ShadeDiva
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Joined: 3/31/2004 From: Sacramento, California Status: offline
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I concur with Stern completely. I get the same kinds of emails and IMs, daily. It's too much in a rush and it's a red flag to me. Basically you are verbally vomiting on someone. All that you said should be said over the course of time, like say a period of MONTHS - not in a single email, or 5 minutes of IMing. You CAN'T promise to serve me when you do not have the slightest concept of who I am as a person, a woman, or a dominant. You *won't* really get that by watching me on boards or mailing lists or chat rooms - you'll get glimmers, yes, but that's not the same as really knowing someone. Anyone that would offer to serve a complete stranger automatically will make themselves not someone I am interested in. I want a friend, and a complete mind, one that can keep up with me, sometimes go faster than mine, one that has wit, and humor, intelligence, spark, a desire to learn, live, gro, etc. NONE of this can be shown or communicated to me in words or in a short course of time. I don't call someone "friend" until I've known them at least 8 months or more. I certainly couldn't consider someone a submissive in less time than I'd call them friend, nor would I want to. It comes off as being desperate self serving, and not really giving a damn WHO you serve at all, and frankly I like feeling I'm special - knowing that someone spewed shit at me in a single email that he has most likely sent to numerous others does NOT make me feel that he feels I am special or someone that he truly connects with, but rather that he feels I could *work* in his prewritten script as the leading lady role that he's going around trying to cast. Thats how it comes across to me, so I dismiss them as being incompatible right from the start. So maybe that's in part what they got from that as well?
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