RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pros"

Join Our Community

Collarchat.com

Home Login Search

RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pros"

View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Mistress >> RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pros"

Page: << < prev 4 5 [6] 7 8 next > >>

Login

Message

<< Older Topic Newer Topic >>

RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pr... - 2/10/2009 3:48:33 PM

Posts: 9722
Joined: 2/18/2005
Status: offline

I don't think I am smoking hot when I hang around in sweat pants, no leather, no makeup etc. You'd be surprised, I grew up in Germany and was actually considered everything but attractive in a vanilla way, not exotic enough to be exotic but not familiar enough to appeal to them, yet I did strangely enough appeal to them in a BDSM way.

There is a difference between men being attracted to you in a vanilla sense or a BDSM sense, guys who wouldn't be attracted to me in a vanilla setting are often attracted to me in a BDSM way, I think essentially the trigger for submitting is sexually driven. It doesn't have to mean sex, but subconsciously there is something sexual about it... In most professional sessions no sex ever happens, yet the dommes do dress in a rather hot way.

There is not a lot that does drive people, we have a couple of essential trigger points (food, shelter, sex....), and most guys would not pick a domme if they are not in some way attracted to her. When was the last time you heard a guy looking for a particularly unattractive or frumpy lady to dominate him? Tastes might differ and they might not look for a conventionally attractive woman, but usually they do pick somebody who does do something for them.

_____________________________

There are 10 kinds of people who understand binary
Those who do and those who don't!

http://exdomme.blogspot.com/2012/07/public-service-announcement.html

(in reply to strangedesire)

RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pr... - 2/10/2009 4:31:27 PM

Posts: 910
Joined: 8/24/2008
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze
But since when is the urge to be dominated not sexually motivated? It doesn't have to be sex, but hardly any guy wants to be dominated by a woman he doesn't find sexually attractive...

Shoot, have all the non-sexual submissives vanished too? This thread has a heck of a body count

_____________________________

-and the few still remember passion over rage-

(in reply to LadyConstanze)

RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pr... - 2/10/2009 7:04:56 PM

Posts: 513
Joined: 2/1/2007
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: Nikitaa

quote:

ORIGIONAL: azjojoba

I think almost all the women under 40 at CM are pros.

I did not receive copy of you CM women dominant survey. I assume you took survey? I am 20, dominant, and not pro. No one can purchase my services. (men bringing dark chocolate receive better service)

My best friend (KinkyJody on CM) is 21 and not pro.

Yes, I did take a survey. You can see for yourself by going to the search engine in your locale, and search for dominant women by age group.

(in reply to Nikitaa)

RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pr... - 2/10/2009 7:08:27 PM

Posts: 513
Joined: 2/1/2007
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: ShaktiSama

quote:

ORIGINAL: beeble
There's no point arguing: he's already decided that all under-40s are either pros or fakes.

beeble.

Yep. And there are no real submissive men under 30 yet, because no man "figures out" he's submissive until he's middle-aged.

Conclusive proof that neither my sub nor I actually exist, since I'm not 40 yet and he's under 30.

Nice job to both of you for misquoting me and taking what I said totally out of context -- and then providing examples that are irrelevant.

(in reply to ShaktiSama)

RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pr... - 2/10/2009 7:10:42 PM

Posts: 27124
Joined: 8/15/2005
From: Island Of Misfit Toys
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: azjojoba

quote:

ORIGINAL: ShaktiSama

quote:

ORIGINAL: beeble
There's no point arguing: he's already decided that all under-40s are either pros or fakes.

beeble.

Yep. And there are no real submissive men under 30 yet, because no man "figures out" he's submissive until he's middle-aged.

Conclusive proof that neither my sub nor I actually exist, since I'm not 40 yet and he's under 30.

Nice job to both of you for misquoting me and taking what I said totally out of context -- and then providing examples that are irrelevant.

Really? Sounds like they have you spot-on.

_____________________________

[page 23 girl]

(in reply to azjojoba)

RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pr... - 2/10/2009 7:12:35 PM

Posts: 513
Joined: 2/1/2007
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

Really? Sounds like they have you spot-on.

Yes, it sure sounds like it, especially if you don't know how to read and comprehend.

(in reply to LadyHibiscus)

RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pr... - 2/10/2009 7:19:29 PM

Posts: 6470
Joined: 5/10/2007
Status: offline

I had a dream that I met an imaginary person over the weekend... and she didn't seem unable to comprehend things.

Back to my cyber fantasy world I go.

_____________________________

Not with envy, not with a twisted heart, shall you feel superior, or go about boasting. Rather in goodness by action make true your song and your word. Thus you shall be highly regarded, and able to live in peace with all others.
- 15th century Aztec

(in reply to azjojoba)

RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pr... - 2/10/2009 7:31:49 PM

Posts: 27124
Joined: 8/15/2005
From: Island Of Misfit Toys
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

I had a dream that I met an imaginary person over the weekend... and she didn't seem unable to comprehend things.

Back to my cyber fantasy world I go.

Can I come along? We can do something imaginary, and I won't even ask you to marry me!

_____________________________

[page 23 girl]

(in reply to RedMagic1)

RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pr... - 2/11/2009 12:12:11 AM

Posts: 513
Joined: 2/1/2007
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

There is not a lot that does drive people, we have a couple of essential trigger points (food, shelter, sex....), and most guys would not pick a domme if they are not in some way attracted to her. When was the last time you heard a guy looking for a particularly unattractive or frumpy lady to dominate him? Tastes might differ and they might not look for a conventionally attractive woman, but usually they do pick somebody who does do something for them.

Most men would choose a hot babe if they are hiring a pro. Since the cost is about the same, why not pick one that is sexually appealing?

(in reply to LadyConstanze)

RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pr... - 2/11/2009 4:36:22 AM

Posts: 9722
Joined: 2/18/2005
Status: offline

I wouldn't put it quite as simple as "hot babe" but simply something that triggers their urge to submit, I don't think it's any different in BDSM than it is in vanilla, nobody goes out to find a desperately unattractive partner.

Something in the domme needs to appeal to a guy, maybe there are a few who really don't care how she looks at all, but they seem to be rather well hidden.

I don't think it has anything to do with pro or life-style, if you are going to a party, who do you see mobbed by potential slaves? The not so attractive ladies or the more attractive ones? Of course we can go on and on how shallow it is, but you can also go on an on about the seasons or the weather, it's not going to change it.

_____________________________

There are 10 kinds of people who understand binary
Those who do and those who don't!

http://exdomme.blogspot.com/2012/07/public-service-announcement.html

(in reply to azjojoba)

RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pr... - 2/11/2009 7:59:13 AM

Posts: 4813
Joined: 10/3/2006
From: Atlanta
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: azjojoba

quote:

ORIGINAL: Nikitaa

quote:

ORIGIONAL: azjojoba

I think almost all the women under 40 at CM are pros.

I did not receive copy of you CM women dominant survey. I assume you took survey? I am 20, dominant, and not pro. No one can purchase my services. (men bringing dark chocolate receive better service)

My best friend (KinkyJody on CM) is 21 and not pro.

Yes, I did take a survey. You can see for yourself by going to the search engine in your locale, and search for dominant women by age group.

That's not a survey.

_____________________________

HBIC

(in reply to azjojoba)

RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pr... - 2/11/2009 8:32:36 AM

Posts: 9722
Joined: 2/18/2005
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: Lynnxz

quote:

ORIGINAL: azjojoba

quote:

ORIGINAL: Nikitaa

quote:

ORIGIONAL: azjojoba

I think almost all the women under 40 at CM are pros.

I did not receive copy of you CM women dominant survey. I assume you took survey? I am 20, dominant, and not pro. No one can purchase my services. (men bringing dark chocolate receive better service)

My best friend (KinkyJody on CM) is 21 and not pro.

Yes, I did take a survey. You can see for yourself by going to the search engine in your locale, and search for dominant women by age group.

That's not a survey.

What? I am so surprised, I thought it would be a requirement for every dominant woman, no matter which age group to be "registered", if not for the sake of being registered, so that married guys cheating on their wives can poll easier, heaven forbid that they'd do a real survey, they're much too busy finding excuses they can tell their spouse.

_____________________________

There are 10 kinds of people who understand binary
Those who do and those who don't!

http://exdomme.blogspot.com/2012/07/public-service-announcement.html

(in reply to Lynnxz)

RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pr... - 2/11/2009 8:56:35 AM

Posts: 1654
Joined: 8/7/2005
Status: offline

quote:

I don't think I am smoking hot when I hang around in sweat pants, no leather, no makeup etc.

I think you'd even look hot in bib overalls!

(in reply to LadyConstanze)

RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pr... - 2/11/2009 9:06:09 AM

Posts: 4813
Joined: 10/3/2006
From: Atlanta
Status: offline

quote:

What? I am so surprised, I thought it would be a requirement for every dominant woman, no matter which age group to be "registered", if not for the sake of being registered, so that married guys cheating on their wives can poll easier, heaven forbid that they'd do a real survey, they're much too busy finding excuses they can tell their spouse.

*snicker*

You know, lots of people cheat on their S/o. It doesn't necessarily surprise me anymore. The eyeroll comes from the stomping and complaining from the male who can't find a tiny little young domme to play spankie with on the weekends for an hour while his wife thinks he's at the post office.

*edit*

Also, for free, because he's just too damn amazing for it to be otherwise.

_____________________________

HBIC

(in reply to hardbodysub)

RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pr... - 2/11/2009 9:13:20 AM

Posts: 11292
Joined: 5/7/2007
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: Lynnxz

quote:

What? I am so surprised, I thought it would be a requirement for every dominant woman, no matter which age group to be "registered", if not for the sake of being registered, so that married guys cheating on their wives can poll easier, heaven forbid that they'd do a real survey, they're much too busy finding excuses they can tell their spouse.

*snicker*

You know, lots of people cheat on their S/o. It doesn't necessarily surprise me anymore. The eyeroll comes from the stomping and complaining from the male who can't find a tiny little young domme to play spankie with on the weekends for an hour while his wife thinks he's at the post office.

*edit*

Also, for free, because he's just too damn amazing for it to be otherwise.

The difference between us and the wife is simply that she can hurt him more with a divorce and is tired of the complaining so they have to come here and complain to us. It doesn't surprise me that they can't pull it off at home anymore and need to seek elsewhere. I am sure there are many wive's who would be sadistically happy that they aren't getting it anywhere!

_____________________________

No matter how old a woman gets, some men will think she was born yesterday! ROFL... I love this place!

(in reply to Lynnxz)

RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pr... - 2/11/2009 9:15:22 AM

Posts: 6470
Joined: 5/10/2007
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: Lynnxz
*snicker*

You know, lots of people cheat on their S/o. It doesn't necessarily surprise me anymore. The eyeroll comes from the stomping and complaining from the male who can't find a tiny little young domme to play spankie with on the weekends for an hour while his wife thinks he's at the post office.

*edit*

Also, for free, because he's just too damn amazing for it to be otherwise.

OMG you're hot when you're brilliant!

... and when you're not... but that's beside the point!

_____________________________

Not with envy, not with a twisted heart, shall you feel superior, or go about boasting. Rather in goodness by action make true your song and your word. Thus you shall be highly regarded, and able to live in peace with all others.
- 15th century Aztec

(in reply to Lynnxz)

RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pr... - 2/11/2009 9:18:13 AM

Posts: 9722
Joined: 2/18/2005
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: hardbodysub

quote:

I don't think I am smoking hot when I hang around in sweat pants, no leather, no makeup etc.

I think you'd even look hot in bib overalls!

Thanks for the vote of confidence, but I almost killed the poor postman the other day, the apple and honey mask made me look a little bit like a partially decomposed corpse, hair in a top knot and me in paint stained coveralls, eagerly opening the door resulted in postman jumping back and screaming. There is plenty of photographic evidence of me looking decidedly unhot (unfortunately not quite the same as cool) around, ahhhh, good friends with cameras handy....

_____________________________

There are 10 kinds of people who understand binary
Those who do and those who don't!

http://exdomme.blogspot.com/2012/07/public-service-announcement.html

(in reply to hardbodysub)

RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pr... - 2/11/2009 12:04:19 PM

Posts: 799
Joined: 5/25/2005
From: UK
Status: offline

quote:

LadyConstanze wrote:
What? I am so surprised, I thought it would be a requirement for every dominant woman, no matter which age group to be "registered", if not for the sake of being registered, so that married guys cheating on their wives can poll easier, heaven forbid that they'd do a real survey, they're much too busy finding excuses they can tell their spouse.

Are you the British Government? I don't remember voting for you.

(No they've not proposed this but it fits so closely to their ideas of having huge databases of law-abiding citizens.)

beeble.

_____________________________

Kita's owned slutpet.

(in reply to LadyConstanze)

RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pr... - 2/11/2009 12:51:31 PM

Posts: 9722
Joined: 2/18/2005
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: beeble

Are you the British Government? I don't remember voting for you.

(No they've not proposed this but it fits so closely to their ideas of having huge databases of law-abiding citizens.)

beeble.

I can't remember being British, but please tell me you are not, so far all my British friends here have a sense of humour and recognize irony (maybe you want to take a note that it's not the land where the Ironians live).

Maybe you can enlighten me, does a humour bypass hurt much?

_____________________________

There are 10 kinds of people who understand binary
Those who do and those who don't!

http://exdomme.blogspot.com/2012/07/public-service-announcement.html

(in reply to beeble)

RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pr... - 2/11/2009 12:56:18 PM

BindSwitchBitch

Posts: 5
Joined: 9/30/2008
Status: offline

I've noticed an ugly trend that many male submissives in general feel entitled to the attentions of a domme no matter what their life situations, and are frustrated that they can't get one.

Look. If you are not very physically attractive, not available, or otherwise not willing to put much effort into building a relationship with a woman either as a friend or a romantic prospect, don't be surprised that you get rejected by the 2-3 lifestyle dommes that live in your area.

Go to a pro. They will give you the quickie you want without involvement.

(in reply to LadyPact)

Page: << < prev 4 5 [6] 7 8 next > >>

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Mistress >> RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pros"

Page: << < prev 4 5 [6] 7 8 next > >>

Jump to:

New Messages	No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages	Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages	Locked w/o New Messages

Post New Thread

Reply to Message

Post New Poll

Submit Vote

Delete My Own Post

Delete My Own Thread

Rate Posts

Collarchat.com © 2024

Terms of Service

0.141