Elorin
Posts: 970
Joined: 8/22/2004 From: San Antonio, TX Status: offline
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Switching neither annoys nor confuses me. It's who I am. I like to be zapped w/ the violet wand. I like to zap others w/ the violet wand. I like to be tied up with rope. I like to tie others up with rope. I like vanilla ice cream. (Breyers Vanilla Bean preferably) I like peppermint ice cream. I like bubblegum ice cream. It is easier to be a switch if you are poly because you KNOW that if you go to partner X, you can get dominated, and you KNOW if you go to partner Y, you can get to be the one in charge. But if you get with another switch, then the two of you decide what to do. If you both feel sub you may as well flip a coin to find out who gets to be the Top first, and then swap later. If you both feel Dom, do the same thing. If you are in complimentary moods, awesome. Life is confusing, ya just gotta think about it and work it out. If switching confuses you, take some time to look at yourself and figure out what causes your switch first, and then try to find a partner with that knowledge in hand. For me, there are certain activities I'm almost always game for (needles, fire, knives, rope) as a bottom. But I don't feel submissive off and on. My submission is only inspired by those for whom I have a great deal of respect. So submission isn't a mood, it's a response to a person. Dominance is my primary personality, but I only use it on those who have chosen to engage my dominance - those who have consented for me to dominate them. And I'm always game for LOTS of activities as a top. Hope some of that helped, somehow. ~Elorin
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