MasterFireMaam
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Joined: 3/1/2006 From: Charleston, WV Status: offline
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you MUST work on your profile. A reposting of what I told someone else (But I've changed the age to match yours). Think of your profile as a resume. When you right a resume, you include a goal, education, experience and skills. What is your goal? What kind of relationship ARE you looking for? A monogamous one with someone you want to marry or a poly one with someone who is gathering a household? As for your education, start reading. Skip the porn and, for the most part, the fiction. Read these non-fiction books: Ties that Bind SM 101 Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns To Love, To Obey, To Serve Slavecraft The Path of Service: Guideposts for Excellence Loving Dominant Different Loving (if you can get through it...it can be dry) Remember that these books are often opinions...take what works for you and leave the rest. If you are looking to be a bottom for kinky sex, some of these books won't apply...but they will if you are looking to be of service to someone. While, at 21, it's hard to list kink experience...but how about physical experience? Can you cook? Clean? Mow the grass? Do you even want to do these things in the kind of relationship you are looking for? If you're looking to be a sexual bottom, you might list the skills you have there or the skills you wish to aquire, but know, sexual bottoms are a dime a dozen. A few other things: Even if you want kinky sex, don't list your fantasies in your profile. Even in sex, we want to be the focus...this is about you serving us, even when this is in a sexual manner. When the Dominant wants to know your sexual fantasies, they will ask. Hopefully, they match, then everyone is happy! List what physical and psychological boundaries you have. Everyone has them. Perhaps you'd rather not be maimed for life...or to be severely humiliated in public. Saying that you have no limits is crap...and dangerous. Saying that, if you find someone who is a match, then it can SEEM like you have no limits, because her limits are yours, too, IS correct. Don't settle. If there are big areas where you don't match, don't force it just because you really want to be owned. It simply will not work. Master Fire
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The power of who we are can be intoxicating. The power of who we could be is humbling. ----- Ms Relationship Books ----- BDSM How-To Books
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