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misspage -> Rudeness (4/16/2007 4:38:07 PM)
Someone please explain to me why it is when someone sees something they don't like or doesn't seem attractive to them why they can't just leave it alone? I mean when did parents stop teaching manners? I was always taught if you did not have anything nice to say, not to say anything at all. Do people get a thrill out of hurting other folks feelings?

Stranger1 -> RE: Rudeness (4/16/2007 4:39:06 PM)
Yes.

Fnordstrum -> RE: Rudeness (4/16/2007 4:42:26 PM)
Some people just like to be mean, unfortunately. ¤¤¤¤¤¤¤

HutchGarahl -> RE: Rudeness (4/16/2007 4:44:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: misspage Someone please explain to me why it is when someone sees something they don't like or doesn't seem attractive to them why they can't just leave it alone? I mean when did parents stop teaching manners? I was always taught if you did not have anything nice to say, not to say anything at all. Do people get a thrill out of hurting other folks feelings? Unfortunately yes.

windchymes -> RE: Rudeness (4/16/2007 4:46:40 PM)
I think "thrill" is a strong word...

cjenny -> RE: Rudeness (4/16/2007 4:46:43 PM)
I think that because folks cannot see who is on the other end of the keyboard they think it releases them from the normal civility. Since there are not consequences they continue to do it, then add in the 'mob mentality' and things become a nasty free for all. There are some shockingly rude and unkind people here but I'm willing to bet they don't act that way in person. At least I sure hope they don't act the same way. Oy I feel cynical tonight lol.

SweetDommes -> RE: Rudeness (4/16/2007 4:48:20 PM)
Sometimes, being on these boards reminds me a lot of high school ... where the 'popular' kids went out of their way to be nasty to the 'unpopular' kids. I have a feeling that some of the people who send nasty, random messages on CM and other sites are some of the 'unpopular' kids grown up and trying to be like the 'popular' kids from their past ....

Stranger1 -> RE: Rudeness (4/16/2007 4:48:30 PM)
I always remember that this venue is seen as entertainment. And don't take much said here personally.

Stranger1 -> RE: Rudeness (4/16/2007 4:49:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SweetDommes Sometimes, being on these boards reminds me a lot of high school ... where the 'popular' kids went out of their way to be nasty to the 'unpopular' kids. I have a feeling that some of the people who send nasty, random messages on CM and other sites are some of the 'unpopular' kids grown up and trying to be like the 'popular' kids from their past .... Sounds pretty much like the RL kink scene where I live.[&:]

KaramelGoddess -> RE: Rudeness (4/16/2007 4:51:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: misspage Someone please explain to me why it is when someone sees something they don't like or doesn't seem attractive to them why they can't just leave it alone? I mean when did parents stop teaching manners? I was always taught if you did not have anything nice to say, not to say anything at all. Do people get a thrill out of hurting other folks feelings? Some people feel empowered by being coarse, rude and inflammatory. I wouldn't take it personally. Only you know the real you. [;)]

Aileen68 -> RE: Rudeness (4/16/2007 4:52:04 PM)
I think it's as simple as the fact that some people are just assholes.

SweetDommes -> RE: Rudeness (4/16/2007 4:52:13 PM)
I only get that feeling when there are a large number of goreans in the group ... hell, I quit going to the local group because of goreans and how they acted towards Holly and myself. Before the goreans joined the group - we had no problems with the members. Now? shrugs I'd rather stay home.

ElizabethAnne -> RE: Rudeness (4/16/2007 4:54:32 PM)
Greetings, The anonynimity of on line allows some people to feel self important. They can say whatever they choose because they are not held accountable, as long as they stay within the confines of the TOS. I wish you well, Liz

Fnordstrum -> RE: Rudeness (4/16/2007 4:55:04 PM)
If you're talking about people being mean online, there's a relivant comic on that very topic.. however there are people in real life who are mean too, just probably fewer / not as often. ¤¤¤¤¤¤¤

Stranger1 -> RE: Rudeness (4/16/2007 4:55:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SweetDommes I only get that feeling when there are a large number of goreans in the group ... hell, I quit going to the local group because of goreans and how they acted towards Holly and myself. Before the goreans joined the group - we had no problems with the members. Now? shrugs I'd rather stay home. Laughs, my issues tended to be with getting negatively gossped about for refusing to 'share" my women with people in the scene. Which is why I tend to look rather askance at out of control hedonism-Gorean puffers don't bother me nearly as much.

KaramelGoddess -> RE: Rudeness (4/16/2007 4:58:44 PM)
Oh dear... they'll be along shortly...

SweetDommes -> RE: Rudeness (4/16/2007 5:06:54 PM)
They are welcome to - I'm speaking from my experiences over the last 6 years. Every time there has been a large number of goreans in a BDSM group that we've been members of, we have been treated as less than human by the goreans (both males and females). I will not appologise for my statements. I know that not all goreans are like that (as shown by a couple of the ones I've talked to briefly on these message boards), but all that I have met in r/l have been.

Quivver -> RE: Rudeness (4/16/2007 5:21:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: misspage Someone please explain to me why it is when someone sees something they don't like or doesn't seem attractive to them why they can't just leave it alone? I mean when did parents stop teaching manners? I was always taught if you did not have anything nice to say, not to say anything at all. Do people get a thrill out of hurting other folks feelings? In some instances Rude is a perspective formed from this flat media. case in point. I reply to mail 98% of the time. And I just responded to a note a minute or two ago. I was asked to view this person's profile and get back to them. So I did. Problem was I didnt find anything in it that peaked my interest, it was filled with toy's, machines and what have you, not much about the poster himself. So my reply was direct, not angry, not ugly. But I'm assuming it wont be well recieved.... If I had said it face to face I know the outcome could have been different.

misspage -> RE: Rudeness (4/16/2007 5:27:41 PM)
Where as i agree that text can be taken wrongly and face to face communication is the better means to do so... flat out mean remarks about someone is not something that's taken wrongly or not recived well it was what it was very mean spirited comments.

LadyIce -> RE: Rudeness (4/16/2007 5:42:44 PM)
Online is often the only way people with no real power in their real lives can make themselves feel better. Think about it, those that are successful, rich, and powerful would not spend a lot of time online putting strangers down. This is as good as it gets for some folks, so putting others down, makes them feel better about themselves, they are to be pitied.

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