womanworshipper
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It’s not straight-forward, is it? As a sub, i want to be dominated by my Owner, so i don’t want Her to seek or respect my view on everything. My Mistress often tells me to shut up, or calls me an idiot, sometimes publically, and I adore Her for it. On the other hand, I can understand that if I was never allowed to express a view on anything, I would find that oppressive. The solution lies partly in establishing agreed guidelines but also in the mutual compatibility of both parties and the judgement of the Dom(me). Our/our basic approach is uncompromising: Mistress is always right, even if She is wrong! If i strongly disagree with Her, it is my duty to tell Her, but i accept that i may be punished for doing so. Moreover, if She still believes She is right, then We/we go with Her view. Publically, i always support Her, regardless of my personal feelings. This approach could lead to a very oppressive relationship, but it works for Us/us because i trust my Mistress’s judgement implicitly and because i know that She cares for me and has my best interests at heart. i also know that She values my opinion because She will often seek it and explicitly acknowledges that i know more on certain matters than She does. In fact, for the most part, She will allow me to make my own decisions and i enjoy freedom of conscience in respect of my most fundamental beliefs. For example, She is a (liberal) muslim, while I am a non-believer. We/we respect one another’s views and even discuss them critically. She never tries to force Her beliefs on me. Our/our political allegiances are very similar, so there is no real issue there. i would suggest that You discuss the fact that You feel that You need more room in Your relationship to express your opinions. If Your Master is not prepared to allow this, then perhaps he is not the Master for You.
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