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Best way - 3/27/2010 7:40:37 PM

XXlittlegirlXX

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I'm really in search for a Dominant/switch female in my area, for casual play. I don't know the best way to find one, beacuse it seems a lot of them are here are looking for pro sessions. I'm not sure about everyone else, but I'm so broke it's not even funny. I'm a sado-masochist switch myself, but been in some real need of a strong older lady to give me a good hurtin' and some bonding. I've always found it very difficult to find other females to be friends with, let alone bring it to a such a extreme private level.

What would be the best way to get it out there that I'm a masochist submissive in search of a Dominant sadist who I can pleasure in many ways, without having to pay. Or just any tips on how to message a Domme on here, and be respectful enough that they will give me the time of day.

Anything helps.

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RE: Best way - 3/27/2010 9:40:29 PM

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There really is no 'best way' as every woman varies in what she finds appealing in a message. If you click on the FAQ link in my signature, near the bottom of that thread there is another thread called "CMail Help: How to Attract Dominant Women". That thread was mostly written to assist male subs, but if you read through it, you may find some information that will assist you.

Additionally, you can visit local munches or bdsm demo/events and connect with people in a face-to-face environment. If you aren't having much success online, you may find the offline venues more rewarding. In the FAQ thread there is a link (drkdesyre) for local BDSM events held worldwide, I'm sure you will find something local to you.

Good luck.

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RE: Best way - 3/27/2010 11:30:19 PM

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For Gosh sake... you;re 21 and drop dead gorgeous from your pics. You're in Florida, which has kinksters all over.

Just start attending local events, fight off the men, and go for the women.

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RE: Best way - 3/27/2010 11:43:21 PM

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For Gosh sake... you;re 21 and drop dead gorgeous from your pics. You're in Florida, which has kinksters all over.

Just start attending local events, fight off the men, and go for the women.

What he said! It's kinda shallow, but us young and purties really do get the pick of the bunch in a real life situation.
Events are the way to go-that way you don't have any 'but is this person too gorgeous to be real?' crap either.

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RE: Best way - 3/28/2010 10:45:19 AM

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Turn off your computer.. find some groups, clubs.. munches etc in your area.. particularly one that caters to all women...

not sure where you live but CM is not necessarily going to help on its own

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RE: Best way - 3/28/2010 12:14:40 PM

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I'm in agreement with everyone here. There are several public play clubs, groups, and events in FL. All you'd have to do to meet people who could be potential play partners is to go to one.

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RE: Best way - 3/28/2010 9:51:30 PM

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not to sound repetive but go out and meet them. there are many groups in fl and lots of meet and greets munches to go to. dont be afraid to drive a couple of hours to a dungon or such as you may never know who you may meet. i met my Mistress at one 3 hours away and found She lived only 5 min away. use the search function for groups in your local area and start atendig. happy journeys

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RE: Best way - 4/1/2010 9:55:58 AM

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I guess it's like in all relations: you got to get out to find someone compatible. In the mean time you can experiment, also by paing for learning, but that's the commercial circuit. If it clicks with someone, you might start givng a few hints. If he/she commands you to take a towel to help with the drying of the dishes, thats the sign to hint: tell him/her you like it when the other is firm, manley...

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