Gauge
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ORIGINAL: Slutjohn i am new to this life style and will have my first meeting with my Keeper a week from now and wanted some advice from anyone that would like to share Since you give little or nothing regarding the subject of the advice you seek, I will just kind of shotgun my answers and hope they apply. First of all, you are new to this, so slow down, and think first before you do anything. At the top of the General BDSM forum there is a thread that is stickied with a book list. I suggest you pick one or more of them up and read it cover to cover. My suggestion would be The Loving Dominant by John Warren. How much do you know about the person you are meeting? Have you done a background check? Do you know what a safe call is? Are you meeting in a public place? Is there an expectation of physical play? Have you discussed your limits, physical, mental or BDSM related limits? If not, you need to establish them before a hand is laid on you. If you have, has your partner acknowledged them and said that he understands them? This is all very important to do. Look, you are going to be restrained by this person, possibly immobilized, do you trust them to do this to you? If you hesitate even half a second before answering that question, then you should not allow that to happen until you do trust them... not blind trust either, actual trust. I'm going to repeat myself here because I cannot stress it enough, slow down and think first before you do anything. If this is the first time you are meeting, it needs to be in public, not a bedroom, simply for your own safety. When you do meet them, just be yourself. One last thing, you really should change your forum avatar, no one really wants to see your naughty bits.
< Message edited by Gauge -- 9/29/2016 10:44:09 AM >
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