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DiurnalVampire -> RE: How far would you go? (4/16/2007 6:25:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: juxmeeh Okay, follow up question for those that have moved far... did it work out? If not do you regret it? It has worked out so far. There is no gaurantee it will forever, but one can hope. And even if it doesnt I wont regret it. He was worth the trip, and he has made my life better. DV

Elorin -> RE: How far would you go? (4/16/2007 7:41:35 PM)
I have plenty of issues in my life, lots of debt, and buy round trip plane tickets to Alaska 3 times a year. I can't afford to fly to meet someone. I'm not willing to be alone when I meet someone for the first time, so even if I could afford to fly to meet someone, flying myself AND a friend seems a bit absurd. Even if every first meeting happened in San Antonio, my spare cash goes to the plane tickets to see my daughter 3 times a year (and if you haven't looked, plane tickets to Alaska are EXPENSIVE) and I wouldn't be able to buy tickets to reciprocate meeting them in their hometown. I'm not willing to force someone else to do all of the travel and meeting. I don't have a car. Therefore, LD relationships aren't practical for me. I don't have the resources to maintain the relationship. When it comes to relocation, apart from my financial resources being pretty much completely tied up, I actually like Texas. I have a long term relationship here, and I have a job here that I like that also has advancement potential. I don't WANT to move away. I was also burned, badly, by an experience in my past. I met a submissive, online. She and I were highly compatible (I thought). I had her as my submissive and released her when my schedule became hectic to the point that I could not give her enough attention. She had a housefire. Tragic, but it left her family all healthy and safe, and her with an insurance settlement. She said she wanted to move, and I suggested San Antonio because she knew at least on person here, and I had just finished the find a job shuffle myself and could point out good places to go. She moved here. We tried the RT D/s thing. It didn't work out. She became bitter, hostile, and unhappy with San Antonio and blamed the entire situation on me. Sometime like 2 years later she finally moved back to the hometown that had made her so miserable in the first place. The horrendous guilt, horrible "encounters" with other people in the lifestyle that she met and told ugly lies about me to, and just the entire hassle of someone doing this made me sour on the entire prospect of someone relocating to be with me. So now I just ask (rhetorically) - why won't people accept it when your profile says looking for someone local, and relocation is a hard limit? ~E

Mustardseed -> RE: How far would you go? (4/16/2007 8:09:39 PM)
I'm considering purchasing a condo on the other side of town because hy Daddy lives there and it could make his life easier. Having only lived in north Seattle (or slightly north of it), this would be a pretty major change for me.

mstrj69 -> RE: How far would you go? (4/16/2007 9:48:01 PM)
As someone who does accept local only as a hard limit and will not write anyone with that in their profile, I want to ask why don't more that want a geographic area limitation, include it in their profile ? I could not relocate do to my business being here however it gives me the income I could fly her here if we both wanted to meet and spend some time together. I could even fly to her initially if she wanted. Why do I not limit myself to someone who is local, I have tried but a lack of response or available subs leaves me with no choice but to look away. Hopefully I will find someone. Will have to wait and see what happens. Congratulations to all that have made it work, it took a lot of effort.

greeneyes1962 -> RE: How far would you go? (4/17/2007 12:20:21 AM)
The only reason my LDR with Master continues to work, is because we've both been working toward the goal of me moving much closer. A 6 hour flight is hard, and not something we can do very often. In the meantime, lots of talk about virtually everything, several times a day. July can't come soon enough[&:]

childoftheshadow -> RE: How far would you go? (4/17/2007 2:17:24 AM)
Having not read all the responces, I'm lazy this morning, my answer is a bloody long way. I went from Michigan to London, and I haven't looked back. Shadow

MissyRane -> RE: How far would you go? (4/17/2007 4:32:45 AM)
im not really looking to get into an overseas relatinoship but I'll be relocating...relatively soon so ya I'm open for suggestions[:D]

redsky -> RE: How far would you go? (4/17/2007 4:55:03 AM)
i had a three year relationship with a Dom from Kentucky USA (i live in the UK), He would spend hours on the net with me but only actually visited me once due to work & such, even though i go to KY about once a year W/we never actually got the time or space while i was there to spend together, it was hard work & in the end not satisfying enough on either part so it ended, i wouldnt 'travel' that distance again![sm=idea.gif]

BOUNTYHUNTER -> RE: How far would you go? (4/17/2007 5:03:54 AM)
NO distance is too far to go get the right piece of property that we seek..bounty

myobedience -> RE: How far would you go? (4/17/2007 7:23:01 AM)
ORIGINAL: juxmeeh I've gotten messages from people in Texas, Iowa, and even California. With as far as they are from me, I don't really understand why they would look so far away. I guess I was just wanting to ask the other subs/slaves out there, how far would you go for a Dom/Domme/Master/Mistress? With sooooomany older doms looking for younger girls, yes I truly believe it is a fantasy of middle age, and so many couples looking for a younger third... looking a million miles away, if there is a match, has a glimmer of hope. Right?

BeingChewsie -> RE: How far would you go? (4/17/2007 10:29:10 AM)
I re-located from Massachusetts to California to be with my owner. quote: ORIGINAL: juxmeeh I've gotten messages from people in Texas, Iowa, and even California. With as far as they are from me, I don't really understand why they would look so far away. I guess I was just wanting to ask the other subs/slaves out there, how far would you go for a Dom/Domme/Master/Mistress? crosses fingers hoping luckyalbatross has some links [:)] edited for typo hehe

cjenny -> RE: How far would you go? (4/17/2007 11:35:51 AM)
If/when I can get my house fixed up and sold I am moving wayyyy outta Michigan. No snow, no ice yay. I've chosen Austin Texas cuz it is very close to my dom and I have family in Dallas. This is a huge huge step for me and I have to admit I go thru a daily battle of doubting what I am doing and fearing a bad result. I am trying to see it as an adventure, something new and wonderful to try. If it doesn't work then well, it doesn't work. For those that have moved how long did you give things before you realised that you had made a mistake? Was the mistake in the other partner, location or something else? Did you have a backup plan if the relationship didn't go well? Oy I have a lot of questions heh. [:)] Thanks.

MissyRane -> RE: How far would you go? (4/17/2007 11:51:39 AM)
oh speaking of ice n snow..I couldn't live at a place that had no snow or ice it's too dear to me so I don't consider anyone from those places[:)]

SimplyMichael -> RE: How far would you go? (4/17/2007 5:34:11 PM)
Getting laid, BDSM play, or submission, all those things come easy to me locally. What is rare and something I crave is someone who makes my heart race, who makes me a bit unsure of myself, who makes me want to expand not just her horizons, but mine as well. THAT sort of connection is very very rare. For that, I would very much do anything, go anywhere, overcome whatever obstacle was in my way. Dramatic yes, but if you are as jaded and cynical as I am, to meet a woman who evokes those feelings you just have to say, "what the fuck" and just go for it. So, what the fuck, I am going for it.

BossyShoeBitch -> RE: How far would you go? (4/17/2007 6:26:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael Getting laid, BDSM play, or submission, all those things come easy to me locally. What is rare and something I crave is someone who makes my heart race, who makes me a bit unsure of myself, who makes me want to expand not just her horizons, but mine as well. THAT sort of connection is very very rare. For that, I would very much do anything, go anywhere, overcome whatever obstacle was in my way. Dramatic yes, but if you are as jaded and cynical as I am, to meet a woman who evokes those feelings you just have to say, "what the fuck" and just go for it. So, what the fuck, I am going for it. Michael, Just reading that made my heart race...

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