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Friendships with Mistresses? - 5/1/2007 12:56:05 PM

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Hello Masters,

Respectfully I have made a similar post in the Mistress section, but being I want to also make friends amoung Master's I will share that I am new and not at all familar with community circles concerning BDSM so my time on this site has been soley for my education and learning overall manners I need to know. So as my peers I wish to seek friendship from my fellow Doms.

Also as a question to get things rolling, how many of you have Mistress friends, and your feelings on doms as friends?

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RE: Friendships with Mistresses? - 5/1/2007 1:38:06 PM

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Well hello and welcome to the forums. Make yourself comfortable, most of us don't bite... much... okay, we do but we've had our shots.

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ORIGINAL: Action

Also as a question to get things rolling, how many of you have Mistress friends, and your feelings on dominates as friends?

I've know several dominant women over the years, they've often given me some different perspectives and some turned out to be really good friends. Had crushes on two of them. But for the most part its not their plumbing that creates or prevents a friendship, but rather their personality. I've known some who were so anti men that you just couldn't get along with them, one who was simply too angry all the time. Others where really great people and one thought "I rocked!"

Another shared some insights with me on training that I still use today.

So for me at least, still boils down to that basic rule... best way to have a friend is to be one.

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RE: Friendships with Mistresses? - 5/1/2007 1:43:09 PM

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Well hello and welcome to the forums. Make yourself comfortable, most of us don't bite... much... okay, we do but we've had our shots.

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ORIGINAL: Action

Also as a question to get things rolling, how many of you have Mistress friends, and your feelings on dominates as friends?

I've know several dominant women over the years, they've often given me some different perspectives and some turned out to be really good friends. Had crushes on two of them. But for the most part its not their plumbing that creates or prevents a friendship, but rather their personality. I've known some who were so anti men that you just couldn't get along with them, one who was simply too angry all the time. Others where really great people and one thought "I rocked!" Another shared some insights with me on training that I still use today.

So for me at least, still boils down to that basic rule... best way to have a friend is to be one.

Ahhh the Golden Rule, something I truely make part of my life. I do comend you and thank you for answering, I don't disbelieve in Master Mistress friendships, I guess Im just curious about meeting more Doms in general. Im making much bigger steps in learning from you all from this site, as its been the place I found my first serious slave and am enjoying more from the lovely people I've incountered so far.

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RE: Friendships with Mistresses? - 5/1/2007 4:05:18 PM

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Misstress as a friend? Why would I do that, us Domlys are only supposed to talk to young subbie girls doncha know

*Snarf*

Well thats the image 'some' seem to put across. Personaly unless I am looking at a potential relationship and therefore focusing on female slave (For TPE) or femsub for lower level dynamics then I am only looking at socialising with ya... and if it is a social contact then all that counts is then I find you interesting, what gender or side of the dynamic you are on doesn't matter one jot.

My best friend... well she doesn't count does she?!?!? I've known that old bat for years heheh it was only early LAST year we actualy realised one of the reasons we both had much the same viewpoints on many things was that we ARE so similar.... Both being lifesyle Dominants

MH and MoAz are two I met around these parts that I regard as friends And has anyone seen hide or hair of Tress lately?

A whole bunch of Dommes I get on well with on the London Scene too. the local Munch here has its own pair of Dominant Ravens, one of each gender

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RE: Friendships with Mistresses? - 5/1/2007 4:06:22 PM

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At one point in time there was a Mistress that I was friends with, after a fashion. There was a submissive of mine that was working for this Mistress as a co-Mistress (professional).

When that submissive exited my life, so did the Mistress.

There's certainly nothing wrong with it in theory.

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RE: Friendships with Mistresses? - 5/1/2007 5:51:45 PM

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I'm a dominant woman in a primary love partnership with a dominant man. We're good friends. :)

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RE: Friendships with Mistresses? - 5/1/2007 5:59:03 PM

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Being the co-founder of a Fem Dom group, I can say it's quite nice to have other companions like you. I also have quite a number of Male Dom aquaintances. I don't have very many people in my life whom I consider "close" friends...but I'd have no qualms about having any role as a friend. I'm friend with the person, not the role.

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RE: Friendships with Mistresses? - 5/1/2007 6:23:42 PM

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Being the co-founder of a Fem Dom group, I can say it's quite nice to have other companions like you. I also have quite a number of Male Dom aquaintances. I don't have very many people in my life whom I consider "close" friends...but I'd have no qualms about having any role as a friend. I'm friend with the person, not the role.

Master Fire

Ahh thank you for the intrest, I can't say I have any "close" friends in the community so to speak. I so have a long time friend I know is ok vastly with my lifestyle and incourages me, but he isn't in the community. So for many reasons Im intrested in talking activly with others, also as part of my boy's training perhaps sharing or including others in our sessions in future.

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RE: Friendships with Mistresses? - 5/1/2007 7:10:08 PM

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I have friends of all sorts, I have female dominants who I consider friends, some piss me off but I am still civil. They are kind of like people, some are better than others.

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RE: Friendships with Mistresses? - 5/1/2007 9:20:49 PM

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So for many reasons Im intrested in talking activly with others, also as part of my boy's training perhaps sharing or including others in our sessions in future.

Action might I suggest you read this post I made on another thread.. Sir and I, as a couple, with actively be helping a Domme, with her selections... Get me on the other side if you want more info. Sir has been helping her for several years.
She started out as a sub many years ago and if a fantastic Domme, as well as friend.
http://www.collarchat.com/m_990495/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#990687

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RE: Friendships with Mistresses? - 5/1/2007 9:51:42 PM

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So for many reasons Im intrested in talking activly with others, also as part of my boy's training perhaps sharing or including others in our sessions in future.

Action might I suggest you read this post I made on another thread.. Sir and I, as a couple, with actively be helping a Domme, with her selections... Get me on the other side if you want more info. Sir has been helping her for several years.
She started out as a sub many years ago and if a fantastic Domme, as well as friend.
http://www.collarchat.com/m_990495/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#990687

Thats quiet an intresting process she has, I hope to have that sort of ability to demand such one day. You should be glad to be aquainted, and thank you for replying to my thread. As for intrest, Im not exactly sure how you mean, as it seems something between you both and her.

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RE: Friendships with Mistresses? - 5/1/2007 10:21:46 PM

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I have friends of all sorts, I have female dominants who I consider friends, some piss me off but I am still civil. They are kind of like people, some are better than others.

Why thank you for the compliment. It's nice to know that we are kind of like people.

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RE: Friendships with Mistresses? - 5/1/2007 10:45:39 PM

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As for intrest, Im not exactly sure how you mean, as it seems something between you both and her.

Just saying if you want more specific info on her technique, I might put ya in touch with her. And if you'd like to maybe one day do something like this... hell she devised it....

Have a great one

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RE: Friendships with Mistresses? - 5/2/2007 2:20:29 AM

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ORIGINAL: Action

Hello Masters,

Respectfully I have made a similar post in the Mistress section, but being I want to also make friends amoung Master's I will share that I am new and not at all familar with community circles concerning BDSM so my time on this site has been soley for my education and learning overall manners I need to know. So as my peers I wish to seek friendship from my fellow Doms.

Also as a question to get things rolling, how many of you have Mistress friends, and your feelings on doms as friends?

I haven't been active in any real life scene in some time, as there simply is no such thing where I live now.

I don't have any particular like or dislke for dommes, by default, I treat people as individuals. I tend to prefer the company of subs or switches, naturally ;) but it's not a rule so much as a weak statistical correlation.

Anytime you have two dominant personalities in the same room, there's an extra risk of conflict. It can be a problem. Usually it's not. *shrug*

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RE: Friendships with Mistresses? - 5/2/2007 4:51:18 AM

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I have friends of all sorts, I have female dominants who I consider friends, some piss me off but I am still civil. They are kind of like people, some are better than others.

Why thank you for the compliment. It's nice to know that we are kind of like people.

Well it's true! You're semi-people. You're quasi-people. You're the margarine of people. You're the Diet Coke of people. Just one calorie, not people enough.

(with no appologys at all to Dr Evil for the paraphrase *g*)

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RE: Friendships with Mistresses? - 5/2/2007 7:31:23 AM

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Action,

My mentor was a Mistress, and I daresay that for years she was my best friend.
I've had male and female dominants as friends before and I hope I will continue to.

Someone's gender, role, or orientation has little bearing on who I call friend

John

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RE: Friendships with Mistresses? - 5/2/2007 9:32:28 AM

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ORIGINAL: RavenMuse

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ORIGINAL: Najakcharmer

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

I have friends of all sorts, I have female dominants who I consider friends, some piss me off but I am still civil. They are kind of like people, some are better than others.

Why thank you for the compliment. It's nice to know that we are kind of like people.

Well it's true! You're semi-people. You're quasi-people. You're the margarine of people. You're the Diet Coke of people. Just one calorie, not people enough.

(with no appologys at all to Dr Evil for the paraphrase *g*)

I am still quiet new here so Im not sure if Im to take your comment as a joke or not. But if Mistresses are Semi-human, what are Masters in your opinion? Sub-human?

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RE: Friendships with Mistresses? - 5/2/2007 9:35:42 AM

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I am still quiet new here so Im not sure if Im to take your comment as a joke or not.

New and sense of humour not yet warped enough sweetie. But to put your mind at rest...

*Points to the

on the end* T'was a 'subtle' clue

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RE: Friendships with Mistresses? - 5/2/2007 9:46:23 AM

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ORIGINAL: RavenMuse

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I am still quiet new here so Im not sure if Im to take your comment as a joke or not.

New and sense of humour not yet warped enough sweetie. But to put your mind at rest...

*Points to the on the end* T'was a 'subtle' clue

Heh thanks for that then. I haven't yet got the subtle art of sarcasim over text. :3

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RE: Friendships with Mistresses? - 5/3/2007 10:39:58 PM

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Someone's gender, role, or orientation has little bearing on who I call friend

Yep. People is people. While I enjoy the company of likeminded folks, I also like the spark generated from dissimilar ideas in discussion. <shrug>

Back to the OP; yes, I'm got Domme friends (Stateside).

SH'd

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