CallaFirestormBW
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So the question/s are these, What does it mean to you when you either hear/see that phrase or use that phrase. To me, it means that the individual making that statement has some pretty solid ideas about how xhe expects someone who submits to hir to behave (on the dominant side)... or that xhe has particular ideas about how xhe wants to interact with the person xhe submits -to- (on the submissive side). However, part of the thrill for some dominant individuals comes from the constant -reminding- of the submissive-- it is actually a form of 'humiliation' activity where the dominant party makes comments or forces actions that push the submissive to reveal hir submission repetitively, either to the dominant party or in public. It does nothing for me, but apparently some people really get off on that aspect and seek out ways to constantly reinforce in the submissive that xhe has given up control. quote:
What is a submissive's place and how does one put/keep him/her in it? For me, a submissive's "place" is whatever role/responsibilities suits hir talents, skills, and hir agreed-upon interaction within our household. I don't tend to have submissive individuals in service to me who have to be -forced- into keeping to the aspect that they chose, therefore, there are usually very few outward signs of me "controlling" my servants -- the choreography of our 'dance of leadership and submission' is done behind the scenes, and to the casual observer, there is rarely anything that would define us as being particularly 'submissive' or 'dominant' per se. quote:
Is that something you look for in a D/s or M/s relatiionship and how does that manifest to you. As I've mentioned several times before, both in this post and in other related posts, I tend to gather-in submissive individuals who are yielding by nature. I tend to prefer not to have to push, cajole, force, wheedle, bribe, or humiliate my servants into yielding to me, and I tend to believe that they will either yield on their own, or they will not, as a natural part of their own progress and development... and the ways in which we interact will flow out of that natural expression of yielding -- or out of that servant's decision to re-claim that which xhe had yielded in the past. quote:
In addition, are you looking to conquer or be conquered and how does that manifest? While I have yielded in the past, for specific cause, I have -never- been conquered. In the same way, while I seek out those who choose to yield as a way of being, I do not choose to "conquer" them -- merely to allow both of us to live our our natural tendencies in a way that is productive and challenges us. Calla
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*** Said to me recently: "Look, I know you're the "voice of reason"... but dammit, I LIKE being unreasonable!!!!" "Your mind is more interested in the challenge of becoming than the challenge of doing." Jon Benson, Bodybuilder/Trainer
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