Mustardseed -> RE: Why are we so rare? (4/17/2007 9:00:23 PM)
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In my primary relationship, I'm Daddy's girl. Because I haven't felt comfortable with the amount of skill I have, I've been mainly bottoming and -- more recently -- submitting. However, I am switch. That not many people identify me as such is their issue: if they want to know badly enough, they can ask. I've raised a few eyebrows when I've co-topped or done some early scenes, because I'm moving towards a position where I can give that part of my personality some room to grow. I've been quite out as a switch. That's how I identify, for the better part of a year I was attending "Switch Meetings," and it's what my profiles say and my Daddy was quite aware of the fact. Indeed, the man primarily dates switches because he likes that a hint of pushback and that potential for an obedient henchperson for co-topping scenes. It's difficult to be active as a switch, though. It's hard to both bottom and top, or submit and dominate, at the same time. It's not that it's impossible -- hence the evil obedient hench-co-top -- but I don't think people quite recognize it as switching when they see it. *shrug*
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