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RE: online gone wrong - 2/9/2009 1:37:19 PM

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Katylied, well put. Feeling what I felt was as suprise to me. And I think you are right in the end. Being 52 is bit hard as well when your coming out of divorce-a year ago and you are as picky as I am. She met in many ways what I was looking for. I am not desperate or unattractive just very defined in what I want in a person for a relationship. She seemed right in so many ways until she started being this weird everything is fine on the phone person and not responding to my emails. Look I have drawn the line I won't be treated that way but it still is both dismaying and saddening. I hope she finds what she wants, I would have preferred that she had been upfront about that with me.
Then we could have parted amicaibly...

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RE: online gone wrong - 2/9/2009 1:39:22 PM

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What is dark odyssey???

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RE: online gone wrong - 2/9/2009 1:41:58 PM

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What is Dark Odyssey???

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RE: online gone wrong - 2/9/2009 1:55:13 PM

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I don't begrudge her looking around. Fine I don't own her. The problem comes when she's on CM and not bothering to reply to me. That says all I need to know.

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RE: online gone wrong - 2/9/2009 2:03:41 PM

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I don't begrudge her looking around. Fine I don't own her. The problem comes when she's on CM and not bothering to reply to me. That says all I need to know.

You know, it lists you as online whenever you have the window open, right? It may or may not mean that you're actually sitting at the computer.

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RE: online gone wrong - 2/9/2009 2:08:59 PM

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Not answering emails of text msg and pretending on the phone that everything is cool is the problem. I think we all agree on that. I'm done with hoping for her. I guess I just needed to vent and dammit have someone tell me life will go on....Which they have and it will and it is in the end her loss. Thank you for writing me I do appreciate it.

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RE: online gone wrong - 2/9/2009 2:10:40 PM

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It was just an "fyi"-type thing, honestly. I'd have no idea if it were the case.

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RE: online gone wrong - 2/9/2009 2:29:46 PM

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In this world on online, people often do not follow through. It sounds to me like she was only wishing to play, not really have a real relationship. Be glad that you found out now and not after you invested a lot time in her. Don't dwell on it, and you have the right idea...don't be so trusting. Hope you find what you are looking for. Good luck!

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RE: online gone wrong - 2/9/2009 3:11:40 PM

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I am sorry that happened but she probably is not 100% percent sure you are the one and is keeping herself open to other communications.

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RE: online gone wrong - 2/9/2009 3:35:12 PM

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eerr...all she did was agree to meet you..not date you, not be your slave or even your fuck buddy..just meet you.

That does not mean she has to stop going online anytime she wants, that does not mean she can't meet as many other men as she wishes.

Until you two have actually met and agree to date exclusively she's free to do as she wishes.

That's kinda how it works in the world.

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RE: online gone wrong - 2/9/2009 4:45:51 PM

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      Sorry you're disappointed - but as someone else pointed out - you're a big boy now , and should be used to disappointments in life . Happens to everyone at one time or another , for all sorts of reasons !

    To invest all kinds of emotion is someone you haven't ever met in person , is just plain foolish . It's so easy to be or say anyone/thing you want online .  You've no idea what her true reality is . And unless you've met in person several times , and had a chance to actually spend extended time together and form some sort of real connection , based on real things - she certainly has no reason to show allegiance to you .
    " Playing around " !?   By just showing up on here ?   People on this site could also be in the game room , looking at pictures , or other connected sites , or reading these boards too - yes ?
     You never had a relationship to begin with . Hopefully there were some lessons with this experience .

   I've met several good people from here , and had a relationship that lasted over three years with someone I met on the "A" site . There are many that are quite real , and ready for a connection .   Stick to those !

    Good luck .

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RE: online gone wrong - 2/9/2009 5:02:49 PM

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I, actually, met my Master on the "A" site as well, and I've met several other people over the last 9, or 10 years wile I was looking for the "One", so there are a lot of real, and some really great people out there. I agree though that You have to be careful about becoming too emotionally invested before meeting someone. I think that if You're sincere in Your search, then eventually You'll find the person that's right for You.

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RE: online gone wrong - 2/9/2009 5:31:13 PM

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Littlewonder the issue was not that I thought she shouldn't play on line, the issue was being disrespected, of course I know in the on line world there can be no expectations of people to just shut down there cyber explorations, whatever they might be. My issue and why I shut down the relationship was simply that she had the time to be on CM or where ever but was not inclined to answer an email from someone she claimed to be into. If I say, Hey what's up? to some one I expect to at least hear "not much". That is called politeness where I come from.

So maybe I do expect too much, if civility and respect are indeed too much to be simply expected.

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RE: online gone wrong - 2/9/2009 5:33:32 PM

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Serenesmiley, I'm sure I will too. I just needed to vent about the situation and the buck up dude, everything will be fine helps....regards

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RE: online gone wrong - 2/9/2009 5:41:04 PM

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subsong, it was not the playing around, it was simply disrespectful of her to spend time online and not answer email. So silent treatment as far as I can tell, so I call her, everything sounds great sounds fine, that night a short email, nothing serious, then no response. I could have given a rats ass about her playing games, meeting other potential dudes what ever. It was simply I said something and you choose not to respond. Once, twice no prob. But after that your saying something else.

And your totally right I will get over it, I have writing about it here helps clarify and deconstruct. Thanks so much for being part of it. R.

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RE: online gone wrong - 2/9/2009 5:44:17 PM

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BondageBarbie, you think???That's cool, I don't care about that. Being F**king disrespected I have a problem with.

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RE: online gone wrong - 2/9/2009 5:52:08 PM

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It's does help being early, quite a bit. Almost as much as throwing it out here and just dealing with it openly and not relying on only my raging inner dialogue to get me through this. I think it's 20 minutes past four, gotta go.
Thanks again oh bamagirl4u...

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RE: online gone wrong - 2/9/2009 6:02:42 PM

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ORIGINAL: rastermanblu

I don't begrudge her looking around. Fine I don't own her. The problem comes when she's on CM and not bothering to reply to me. That says all I need to know.

OP,
You do not own her, so she has rights to do as she pleases. I think you are making to much out of this, and I am not putting you down for that. Expectations, hopes and desires can make our rational minds dillusional. There could been many reasons, perhaps she just into the fantasy, perhaps she is married, perhaps she is....

You will fine yays and nays about online relationships, and personally that will have to be your own decision. Just try to remember that not every submissive will treat you this way. There are some that do really want the Ds or Ms relationship and not just the fantasy. Usually it takes a while to find this, but in the meantime you learn and grow.

Blessings
oceanwynds

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RE: online gone wrong - 2/9/2009 6:07:30 PM

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How is it that you have all this time to see that she is

quote:

is cruising CM like mad middle of the night, early am, all day in fact.

Possessive? Paranoid? Id be wondering about your trust level.

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RE: online gone wrong - 2/9/2009 6:12:21 PM

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ORIGINAL: oceanwynds

quote:

ORIGINAL: rastermanblu

I don't begrudge her looking around. Fine I don't own her. The problem comes when she's on CM and not bothering to reply to me. That says all I need to know.

OP,
You do not own her, so she has rights to do as she pleases. I think you are making to much out of this, and I am not putting you down for that. Expectations, hopes and desires can make our rational minds dillusional. There could been many reasons, perhaps she just into the fantasy, perhaps she is married, perhaps she is....

You will fine yays and nays about online relationships, and personally that will have to be your own decision. Just try to remember that not every submissive will treat you this way. There are some that do really want the Ds or Ms relationship and not just the fantasy. Usually it takes a while to find this, but in the meantime you learn and grow.

Blessings
oceanwynds

Oh I just figured out the quote feature, I like that.

oceanwynds, I'm not giving up-and I know I don't own, but for me it is a simple courtesy that she failed in. Someone writes you, write them back. Unless you really don't give a shit. And that is the message I took from her and one that I don't really care to hear. She blew me off. I'm done with her and it really did hurt until recently but I'm over her. No small part due to writing people such as yourself and for that you have my thanks.

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