thetammyjo
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Initially, my husband and I used to scene but after we were married we realized that the areas of mutual interests were very small compared to what I wanted and needed after I dealt with some past issues in therapy and was becoming more of the real TammyJo. However, I, we, take our vows very seriously and sex/kink was never the defining trait for our marriage -- mutual life goals were to be honest and those have not changed. From the beginning we knew we would not be monogamous for example so that was left out of our vows. For a husband I wanted someone who was a full partner, someone who could value the family unit over himself, and yeah, over me too if need be. That is not what I want from a slave. From a slave I need to be the first priority. Not the family and not him/her but me. I'll worry about him/her and the family and he/she will follow my led on those issues. I know a lot of people see the roles of spouse and slave/sub as very close and even get married. I'm not one of those people. I might marry my slave for legal protections for us both but he would never me a husband in my mind or eyes or heart. One is not better or better loved or better valued in my heart though legally the husband comes first. In many ways I actually feel closer to my slave than my husband but I love them both not equally but differently. I'm sure a lot of folks will read that and think I'm a bitch -- whatever, think as you will, we are a happy and positive family regardless.
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Love, Peace, Hugs, Kisses, Whips & Chains, TammyJo Check out my website at http://www.thetammyjo.com Or www.tammyjoeckhart.com And my LJ where I post fiction in progress if you "friend" me at http://thetammyjo.livejournal.com/
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