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RE: What can a sub have to offer a dominant woman (a re... - 8/15/2007 9:08:23 AM   
cwytch


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KUDOS ls....what a wonderful post not only for sub/slaves seeking a Domme but for those of us seeking a Dom...perhaps it will enlighten both sides of the coin...thank you for your realism

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RE: What can a sub have to offer a dominant woman (a re... - 8/15/2007 10:05:32 AM   
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absolutely thank you for posting.

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RE: What can a sub have to offer a dominant woman (a re... - 8/17/2007 7:38:21 AM   
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Incredible post. Well done, well written, well thought out. A must read best seller!

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RE: What can a sub have to offer a dominant woman (a re... - 9/5/2007 8:22:23 AM   
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excellent advice!  Thank you!

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RE: What can a sub have to offer a dominant woman (a re... - 9/5/2007 10:21:53 AM   
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Is there any way this type of important advice can be "stickied" here at Collarme? 
Are there Best post awards here, coz littlesarbonn's certainly has enough votes!


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RE: What can a sub have to offer a dominant woman (a re... - 9/5/2007 10:41:28 AM   
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littlesarbonn needs to have a nice gold medal pinned on.  This is a wonderful post and I wish more submissives had his insight and used it.  A smack on the behind and a kiss on the cheek for you dear.

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RE: What can a sub have to offer a dominant woman (a re... - 9/6/2007 11:17:19 AM   
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Once again we dommes get to see what we are missing. Lil you set the bar awfully high for the other guys! Great job, as usual!

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RE: What can a sub have to offer a dominant woman (a re... - 9/17/2007 5:03:48 PM   
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i am responding promarily because the original post needs to be kept on the first page for all to see. It's message is factual and eloquently expressed. Well done littlesarbon!

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RE: What can a sub have to offer a dominant woman (a re... - 9/17/2007 6:14:46 PM   
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I agree with everyone here.  I just wanted to say that even if you had some success with interaction it is a wonderful way to remind ourselves as to what is important to most of the real Dommes.  I for one will reference this list whenever I decide to approach a Domme here or anywhere.  Thank you for the great reminder! 

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RE: What can a sub have to offer a dominant woman (a re... - 9/17/2007 6:34:05 PM   
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Well I'm baking a @#$% apple pie right now! Does that count for anything....??? Lmao!

(no it's not from scratch but it sure has stunk up the shack real nice...!!!)

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RE: What can a sub have to offer a dominant woman (a re... - 9/17/2007 7:39:47 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: herpet1313

i am responding promarily because the original post needs to be kept on the first page for all to see. It's message is factual and eloquently expressed. Well done littlesarbon!


Thank you for bumping this topic to the top.  I've only been a member a few weeks, and wasn't aware of this thread.  I might not have ever found it without your bump.

Well done, sarbon.  The best point you made was that Dommes are human beings first, and everything else later.  It makes perfect sense to approach them in exactly that order.

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RE: What can a sub have to offer a dominant woman (a re... - 9/17/2007 11:58:13 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsD

sarbonn, you are always so eloquent ... this, to me, is your masterpiece! *s*  I'm putting a link to it in my journal on the other side lol
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Lady Heart said "
Once you've got her interest, don't drop the ball! It's suprising how many submissives do many of the positive things you have referred to, then get a last minute bout of stage fright and fail to follow through. "


I did post this a while ago on my journal. What a wonderfully eloquent andspot-on post!
Lady Heart,
I think what you said above is also going to be added to my journal!
 
Thanks to you LS! My best to you and your's
MsD, and Lady Heart *waves*
Miss Irish

ps: *poofing=

< Message edited by YesMistressIrish -- 9/18/2007 12:06:33 AM >

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RE: What can a sub have to offer a dominant woman (a re... - 10/8/2007 9:28:29 PM   
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Great opening post!  I'm going to have to start a journal just so that people read this.  THANKS!!!

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RE: What can a sub have to offer a dominant woman (a re... - 10/8/2007 9:38:10 PM   
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Wow, Im kind of embarassed that these things have to be written out for some of us. For some of us, these things are a given. It amazes me how some male subs act like retarded monkeys or something, lol.

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RE: What can a sub have to offer a dominant woman (a re... - 10/8/2007 9:53:23 PM   
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Thanks for sharing... Very good read. 

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RE: What can a sub have to offer a dominant woman (a re... - 10/8/2007 10:37:53 PM   
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After a horrible interaction last night with a "real" sub (his words - not mine)  looking for a "real" Domme (again, his words - not mine), I wondered if what I seek or expect from male subs is realistic.  It took about 10 minutes of IM chatting for it to escalate to a place that left me in such a state of wonder.  So, coming across this thread is ... simply Divine Intervention stepping in to say the foundation I'm standing on is solid.

Thank you very much, littlesarbonn!  It is truly refreshing to know that I don't live in a vacuum and when I expect to be treated like a human being and a LADY first - it is totally realistic.  If you are not attached to Someone who thinks you're priceless, I pray She is being prepared  - or already is - to enjoy the fullness of you!  Be well,
SL

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RE: What can a sub have to offer a dominant woman (a re... - 10/8/2007 11:34:24 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: ShadowsLap

After a horrible interaction last night with a "real" sub (his words - not mine)  looking for a "real" Domme (again, his words - not mine), I wondered if what I seek or expect from male subs is realistic.  It took about 10 minutes of IM chatting for it to escalate to a place that left me in such a state of wonder.  So, coming across this thread is ... simply Divine Intervention stepping in to say the foundation I'm standing on is solid.

Thank you very much, littlesarbonn!  It is truly refreshing to know that I don't live in a vacuum and when I expect to be treated like a human being and a LADY first - it is totally realistic.  If you are not attached to Someone who thinks you're priceless, I pray She is being prepared  - or already is - to enjoy the fullness of you!  Be well,
SL


Thank you. As of today (actually) I started as a houseboy to a woman I deeply respect. Until I completely screw it up (), I will be the houseboy to her and her young protege who is learning her evil ways. The first day was a lot of work, but the process was so well worth it.


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RE: What can a sub have to offer a dominant woman (a re... - 10/9/2007 9:05:14 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

quote:

ORIGINAL: ShadowsLap

After a horrible interaction last night with a "real" sub (his words - not mine)  looking for a "real" Domme (again, his words - not mine), I wondered if what I seek or expect from male subs is realistic.  It took about 10 minutes of IM chatting for it to escalate to a place that left me in such a state of wonder.  So, coming across this thread is ... simply Divine Intervention stepping in to say the foundation I'm standing on is solid.

Thank you very much, littlesarbonn!  It is truly refreshing to know that I don't live in a vacuum and when I expect to be treated like a human being and a LADY first - it is totally realistic.  If you are not attached to Someone who thinks you're priceless, I pray She is being prepared  - or already is - to enjoy the fullness of you!  Be well,
SL


Thank you. As of today (actually) I started as a houseboy to a woman I deeply respect. Until I completely screw it up (), I will be the houseboy to her and her young protege who is learning her evil ways. The first day was a lot of work, but the process was so well worth it.



Based on your past bad experiences providing service and feeling taken advantage of, I hope this is also a romantic, sensual/sexual relationship and not simply barter that will end up making you feel used. Houseboy relationships can be very tricky that way.

Akasha


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RE: What can a sub have to offer a dominant woman (a re... - 10/9/2007 10:40:28 AM   
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Yes, I agree. It's not an end all relationship for me. It's something that makes me comfortable while in the process of searching for what may be an end all. Unlike previous times, I'm going into it with eyes wide open and knowing exactly what I get out of it and what I'm putting into it as well. If it leads to something more (which it has in the past), great. If not, I'm going to enjoy at least being of service to someone I already know and trust, and who had completely understood me for a very long time.

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RE: What can a sub have to offer a dominant woman (a re... - 10/9/2007 9:29:06 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

Thank you. As of today (actually) I started as a houseboy to a woman I deeply respect. Until I completely screw it up (), I will be the houseboy to her and her young protege who is learning her evil ways. The first day was a lot of work, but the process was so well worth it.



Ohh good luck lilsarbonm. *sigh* glad to hear you are giving it another go.  You cannot screw it up but she can....remember that. k?

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