LookieNoNookie
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ORIGINAL: Politesub53 quote:
ORIGINAL: Wickad This entire thread has lead me to wonder ... Why is it that a man must make himself LESS (ie: unmanly, doormat like, etc) in order to see me (a Dominant woman) as MORE (assertive, in charge, Dominant)? Frankly, I don't think he does. And neither do I think I need to be elevated (as some would argue) in order to Dominate a man. I think you are making a big assumption as to how submissive men feel. I dont have to feel less manly, nor elevate a woman to a higher level in order to submit. I view any potential partner as an equal, just as i do in a vanilla relationship. I, and I suspect many of the other regular males who post here, dont change personalitywise, depending on what company I am in. With some people I feel i can be more open, with others, less so. None of this has any bearing on how I interact with my partner. I took from Sunshines OP, that she was alluding more to how we ( submissive men ) cope with how society view us. I also dont think we have problems that are much different from any copule, in a relationship seen as unusual. IE, large age difference, inter race/faith, or homosexual. It is society that puts the pressure on people but thankfully society is evolving into something a bit more tolerant. Well put. I know the smarter one's (D or s) are quite clear that a submissive, male or female, doesn't need to "lower" themselves to be seen as adequate in the eyes of their dominant. And like the above....one differs with different people...the sub I was with one woman is not at all the sub I was with another. And that isn't acquiescence on my part...it's an acceptance of the fact that two people, when merged, regardless of who holds the power, are unique in the universe....and they, like a hybrid plant or seed....are equally unique, and will produce equally unique results. In a good relationship, that pairing brings out the best. As it should be.
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