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RE: Chastity tips for femdoms and subs: "It's just... - 10/15/2009 3:44:47 PM

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Personally, I feel this would be a horrible thing to endure and is something that, over long periods, is unhealthy.

Im glad that Aakasha understands that it is like grieving because that is exactly what it is. I understand the thrill of knowing your Mistress could strip you of something so important to you, but for a man this could be a very bad thing. I know it would probably drive me insane eventually. I know that this is something that I wouldnt find enjoyable at at all.

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RE: Chastity tips for femdoms and subs: "It's just... - 10/15/2009 4:13:40 PM

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Coo - good prices. Not seen them that cheap around here.

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RE: Chastity tips for femdoms and subs: "It's just... - 10/15/2009 4:14:01 PM

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I have been in chastity for short periods ( 12-24 hours) and find that you become very attentive to the wishes and desires of she who holds the key. Its somewhat of a attention amplifier.

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RE: Chastity tips for femdoms and subs: "It's just... - 10/15/2009 4:50:54 PM

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Are there chastity devices that a man couldn't get out of in an emergency - and without help from someone else - given a pair of pliers, hacksaw or bolt-cutters?

Hmm. I've usually got through locks with a drill. Somewhat wince-inducing thought performing that kind of operation in that particular area, though.

Sure. It depends on how much risk he wants to take though with a drill, hacksaw or bolt cutters so close to his privates. And it depends on the type of chastity device.

Akasha

Boys can not be trusted by being able to let themselves out of chastity for a selfish release and reinstalling the device to pretend he has been good, but in case of an emergency he needs to be able to get out. The Owner can put the key in an envelope, seal it, kiss it to leave lip prints, and sign it. The slave can get out if it really is an emergency but if he uses it with not explanation he should be punished very very hard or let go because that would be unforgivable.

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RE: Chastity tips for femdoms and subs: "It's just... - 10/15/2009 8:28:04 PM

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Oh. Just did some googling. They seem to work mostly with padlocks. Those can be done easily and safely with bolt-cutters. Bolt-cutters aren't cheap, though . . .

Some of the better ones have integrated locks, or a design which covers the shackle so it can't be cut off with bolt cutters.

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RE: Chastity tips for femdoms and subs: "It's just... - 10/16/2009 2:55:09 AM

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Some of the better ones have integrated locks, or a design which covers the shackle so it can't be cut off with bolt cutters.

Oooh - fiendish!

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RE: Chastity tips for femdoms and subs: "It's just... - 10/16/2009 5:39:24 AM

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ORIGINAL: dicipline2

Personally, I feel this would be a horrible thing to endure and is something that, over long periods, is unhealthy.

Im glad that Aakasha understands that it is like grieving because that is exactly what it is. I understand the thrill of knowing your Mistress could strip you of something so important to you, but for a man this could be a very bad thing. I know it would probably drive me insane eventually. I know that this is something that I wouldnt find enjoyable at at all.

I'll never understand WHY men don't learn better coping mechanisms and put all they've got on only one or two ways to relieve stress and anxiety. Why couldn't you use chastity as a way to learn how to handle your own life rather than jerk off to feel better?

It sounds too much like a fat girl with a tub of ice cream drowning her sorrows.

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RE: Chastity tips for femdoms and subs: "It's just... - 10/19/2009 6:39:52 AM

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I started using chastity when I was younger, running a business while living on the river with a boat and bike tempting me away from my computer... the chastity coming off was reward for finishing my projects on time. My "ice cream" was waiting at the finish line!

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RE: Chastity tips for femdoms and subs: "It's just... - 10/19/2009 1:03:26 PM

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If we had a chastity device that did not disrupt sleep at all, I would never whine. Great points, Ms. Aakasha.

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RE: Chastity tips for femdoms and subs: "It's just... - 10/19/2009 1:36:53 PM

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What a fantastic topic AAkasha. I know only too well about certain aspects you were talking about, mainly the whimpering and desperation parts. I 'enjoyed' a month of it. It was my first experience and one I will never forget. And it's definately something I would consider again. Thanks for the tips.

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RE: Chastity tips for femdoms and subs: "It's just... - 10/20/2009 8:14:20 AM

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To the OP.
Great Post. This is a subject I have put much thought into but have never never found the right person to try it with. You have put a lot in the proper perspective.
Thank you.

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RE: Chastity tips for femdoms and subs: "It's just... - 10/21/2009 4:23:23 AM

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There are a couple of ladies on CM whose profiles say that their males have to remain in 24/7 chastity with no relief...no orgasms ever. I wonder how many men could actually live that way...and for how long.

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RE: Chastity tips for femdoms and subs: "It's just... - 10/21/2009 1:42:47 PM

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There are a couple of ladies on CM whose profiles say that their males have to remain in 24/7 chastity with no relief...no orgasms ever. I wonder how many men could actually live that way...and for how long.

Cyber is where every desire can be worked back to some theory of what the other in the fantasy relationship should be with no rational thought of how human beings are wired regardless of gender and rolls. People with healthy sex drives will choose to try to have those get satisfied in some way. Chastity if done right can in fact address this but in an open way with effort from the mistress and not to just forget the sexual aspect of the submissive.

There is not shortage of dominants in this life who are damaged sexually, have natural low or zero sex drives or get their sexual needs met elsewhere that dream of the non sexual submissive dedicated to them 24/7. You can find someone similar but that is very tough to do and so they simply revert to cyber delusional theory.

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RE: Chastity tips for femdoms and subs: "It's just... - 10/21/2009 2:05:04 PM

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The ladies in question say that they use their chastised men for oral sex/queening, but that they deny their slaves any orgasms.

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RE: Chastity tips for femdoms and subs: "It's just... - 10/21/2009 2:08:05 PM

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This was excellent. I've never been locked, as my only long term Domme had no interest in it. I have a definite interest in it, if a Domme did, and we were on that level. I would definitely need to know she was getting a sick, devious, delicous pleasure out of it though. I have, done things like slept in a hood. Which makes for really poor sleep, but she was so turned on the next morning and day, that I loved doing it. Waking in the middle of the night and wanting to rip it off because I was hot and not resting well, was kind of a turnon when I knew I could not take it off.

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RE: Chastity tips for femdoms and subs: "It's just... - 10/21/2009 3:05:23 PM

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ORIGINAL: slavekal

The ladies in question say that they use their chastised men for oral sex/queening, but that they deny their slaves any orgasms.

My answer still stands. One taking a preference and working back to theory in a delusional manner. Maybe they have a significant other and they agree to that as a limit, maybe they are damaged in some way and have an adverse reaction to a penis in them or even touching one. Maybe they just do not like intercourse for whatever reason or oral and are just so selfish and inconsiderate not to help a person they should care for have their needs taken care of. Maybe they just hate men in such a way they think they would want this.

The more we demand from another person in terms of degree and time in their devotion toward us the equal amount has to come back to them. For those in a devoted and complete relationship that is going to include the submissive’s sexual needs being addressed, if not, problems will occur because that is just how most humans including submissives are.

Of course it could be a test to see if a man will not just be about sex. But in my opinion those sincere look for sincere people and more often then not there is more truth to the words then just a test. Let alone the dishonesty and failure to grasp and project reality if that is the actual case.

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RE: Chastity tips for femdoms and subs: "It's just... - 10/21/2009 8:04:48 PM

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Just wanted to throw my hat in the ring and say how much I LOVED this post! It was well thought out, well stated, and right on target. Thanks for posting AAkasha!

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RE: Chastity tips for femdoms and subs: "It's just... - 10/26/2009 6:22:01 AM

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Once again the fear of being put into a 24/7 chastity is what scares me most about it. Now I am substancially more in control of my sex drive than your average guy, I can go weeks without having any real interest in sexual gratification. And truth be told if I have a choice and opportunity I'll go for anal masturbation instead, so something like a milking deal would probably work best for me since I hate having such a short one shot fuse, and I find that anal masturbation or prostate stimulation makes everything last longer and more intense. But I'd feel I'd rather be with a dom that would at least occasionally take caqre of my needs rather than ignoring them 24/7.

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RE: Chastity tips for femdoms and subs: "It's just... - 10/26/2009 6:56:40 AM

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i have worn the houdini chastity cuff for 5 days released told to jerk re locked for 4 days. it was wild i want to try for 6 to 10 days next!

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RE: Chastity tips for femdoms and subs: "It's just... - 10/26/2009 5:20:19 PM

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ORIGINAL: slaveyslave

Boys can not be trusted by being able to let themselves out of chastity for a selfish release and reinstalling the device to pretend he has been good, but in case of an emergency he needs to be able to get out. The Owner can put the key in an envelope, seal it, kiss it to leave lip prints, and sign it. The slave can get out if it really is an emergency but if he uses it with not explanation he should be punished very very hard or let go because that would be unforgivable.

slavey

Speak for yourself here, slavey, but don't speak for the rest of us. i have been kept chaste both wearing and not wearing a device. While i preferred to wear the device for the feeling of security, the constant reminder of my position and the instant punishment of unauthorized erections, i was able to keep my hands off while wearing nothing. It's a matter of a sense of honor. A slave without a sense of honor is no slave at all.

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