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RE: Can I find a master who doesnt expect sex? - 4/20/2007 9:25:24 PM

Leigha23

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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

If you've got a problem with the fact that a lot of people like sex a lot (and more then getting their laundry done for free), you've got bigger social problems then just having trouble finding a master.

Excuse me Miss know it all, but who the hell are you to judge me like that? You dont even know me.

I have social problems? ??? You have judgmental problems.

I have trouble finding a master???? I just started, idiot.

I have a problem with people enjoying sex???? Where the hell did you pull that one from, you freak.

Your so off base in your assesment it's sad.
My god your so unappealing.

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RE: Can I find a master who doesnt expect sex? - 4/20/2007 9:48:27 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Leigha23

quote:

ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

If you've got a problem with the fact that a lot of people like sex a lot (and more then getting their laundry done for free), you've got bigger social problems then just having trouble finding a master.

Excuse me Miss know it all, but who the hell are you to judge me like that? You dont even know me.

I have social problems? ??? You have judgmental problems.

I have trouble finding a master???? I just started, idiot.

I have a problem with people enjoying sex???? Where the hell did you pull that one from, you freak.

Your so off base in your assesment it's sad.
My god your so unappealing.

Hardly a know it all, simply stating fact. You want a relationship without sex ever you are going to have a hard time finding one. However, if I'm off base, please correct it by providing us more information. Are you looking for a relationship where you are waiting for a particular thing (like marriage, other level of commitment) before sex? Or do you just want to never have sex expected of you?

Poor thing. Something I said must have stung deep. You've judging those of us who do like sex and do require it of our relationships, implying that those doms who do want sex are something less. Shoe seems to hurt when it's on the other foot. If you don't want sex, that's perfectly fine. But realize that those who do are hardly less dominant. Yes, you will be able to find one. But you are going to have work harder. Fem subs are hardly a rarity and you will need to stand out and provide something that the rest of us don't.

By the way, resorting to cheap insults like "My god your so unappealing" don't make you look particularly good. Learn to take a joke.

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RE: Can I find a master who doesnt expect sex? - 4/20/2007 9:52:11 PM

Leigha23

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quote:

ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

quote:

ORIGINAL: Leigha23

quote:

ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

If you've got a problem with the fact that a lot of people like sex a lot (and more then getting their laundry done for free), you've got bigger social problems then just having trouble finding a master.

Excuse me Miss know it all, but who the hell are you to judge me like that? You dont even know me.

I have social problems? ??? You have judgmental problems.

I have trouble finding a master???? I just started, idiot.

I have a problem with people enjoying sex???? Where the hell did you pull that one from, you freak.

Your so off base in your assesment it's sad.
My god your so unappealing.

Hardly a know it all, simply stating fact. You want a relationship without sex ever you are going to have a hard time finding one. However, if I'm off base, please correct it by providing us more information. Are you looking for a relationship where you are waiting for a particular thing (like marriage, other level of commitment) before sex? Or do you just want to never have sex expected of you?

Poor thing. Something I said must have stung deep. You've judging those of us who do like sex and do require it of our relationships, implying that those doms who do want sex are something less. Shoe seems to hurt when it's on the other foot. If you don't want sex, that's perfectly fine. But realize that those who do are hardly less dominant. Yes, you will be able to find one. But you are going to have work harder. Fem subs are hardly a rarity and you will need to stand out and provide something that the rest of us don't.

By the way, resorting to cheap insults like "My god your so unappealing" don't make you look particularly good. Learn to take a joke.

Personally when it comes to someone like you, I couldnt care less if I tried as to what you think. Your a complete and utter joke. you have the nastiest outlook/viewpoint I ever seen. Guranteed your the type that walks around pointing out preceived faults about people. Gwad help your narrow self-righteous mind and all the ones that love you.

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RE: Can I find a master who doesnt expect sex? - 4/20/2007 9:59:48 PM

AquaticSub

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ORIGINAL: Leigha23

Personally when it comes to someone like you, I couldnt care less if I tried as to what you think. Your a complete and utter joke. you have the nastiest outlook/viewpoint I ever seen. Guranteed your the type that walks around pointing out preceived faults about people. Gwad help your narrow self-righteous mind and all the ones that love you.

Aww... Jessica is that you? *Grins* I notice you've failed to provide any of the details that would show me to be actually wrong and resorted to more pathetic insults.

Hon, you don't even have a clue. By the way, are you going to insist that your dom be monogamous? Because it seems to me that the last person who should be stopping their dom from getting laid is their sub.

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RE: Can I find a master who doesnt expect sex? - 4/20/2007 9:59:58 PM

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May I ask why you're looking for a Dom who doesn't require sex?

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RE: Can I find a master who doesnt expect sex? - 4/20/2007 10:08:39 PM

Leigha23

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quote:

ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

quote:

ORIGINAL: Leigha23

Personally when it comes to someone like you, I couldnt care less if I tried as to what you think. Your a complete and utter joke. you have the nastiest outlook/viewpoint I ever seen. Guranteed your the type that walks around pointing out preceived faults about people. Gwad help your narrow self-righteous mind and all the ones that love you.

Aww... Jessica is that you? *Grins* I notice you've failed to provide any of the details that would show me to be actually wrong and resorted to more pathetic insults.

Hon, you don't even have a clue. By the way, are you going to insist that your dom be monogamous? Because it seems to me that the last person who should be stopping their dom from getting laid is their sub.

dont you have some cage to crawl in honey?

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RE: Can I find a master who doesnt expect sex? - 4/20/2007 10:10:45 PM

Leigha23

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ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl

May I ask why you're looking for a Dom who doesn't require sex?

the dom can require whatever he wants but when it comes to me, I am interested in the power exchange minus sexual relations.

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RE: Can I find a master who doesnt expect sex? - 4/20/2007 10:13:19 PM

defiantbadgirl

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Have you considered finding a kinky religious guy? Some of them are less likely to pressure women for sex.

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RE: Can I find a master who doesnt expect sex? - 4/20/2007 10:19:12 PM

available4u2try

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Let me just make sure i hae this right. you want a Master who is notgoing to force you into having sex right away? Correct?
If so, first you should meet the Master, and if you T/two seem to "click" you control what goes on until you feel safe. That was the advice given to me by a very exp Master. Hope this helps

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RE: Can I find a master who doesnt expect sex? - 4/20/2007 10:21:11 PM

Leigha23

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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

quote:

ORIGINAL: Leigha23

Personally when it comes to someone like you, I couldnt care less if I tried as to what you think. Your a complete and utter joke. you have the nastiest outlook/viewpoint I ever seen. Guranteed your the type that walks around pointing out preceived faults about people. Gwad help your narrow self-righteous mind and all the ones that love you.

By the way, are you going to insist that your dom be monogamous? Because it seems to me that the last person who should be stopping their dom from getting laid is their sub.

who the hell mentioned anything about insisting the dom do anything? did I say a thing about monogamy? there you go again pulling shit out of the air. are you for real??? your way of thinking is so misguided, dellusional its really quite sad. you persist to prejudge everything and everyone but yourself. Just go and take a look in the mirror before you start judging or putting words into peoples mouth.
here it is again, wierdo:

Excuse me Miss know it all, but who the hell are you to judge me like that? You dont even know me.

I have social problems? ??? You have judgmental problems.

I have trouble finding a master???? I just started, idiot.

I have a problem with people enjoying sex???? Where the hell did you pull that one from, you freak.

Your so off base in your assesment it's sad.
My god your so unappealing.

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RE: Can I find a master who doesnt expect sex? - 4/20/2007 10:22:13 PM

Leigha23

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Thanks for your advise available.

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RE: Can I find a master who doesnt expect sex? - 4/20/2007 10:24:15 PM

available4u2try

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don't mention it. i wish you all th luck

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RE: Can I find a master who doesnt expect sex? - 4/20/2007 11:03:47 PM

rascallymisty

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Leigha I wish you luck in that in which you seek, it is possible to find a Master who does not wish sex, but they are hard to find. Also a small bit of advice if you do not want Mod 11 warning or pulling your thread, careful with the insults. Just my 2 cents, but if you do not like what one has said, ignore it. ~smiles~ Just respond to those who's advice has helped.

~ misty ~

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RE: Can I find a master who doesnt expect sex? - 4/20/2007 11:46:41 PM

somethndif

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So, our M/s relationships are not about sex, but surrendering to the owner and taking responsibility for your slave.

Bullshit. What pompous, arrogant bullshit. Who appointed you as the authority? Perhaps YOUR M/s relationships are not about sex, but mine, and most that I see are sexual, very sexual. And if yours are not, you have my sympathy, because you don't know what you are missing.

Dan

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RE: Can I find a master who doesnt expect sex? - 4/21/2007 12:01:54 AM

somethndif

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ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl

I'm in my 30's and haven't had sex for over a year by choice. Sure I crave and miss sex, but until I meet a guy that's looking for more than a casual play partner, I'll continue to take care of my own orgasms. Nobody has asked the OP if she takes care of her own sexual needs. Her reason for waiting could be the same as mine.

Maybe its the difference between men and women, but I can't imagine or conceive of going a year without fucking a woman in the flesh. Masturbation, while a good stop-gap, is never as satisfying as real, flesh on flesh, hot, wet, heart-pounding, fucking.

I like the service things, too, but I would rather fuck my submissive than watch her cook dinner, or do the dishes. But, hell, maybe I'm crazy!!

Dan

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RE: Can I find a master who doesnt expect sex? - 4/21/2007 12:32:17 AM

somethndif

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ORIGINAL: honeypanties

She didn't say she didn't enjoy sex. -- Just that she wasn't looking for sex to be a "guaranteed" part of play/her bdsm stuff.

She also didn't say she would NEVER have sex with a Dom, just that she wanted to find one that didn't assume it or demand it.

She also did not define "sex" although most of us assumed it ment intercourse, she may be willing to do some "sexual" things and not others.

OK, I really don't get this. A woman says she is submissive, but she is going to control the sexual aspect of the relationship? she is going to tell me what sexual things she is willing to do, and others she is not willing to do?

If that is what you are saying, I will say that does not work for me. And that is because she is in control, not her partner.

With a new submissive, I tell her that to make her mine, I am going to fuck and cum in her mouth, her cunt and her ass. I will control her sexually. I want to control her sexuality. Her cunt and her orgasms are mine. There is much more that I will do to her, but the sexual aspect is important to me and intertwined with everything else. Bottom line, if the relationship is not sexual, intensely sexual, I am not interested.

Dan

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RE: Can I find a master who doesnt expect sex? - 4/21/2007 2:39:36 AM

AquaticSub

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ORIGINAL: Leigha23

quote:

ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

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ORIGINAL: Leigha23

Personally when it comes to someone like you, I couldnt care less if I tried as to what you think. Your a complete and utter joke. you have the nastiest outlook/viewpoint I ever seen.   Guranteed your the type that walks around pointing out preceived faults about people.  Gwad help your narrow self-righteous mind and all the ones that love you.

By the way, are you going to insist that your dom be monogamous? Because it seems to me that the last person who should be stopping their dom from getting laid is their sub.

who the hell mentioned anything about insisting the dom do anything? did I say a thing about monogamy? there you go again pulling shit out of the air. are you for real??? your way of thinking is so misguided, dellusional its really quite sad. you persist to prejudge everything and everyone but yourself. Just go and take a look in the mirror before you start judging or putting words into peoples mouth.
here it is again, wierdo:

Excuse me Miss know it all, but who the hell are you to judge me like that? You dont even know me.

I have social problems? ??? You have judgmental problems.

I have trouble finding a master???? I just started, idiot.

I have a problem with people enjoying sex???? Where the hell did you pull that one from, you freak.

Your so off base in your assesment it's sad.
My god your so unappealing.

No you didn't say a thing about it. That's why I asked. It's called a question and when you post on message boards you get asked them. A submissive expecting monogamy from her dom when she wasn't willing to have sex would be interesting. However you didn't say either way in your OP. Like trying to find out if you would ever be engaging in sex, it's attempting clarification of the situation in attempt to offer the best advice for you.

However, since you seem to never want to have sex but don't want to put your dom in chasity, the only advice one can give you to be much more patient. What you seek will be hard to find and you must find a way to deal with that. Like I said, sex is a lot of fun and there is a good percentage of us who expect it from our BDSM relationships. Finding a non-sexual dominant will take time and you probably need to look in more places then just here. Check out your local groups. Making friends with the dominants there could be a huge boon for you as they may be able to point you in the right direction. I wish you the best of luck.

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It was ok for him to beat me but then he tried to cuddle me! - Me

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RE: Can I find a master who doesnt expect sex? - 4/21/2007 2:43:24 AM

AquaticSub

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ORIGINAL: somethndif

quote:

ORIGINAL: honeypanties

She didn't say she didn't enjoy sex. -- Just that she wasn't looking for sex to be a "guaranteed" part of play/her bdsm stuff.

She also didn't say she would NEVER have sex with a Dom, just that she wanted to find one that didn't assume it or demand it.

She also did not define "sex" although most of us assumed it ment intercourse, she may be willing to do some "sexual" things and not others.

OK, I really don't get this. A woman says she is submissive, but she is going to control the sexual aspect of the relationship? she is going to tell me what sexual things she is willing to do, and others she is not willing to do?

If that is what you are saying, I will say that does not work for me. And that is because she is in control, not her partner.

With a new submissive, I tell her that to make her mine, I am going to fuck and cum in her mouth, her cunt and her ass. I will control her sexually. I want to control her sexuality. Her cunt and her orgasms are mine. There is much more that I will do to her, but the sexual aspect is important to me and intertwined with everything else. Bottom line, if the relationship is not sexual, intensely sexual, I am not interested.

Dan

Eh... subs do place limits. We've got our hard limits, the things we won't let a dom do. Some of those end up getting pushed in time, some don't. I can understand, academically, serving without sex.

That reminds me: OP - you might want to see about doing housework for a monogamous couple in your area. I know of one non-BDSM couple who get their house cleaned once a week by a male sub. Every now and again, the female pulls him over her lap and gives him a quick spanking, but that's because he wants.

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Without my dominance you cannot submit. Without your submission I cannot dominate. You are my equal in this, though our roles are different.-Val

It was ok for him to beat me but then he tried to cuddle me! - Me

Member:Clan of the Scarlet O'Hair

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RE: Can I find a master who doesnt expect sex? - 4/21/2007 2:46:02 AM

justplainjava

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Greetings and good luck in your search,
for i have been asking the same question.
take care and be safe
java

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RE: Can I find a master who doesnt expect sex? - 4/21/2007 2:46:06 AM

MissDiscipline

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If one of my subs were to bring up sex with ME- they would find themselves overwhelmed with the repeated loves taps of my riding crop to the tip of their undeserving submale cock.

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