BitaTruble
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TV's, post-ops, no offense! But do you have any idea how hard it is to find a female dominant even when all of the matches are women?
It has nothing to do with gender or orientation, actually, but mutual compatibility and that can be tough to find no matter what your orientation or gender may be. I'm a female, submissive and it took me damn near 15 years before finding the right relationship for me. It can happen but if anyone promised you an easy fix, they lied. There ain't no such animal.
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1. For every dominant woman there are about 25 submissive men
Opinions are not facts.
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2a. Women unlike men have much less a need to advertise their single-ness
Cite your source, please because unless I actually do advertise that I'm single no one is going to know and less are going to care since single or married doesn't seem to be a deal breaker for a lot of people. How do you know the women to whom you write are single? Don't they have some sort of information in their profile or search criteria as to what they are seeking? Isn't such a form of advertising? If you read my profile. you will see it clearly specifies that I am not looking, not single but if I were, you can be damn sure that I'm going to state such to increase my chance of finding a potential match if I am so inclined.
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2b. What this means is that if we have non-women posting themselves as women, we get a disproportionate amount of men in the search - I have hidden at least a hundred men from the search (every time I see a wrongly classified page I hide it) and they are still overwhelming the submissive male's search for a dominant female. This hampers the effectiveness of the website.
You have a winning strategy. You hide the profiles which do not work for you. That's great. Things are probably not going to be changed just to make your searching easier so you will be better served to save your energy for your search instead of putting so much effort into complaining about your search.
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2c. The reason TV's are drowning out the dominant females is that basic difference between a woman and a man - I am not telling you how to define yourself (and never will) and I say as respectfully as possible, TV's advertising as females are starting to outnumber the women on this site.
Not even close to true. Stick to facts. Twisting and spinning to make things seem worse than they are to gain sympathy only damages your credibility.
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The true dominant woman is a rare breed and she is rarely available. It is not fair to the submissive males to drown her out.
Dominant women are not bred and if you are worried about life being fair, your parents did you a grave injustice by not pointing out to you while you were still in grammar school that life is not fair.
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The difference between a pseudo-female and a female is that pseudos still have that male desperation to be selected (something women don't have to worry about)
I can only surmise from this little tidbit that you haven't had much experience with females. Geeze.. they even have a TV show about desperation and the female gender. It's called Desparate Housewives.
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so if you put your profile in that category you are putting a practical barrier between two groups of people who work hard to find each other to live the life they feel they need.
It's not at all a practical barrier. You hide the profile and move on. You already knew that though.
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3. Moral grounds: it seems wrong for a TV to post as a dominant female and assume a position of power under false pretenses to try to manipulate submissive males who are looking for what they truly want.
Your morals perhaps, but not everyone has the same morals nor makes the gross assumption that false pretenses are even in play. That's *your* notion, not a fact in evidence.
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4. There is a category for TV's and if submissive males are looking for them, they should know where to find them.
And you are not in that catagory so take the 5 seconds to hide those with whom you are not compatible and your little problem is well solved.
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Again I make this protest with the utmost respect for those involved in this practice, and I mean no offense, but in this lifestyle the right Woman and the right man have a hard enough time finding each other without all the biological females being drowned out unfairly and blocked by a group that should technically be in another category.
YTD
There's that fair word again. Life ain't fair. You really need to get used to things not being handed to you on a silver platter and even if something does get handed to you like that, rest assured you will still have to take plenty of elbow grease to keep things from getting tarnished.
As an aside.. LadyP did not come back and write because she is female or dominant. Female dominants are not some mythical beasts whose word is always good based on their gender or orientation. LadyP posted because she happens to be a *person* who is true to her word.
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