Sinergy
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ORIGINAL: behindmirrors Hello everyone- I was just thinking about this, having looked at another thread, and didn't feel like hijacking so I thought I would post another thread asking about the subject of "breaking" a submissive or slave. Now, I am not going to even bring up anything non-consentual here, because that's not the purpose of this site, but my question is how each of you views "being broken" by a Dom/me. I see this in a few ways- the obvious negative connotation to "break a person's spirit", and also to "break someone in", meaning to teach them and push boundaries, to make them comfortable in their role over time, which could be more for a positive. How do you feel about this term, and what does it mean to you? Is it always a negative, or can there be a positive as well? Do any of you have a stage like this in your relationships, or has it ever happened in an experience you had, positive or negative? If so, what were some of the things that happened that caused this breaking? I know this seems like an odd series of questions, but it's something that my Dom and I have discussed before, and seeing it here reminded me of that conversation, so I would really appreciate the feedback. Thanks, behindmirrors. Hello A/all, The term "being broken" comes from the human practice of "breaking" animals to become submissive to human control. Where I have heard this used deals specifically with horses, although I have heard some use it about dogs. From that standpoint, a person gets a youngish colt and bring it into the paddock. The colt needs to learn that it must do what it's "master" wants it to do, but it is young and filled with self interest. I do not mean to make these seem oppositional, the terms I will be using tend to merge over time. In the old days, a horse was generally broken using forced riding, lunging, and other practices intended to beat it into a sense of submission. At the end of this, the horse would be broken of it's independent will and do what it's trainer wanted it to do. Then a practice known to some as "horse whispering" came about, wherein the horses natural inclination to be submissive to an alpha was used, although in the case of people the alpha was human, as proven to the horse. I have had this discussion before, but my approach to training a submissive tends to go with the latter. There is an element, to me, of brutality in the first method. She wants to serve me, she needs to serve me, so I will use her impulses to teach her to serve me. Just me, could be wrong, but there you go. Sinergy
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