raiken
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ORIGINAL: SirKenin No, actually, but I had to think about that for a minute. Please allow Me to explain why. When My wife and I first separated, I wanted to try again, but she did not. Finally, as time went by, she agreed to give Me another chance, but I had to put in all the effort because I am the one that wanted the chance. She did not. So, not willing to admit failure and give up I agreed. I starting putting in the effort. Now it seems that effort is paying off as she is starting to put in effort of her own and things seem more like they will heal. If they do in fact heal, I will be forever thankful that I never gave up. That is a VERY good way to view it. i did the same with my ex, in a way, sort of, i can still say that i never gave up, and so when i look back i am FREE of regret. However, when he asked me for TWO second chances LOL, he STILL didn't put the effort and so i had nothing left in me after everything. i put the effort twice over for his chances! But that is okay, for i listened to my instincts and did what i felt was right, and i learned valuable life lessons from the whole experience and it actually served to make me a better person after all was said and done. Now we are close friends, the closest we have ever been, and that is some consolation, for i want the father of my children to be a man they can feel proud of, if at all possible...*grinz Hope it works for you.
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