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Am i too old? - 4/14/2007 1:55:48 PM

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For the past few months, i have responded selectively to the profiles of dominant women with whom i thought there was the basis for a connection. Every letter has been unique and specific to that Domme, carefully drafted to avoid errors in spelling, grammar, punctuation, etc., and I have generally included a recent G-rated photo.

In every case, i have not even gotten the courtesy of a reply saying that she is not interested -- just silence. Due to the fine email system on collarme.com, i have been able to see whether the letter was opened and when; therefore, they have been read.

i am 60 years old, albeit i don't look it. i am neither a SAM nor unstable. Nonetheless, there must be something off about me, and i am wondering whether it is my age. And so, let me pose this question -- is F/m over when the m reaches 60?

Thank you.

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RE: Am i too old? - 4/23/2007 5:42:57 PM

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Hello my friend

I feel for you and have experienced the same treatment from the Dominant Woman community.

Unfortunately you may be correct to think that 60 years of age is beyond being useful.

Please keep on trying, as giving up is dying.

Regards from a fellow OLD? slave.

john

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RE: Am i too old? - 4/23/2007 6:02:26 PM

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i see some of this, i don't like it, but there is little you can do for those with fixed ideas and scant regard. take part in stuff, with the right attitude some good ones will find you. laughter gets more panties off than callow or needy.
i am 57 and feel like a 19 year old!!

if anyone has one spare, get in touch, i would like to come on her tits and send her to cook my breakfast.

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RE: Am i too old? - 5/1/2007 6:14:08 AM

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I am a FemDom that is 59yr and my slave is older then I am . we both enjoy ourlifestyle even tho we or I should say that I am new to it.
I think that age is just a figure of speech. my thought is that we get better with age.

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RE: Am i too old? - 5/1/2007 6:39:42 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: toylet

For the past few months, i have responded selectively to the profiles of dominant women with whom i thought there was the basis for a connection. Every letter has been unique and specific to that Domme, carefully drafted to avoid errors in spelling, grammar, punctuation, etc., and I have generally included a recent G-rated photo.

In every case, i have not even gotten the courtesy of a reply saying that she is not interested -- just silence. Due to the fine email system on collarme.com, i have been able to see whether the letter was opened and when; therefore, they have been read.

i am 60 years old, albeit i don't look it. i am neither a SAM nor unstable. Nonetheless, there must be something off about me, and i am wondering whether it is my age. And so, let me pose this question -- is F/m over when the m reaches 60?

Thank you.

I'm sorry you feel this way. But I think you fail to realize, like so many men on this site, that women, sub or domme, get loads and loads of mail everyday. It's just not possible to answer all the messages that arrive and I'm sure that is a huge reason for the lack of responses you get. I seriously don't think your age is as big of a factor as you speculate it to be. It probably is a factor but not as big as you think. Keep trying and I hope you'll find what you are looking for.

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RE: Am i too old? - 5/9/2007 6:46:35 AM

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welcome to CM.
Too old? Never! If you are breathing: You have value, knowledge, experience, stories, etc. Age makes you more interesting.

You asked why people are not responding to your nice emails so here's my 2cents:

#1 Your name. Reminds me of toilet. Not my cuppatea. Made me cringe.
#2Dommes get a tom of email when they first land at the site including scammers that just want to waste our time.

Hope things go well for you from here on out,

Irish

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RE: Am i too old? - 5/9/2007 8:38:35 AM

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Hello age is just a number and I dont think you are to old at all.

I am sure you will fnd someone

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RE: Am i too old? - 5/10/2007 8:07:44 AM

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your name turns me off immediately as does the word depraved in your profile. your age is not material.

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No. - 5/10/2007 2:10:32 PM

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I suspect the lack of responses has more to do with the female to male ratio and Domme to sub male ratio than your age.

Keep your chin up. Few things are as unappealing as desperation. I speak from experience on this. One final thought, if someone wants to discriminate against you based on your age, do you really want anything to do with them to begin with? Their loss.

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RE: Am i too old? - 5/10/2007 5:10:23 PM

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If i were a Domme, i'd read your profile and journal and immediately decide you were a "do me" sub/slave...just someone who wants to play at BDSM and only if it's done your way. There is nothing in your profile that makes me feel as if what the Domme wants is of any importance to you at all.

It would help a lot if you delete your journal entry. In it you state in what way you wish to be dominated and exactly how you want that domination to be done. Frankly, most Dommes aren't interested in a sub/slave who tops from the bottom. If you do not wish to delete it then you should allot equal space to what you have to offer to a Domme. Do you have any special skills that might help her with her daily life such as accounting, carpentry, computer, plumbing, etc. You also need to state what type of relationship you seek...such as LTR, play partners only, or casual one time meetings.

Remember....a submissive/slave submits to a Dominant. A Dominant does not submit to the fantasies of a submissive/slave.

< Message edited by peppermint -- 5/10/2007 5:12:28 PM >

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RE: Am i too old? - 5/11/2007 9:03:38 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: m0rgan

if you really think men and women are equal, name me 3 famous female composers!

Madona, Briney Spears, and .. Oh crap.. Yoko Ono?
Does Boy George count? He was kind of a woman..

(ducking for cover -- yes, I see your point)

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RE: Am i too old? - 5/11/2007 9:25:32 AM

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I wouldn't even look at your profile with a name that you have that holds no interest for Me.

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RE: Am i too old? - 5/11/2007 9:34:24 AM

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I agree with the other posters. Age may be something of a factor some of the time, but not the biggest factor. Your name and your profile aren't made to be very appealing, is what I think the biggest factor is. Luckily--unlike your age--these can easily be changed!

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RE: Am i too old? - 5/11/2007 9:42:47 AM

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Hello toylet"
you are not the only one who has these feelings, for i am a female slave, and have ask the same question but my is concering males masters, I do feel at times age in the eyes of dom or domme if you will is important and to reach a certain stage in life you become less desirable and to a point less usful sad but true,
but like me keep looking seeking for in a very good book it states seek and ye shall fine, knock and the will be open and ask and you will be answer.
take care and be safe
java

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RE: Am i too old? - 5/11/2007 9:43:33 AM

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your likes and your hates would not juve with my interests,but I have to agree with peperment,when I read your prodile journal it turned me off immediatly...

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RE: Am i too old? - 5/11/2007 9:50:57 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: toylet

For the past few months, i have responded selectively to the profiles of dominant women with whom i thought there was the basis for a connection. Every letter has been unique and specific to that Domme, carefully drafted to avoid errors in spelling, grammar, punctuation, etc., and I have generally included a recent G-rated photo.

In every case, i have not even gotten the courtesy of a reply saying that she is not interested -- just silence. Due to the fine email system on collarme.com, i have been able to see whether the letter was opened and when; therefore, they have been read.

i am 60 years old, albeit i don't look it. i am neither a SAM nor unstable. Nonetheless, there must be something off about me, and i am wondering whether it is my age. And so, let me pose this question -- is F/m over when the m reaches 60?

Thank you.

I always try to read a person's profile when they have a question like this. I've read yours, although it was a VERY difficult read due to the content. I'm a 50 year old pro domme (well preserved I'm told) and I have a personal submissive who's 60 years old. I did not consider his age when I chose him, we just clicked. At our age, we are still very active in BDSM activities. It's not your age IMO, but your profile that's holding you back. I almost became ill reading your journal and I'm guessing that the dommes you're writing to are having the same problem. Scat is not a popular fetish (I know, you don't consider it a fetish) and the way you describe it (in my mind) just reinforces why.
Mistress Scarlet

Edited to add that if I were to receive a message from a profile such as yours, I would consider it less cruel to ignore you than to come back with criticism.

< Message edited by MstrssScarlet -- 5/11/2007 9:54:41 AM >

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RE: Am i too old? - 5/12/2007 8:26:39 PM

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Hi.

Welcome to CollarMe.

your age isn't important so long as you can serve and please a Mistress. At the Academy the Mistresses train and own slaves of every age and race.

Maybe some Mistresses here at CollarMe have met too many older slaves that are set in their ways so if you really want to find a Mistress assure her that your only wish is to serve and please her and then live by those words.

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RE: Am i too old? - 5/12/2007 8:42:58 PM

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I have to agree with some of the other posters. I didn't even get to the age part when I read your profile. I couldn't even get through your journal. Honestly, if you sent me an email I'd have to reply with a "no, thank you" Then I would wonder why you sent it to me in the first place. Which brings me to my suggestion:

My suggestion is YOU need to start reading profiles, and only send to those that have in common what you are interested in. That way you don't waste your time or someone elses by sending to those that obviously have no interest in this. I have had plenty send me emails with totally different interests than mine, either because they were too lazy to read and just mass mailed and hoped for whoever would answer....or they were arrogant to think they were so special that I would just change my mind and do what they wanted. Not saying either of these are you...just speaking of my experiences.

Just my thoughts, hope it works out for you :>

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RE: Am i too old? - 5/13/2007 10:28:53 PM

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I take the same approach, where I respond selectively with unique and specfic responces and usually include a recent photo as well. I'm 28, and have been on this site off and on for probally 4 years. I too usually don't receive any responces, which is not only discouraging but rude. I've probably only found 20 that I felt some sort of reason to take the time and write to, out of those I think less that 25% take the time to send a simple responce.

So in short, I doubt it has to do with your age.... i think it has more to do with the online mentality

quote:

ORIGINAL: toylet

For the past few months, i have responded selectively to the profiles of dominant women with whom i thought there was the basis for a connection. Every letter has been unique and specific to that Domme, carefully drafted to avoid errors in spelling, grammar, punctuation, etc., and I have generally included a recent G-rated photo.

In every case, i have not even gotten the courtesy of a reply saying that she is not interested -- just silence. Due to the fine email system on collarme.com, i have been able to see whether the letter was opened and when; therefore, they have been read.

i am 60 years old, albeit i don't look it. i am neither a SAM nor unstable. Nonetheless, there must be something off about me, and i am wondering whether it is my age. And so, let me pose this question -- is F/m over when the m reaches 60?

Thank you.

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RE: Am i too old? - 5/13/2007 10:42:12 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: submgreenbay

I take the same approach, where I respond selectively with unique and specfic responces and usually include a recent photo as well. I'm 28, and have been on this site off and on for probally 4 years. I too usually don't receive any responces, which is not only discouraging but rude. I've probably only found 20 that I felt some sort of reason to take the time and write to, out of those I think less that 25% take the time to send a simple responce.

So in short, I doubt it has to do with your age.... i think it has more to do with the online mentality

quote:

ORIGINAL: toylet

For the past few months, i have responded selectively to the profiles of dominant women with whom i thought there was the basis for a connection. Every letter has been unique and specific to that Domme, carefully drafted to avoid errors in spelling, grammar, punctuation, etc., and I have generally included a recent G-rated photo.

In every case, i have not even gotten the courtesy of a reply saying that she is not interested -- just silence. Due to the fine email system on collarme.com, i have been able to see whether the letter was opened and when; therefore, they have been read.

i am 60 years old, albeit i don't look it. i am neither a SAM nor unstable. Nonetheless, there must be something off about me, and i am wondering whether it is my age. And so, let me pose this question -- is F/m over when the m reaches 60?

Thank you.

After reading this, I feel I need to clarify something I said. 99% of the messages sent to me are answered, even if the answer is no. HOWEVER, if the profile provokes a really bad response (such as this one did) and the only things I can think of are very negative, I will sometimes simply delete the message rather than offend the sender with my criticism.
Mistress Scarlet

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