GoddessManko
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ORIGINAL: GoddessManko There is no time I should have to be "sexual" with a sub to keep him, I DEFINE THE RULES. Is 2 years a little too long? My partner wouldn't have sex with me for that long. While we weren't D/s, I considered leaving and I'd expect a sub to as well. I just love the guy too much so I couldn't leave. At that point, only 2 years into a relationship before it went celibate, I started to think "ok, he really doesn't like me." Not an issue now, but I see there being limits on that one... Hmmm...good question, I never deal with subs who have limits outside of the ones they give me, I make them fully aware of the limits and requirements. Chastity is hard for someone with a high sex drive, but I never put on my subs something I cannot handle myself so I know it's not "incredulous". Being a Dom is work, planning, coordination. The sub pretty much just has to obey. There is SO much energy that goes into domming and I think that's something a lot of subs often overlook, and this is both with sexual or non sexual play. If someone is dedicating their precious TIME that won't be regained to you, I think it should be appreciated despite the circumstances circumventing it. Unless this person goes out of their way to violate limits. That's something I find very little tolerance from, and there's nothing I abhor more than a defiant sub who wants to get his dick wet, LOL. But you know, that's just me, I know for men, sex is a powerful tool, so controlling a man's cock for example is quite a thrill for me personally. Sex is an extremely huge deal for men mostly, they can put up with any pain but that's where the real intent shows I believe. :) One example of subtle domming while sub is unaware of the test: politics. I once had a sub who I placed not only in chastity but I would debate him in politics just because of how furious it would make him. He would be googling away furiously and I'd be laughing in my head. That's a bit of sadism. Didn't mean I didn't like him, it was just another way outside of sexual context I enjoyed toying with him and it's the only time really he would defy me, I liked it, LOL. And he had no idea I was doing it purely for amusement. :) But then, I posted on another blog that on the yahoo blogs pertaining to Lifestyle D/s, I was surprised that 7 out of 15 Doms who answered a question about CASTRATION as a YES. That for me is a step into the extreme, but for some, it's completely OK, I once had an engineer strongly suggest to me he wanted such a thing. He said he was open to "body modification" and I didn't want to even look at his pics from his previous Dom. On the other hand I have seen interesting things done with rubberbands and a cock that makes all kinds of strange colors emit from it, LOL. So everyone's limits differ. It comes down to compatibility and respecting limits, whatever they are. If you make rules, RESPECT THEM, very big deal. Hope that offers perspective! :)
< Message edited by GoddessManko -- 3/8/2014 2:16:51 PM >
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Happy consent is the name of the game. You are my perfect Mistress. - my collared. http://submissivemale.blogspot.com/ The Bird of Hermes is my name, eating my wings to make me tame.
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