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RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pr... - 2/9/2009 11:40:41 AM

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I don't know why you can't put stock to that claim. Many men don't develop a taste for being a sub until they are older -- after they are married. It's really just that simple. However, that doesn't mean wifey will have the same interests.

You know, I've actually played casually with married men, but I wouldn't touch someone who talked about his wife that way. Why would I want to interact with someone who doesn't respect his partner? The thought makes my skin crawl.

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RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pr... - 2/9/2009 4:01:35 PM

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Bingo. The little 19 year olds do not want to play with an older man cheating on his wife, so they must be pros.

Absolutely, I mean why would a hot young woman be NOT interested in a not so hot, not so young guy who doesn't mind cheating on the spouse and who wants to have a bit fun behind wivey's back... Heaven knows that they should be flattered to be considered a disposable sex object by such a prince! Clearly, they must be pros!

Is sarcasm, rigth? Is rhetorical question mixed with sarcasm, right? If not I can put forth 118 reasons why I (age 20) would NOT want a man such as you describe.

I kae edit...

LadyConstanze. I must take a photo similar to yours. Your photo is so sexy you are making me wet and I am not lesbian. (a little bi curious, not too much). I wonder if the guys would like a photo with me dressed in leather. I not like leather too much but your picture looks sexy.

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RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pr... - 2/9/2009 4:06:18 PM

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Andalusite wrote: azjojoba, I'm under 40, non-pro, but looking for a committed, kinky relationship.

There's no point arguing: he's already decided that all under-40s are either pros or fakes.

beeble.

There is always point in arguing. Is fun. This why people argue in threads when the OP person has a closed account.

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RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pr... - 2/9/2009 4:07:13 PM

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It was sarcasm...

I like leather, I don't like latex (allergic) and vinyl is just a bit too shiny for my taste. I'm sure the guys would like pics of you in anything.

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RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pr... - 2/9/2009 9:12:25 PM

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Your question was how can a married man serve. The point I was trying to make is that some of them can and in fact, some of them do. There are a number of service arrangements out there regardless of marital status that are actually based on service. While I agree that this ability does relate directly to whether or not a person is honest with their spouse and that probably isn't the case with the majority, there are some of them out there. Had your original question been how can a married man serve who isn't being honest with his wife, I'd have had no issue with it.

the above answer does apply to my questions, which is bolded. that is exactly what i was inquirying about...if a Mistress accepts a married sub/slave--with or without spousal permission. i know that a submissive man can serve, but with the addition of a marriage...loyal issues can arise. it (the question) was posed in conjuction to the original post that a married man will rant...yet, may not even have the ability to serve. i agree that there are acceptions to the rule.

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RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pr... - 2/9/2009 9:41:10 PM

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Beeble and Nikitaa, I just figure I'm another counterexample for his survey.

LadyConsstanze, it's not even that I figure he'll cheat on me, just that I don't want to associate intimately with someone who is dishonest in his intimate relationships. It speaks poorly for his character. Anyway, I want a kinky boyfriend, who I can spend lots of time with, and be integrated into each others' lives. If he's cheating on his wife, he's sure not going to want to introduce me to his relatives, friends, or co-workers, or vice versa.

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RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pr... - 2/9/2009 10:34:08 PM

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ORIGINAL: beeble
There's no point arguing: he's already decided that all under-40s are either pros or fakes.

beeble.

Yep. And there are no real submissive men under 30 yet, because no man "figures out" he's submissive until he's middle-aged.

Conclusive proof that neither my sub nor I actually exist, since I'm not 40 yet and he's under 30.

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RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pr... - 2/9/2009 10:38:47 PM

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Shakti, how ever could you skew the vast representative sampling taken by such a winning personality?

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RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pr... - 2/10/2009 2:51:43 AM

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beeble wrote: There's no point arguing: he's already decided that all under-40s are either pros or fakes.
Nikitaa wrote: There is always point in arguing.

No there isn't!

Seriously, though, some arguments are fun but arguing with a bigot it just a complete waste of time: everyone gets angry with the bigot and the bigot refuses to change his or her ways.

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RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pr... - 2/10/2009 3:00:13 AM

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beeble wrote: There's no point arguing: he's already decided that all under-40s are either pros or fakes.
ShaktiSama wrote: Yep. And there are no real submissive men under 30 yet, because no man "figures out" he's submissive until he's middle-aged.

I was lucky, then. I met Kita three months before my thirtieth birthday: I guess she didn't spot my fakeness during that dangerous time before I became real. Or maybe she just put up with me for three months knowing what would happen when I turned thirty.

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RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pr... - 2/10/2009 7:16:33 AM

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I spent a whole weekend with a bunch of imaginary folks... so I say we just enjoy our mass hallucination!

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RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pr... - 2/10/2009 9:29:16 AM

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ORIGINAL: DominaSmartass

So I heard this line earlier tonight and it drove me to post!

How can a married man rant about how all the "dommes" are fakes and pros when he openly admits to being married, looking to "serve" behind his wife's back?

It boggles my mind! The logic bombs are exploding left and right and there's no convincing men like this that those of us who are not making money off it are not likely to put all that time and effort into a man who belongs to someone else already.

Sigh...another day, another rant.

Ah ha. Good point.

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RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pr... - 2/10/2009 9:46:08 AM

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LadyHibiscus wrote: I spent a whole weekend with a bunch of imaginary folks... so I say we just enjoy our mass hallucination!

At least, you like to think you enjoy it...

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RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pr... - 2/10/2009 10:04:42 AM

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There's no point arguing: he's already decided that all under-40s are either pros or fakes.

beeble.

Yep. And there are no real submissive men under 30 yet, because no man "figures out" he's submissive until he's middle-aged.

Conclusive proof that neither my sub nor I actually exist, since I'm not 40 yet and he's under 30.

Does this mean I don't need to pay my taxes anymore?

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RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pr... - 2/10/2009 10:32:21 AM

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Yep. And you can give me your imaginary rebate, boykin.

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RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pr... - 2/10/2009 10:34:50 AM

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LadyHibiscus, that reminded me of this quote from Heinlein's "The Cat Who Walked Through Walls:"
"Honey, you're cute. But you are a figment of my imagination. Ouch! I told you to stop
that."

"You have a lively imagination, darling. Thanks for thinking me up. Do you
want another proof? Up to now I've just been playing-shall I now break one of
your bones? Just a small one. You pick it."

"Listen, figment. You break one of my bones and you'll regret it for the
next billion years."

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RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pr... - 2/10/2009 10:39:14 AM

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Yep. And you can give me your imaginary rebate, boykin.

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RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pr... - 2/10/2009 10:48:16 AM

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If it is truly about domination and not about sex, I would think a creative dom/domme could find some very interesting ways to have a married sub serve. I don't have to be present to submit or manipulate someone. And, it's still quite rewarding.

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RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pr... - 2/10/2009 3:23:38 PM

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If it is truly about domination and not about sex, I would think a creative dom/domme could find some very interesting ways to have a married sub serve. I don't have to be present to submit or manipulate someone. And, it's still quite rewarding.

But since when is the urge to be dominated not sexually motivated? It doesn't have to be sex, but hardly any guy wants to be dominated by a woman he doesn't find sexually attractive...

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RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pr... - 2/10/2009 3:31:44 PM

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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

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ORIGINAL: twistedreality

If it is truly about domination and not about sex, I would think a creative dom/domme could find some very interesting ways to have a married sub serve. I don't have to be present to submit or manipulate someone. And, it's still quite rewarding.

But since when is the urge to be dominated not sexually motivated? It doesn't have to be sex, but hardly any guy wants to be dominated by a woman he doesn't find sexually attractive...

Just a data point: I get plenty of attention from men who want me to dominate them but wouldn't be sexually interested or attracted to me in me in a vanilla context. I suspect that you see less of it, because you are smokin' hot, but it does happen.

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