ya know what though? Chit happens. Watch your step. The point is that I told her make another key, this was done, the key was placed where she would always have it, no matter whom else had her vehicles keys (she has two sons, and one of them locked them in the truck, he incidentally, does have ADHD), so there really isn't anything to do but take preventative measures.
That seems to be the situation here. Take all preventative measures... When it's time to call, the alarm goes off... Call immediately. Procrastination kills. When using his car, go through checklist before you get out of the car... ( check the windows are up, keys out of ignition, into the purse, then open the door, DOUBLE check that keys are in your purse, then lock the doors, get out, etc.)
I'm much more prone to seek solutions to problems, than to discipline or even punish over recurring issues.
Just my two cents. Peace.[:D]
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