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RE: I Admit It I........ - 4/8/2011 3:24:09 PM   
sirsholly


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I admit X-rays will just prove what I already know.
Sophie, i am not going to tell you to get your ass to the hospital for medical care. You need to do so, but you already know this, as you have been in this position before.

What i am going to tell you is you will be in this position again...and again...and again. It is not a good place to be, is it? The emotions are more brutal than the physical pain, aren't they?

Get used to it, Babe...if you are not already, because you are taking the road of a victim and it is not a road that has many exits once you are rolling along. Your idea of isolating and nursing your wounds is the epitome of a victim mentality. More than that, you are enabling him to do this again and again.

Break this cycle Sophie and do it NOW. You know how...get your ass to the ER and tell the physician what happened and who did it to you. Follow the guidance of the ER staff, as they are sadly well versed in cases of domestic violence. And for the love of God Sophie, believe them when they tell you the majority of victims they see will eventually end up wearing a toe tag.

Fight back, Baby. Break the victim mentality that you are in. Do not be a victim of yourself. You fell into that trap and you have to haul yourself out.

Do not do this against him...do it for you.


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RE: I Admit It I........ - 4/8/2011 3:51:19 PM   
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I have been out all day and seeing this makes me mad...that someone is an abuser and the receiver is not listening to excellent advise. 

Quit being an enabler.  You have to still true to yourself and being a victim is wrong.

I got out 2 years ago because the situation was shifting too fast and my wishes was being violated, was will as my limits.

Now I am fine , working on the bipolar and soon will get the bypass that I need (besides going to a con with Lizard).

don't let that abuser win...drop him like he is a rat in a restaurant...DROP HIM!!!!   


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RE: I Admit It I........ - 4/8/2011 4:18:19 PM   
Daddysredhead


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Status: offline 		I admit I posted that I wasn't going to comment a week or so ago and another poster tried to hang me and at least one other lady on here for appearing "disapproving" of continuing the chaos until I ripped said asshole a new one. (and if that person wants to "discuss" that incident with me, s/he better damn well take it to the other side and not put me on blast here bc it will not end well, just sayin...)

I admit that I'm not going to sit here with my thumb up my ass and say sweet nothings like maybe it will get better. It won't.

I admit that I usually don't make broad, sweeping statements such as this, but dammit, I am now.

I admit that women who don't think enough of their kids (if you want to mess up yourself that's one thing), to get help in some fashion when shit like this is going on, piss me the fuck off.

I admit that I understand because I was there (not physical abuse, but verbal & emotional), and I know that it's hard as hell to reach out and get help when you feel stuck, confused or like nothing will work. But you do it anyway... because, if nothing else, the kids deserve to see a good life modeled for them because they aren't old enough to make those choices and get out of a bad situation.

I admit that negative attention seeking and the previously mentioned victim mentality only works so long and people get sick of hearing about it.

I admit there are other options than isolating oneself or drinking or drugging to get through this, and some very smart, caring women have enumerated them above.

I admit that it seems like the addiction you once mentioned kicking out of your life has been replaced with another... continuing in a bad relationship & being the victim.

I admit it seems like a good time to choose a better existence for mama and babies to me. YMMV, all I know is that I'm living proof that it can work when a woman puts her mind to it.

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RE: I Admit It I........ - 4/8/2011 4:40:03 PM   
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ORIGINAL: KMsAngel

i've just heard from my daughter (aged 25), that one of her high school friends, with 2 young children, still back in hometown, was murdered by her ex.


what she said

not to mention the countless cases around the world where people not only potentially fail to protect themselves but where their own children end up getting hurt (and worse) due to the hands of their partners and due to insufficient practice from professionals realising it, as it was with this dreadful incident here in recent years

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1194161/Baby-P-doctor-failed-spot-boys-broken-sues-hospital-sacking-her.html

Its up to you to break the cycle or not sophie and I will only respond to this once as I agree with LaTigresse...I am not going to keep licking wounds from someone who knows how to do better but fails to take actions for herself.

My parents didn't bother to stop abuse, and did on top of that their own part to it in different ways. My parents simply never cared about their second kid, but I am blessed that my grandparents did...which gave me my resilience.

So quite frankly, being abused doesn't have to mean not to care about myself to change that situation.

There is a difference between living as a victim and living as a survivor.

And quite frankly, I love myself enough to make sure to look after myself not to remain a victim.



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RE: I Admit It I........ - 4/8/2011 5:08:08 PM   
sirsholly


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i lied.

i have to say this...

Sophie...i am highlighting a few posts and i pray you read them very carefully. These posters are speaking from their hearts. Hopefully they will forgive me for editing their words..

quote:

ORIGINAL: Daddysredhead

I admit that I'm not going to sit here with my thumb up my ass and say sweet nothings like maybe it will get better. It won't.

I admit that women who don't think enough of their kids (if you want to mess up yourself that's one thing), to get help in some fashion when shit like this is going on, piss me the fuck off.



quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse
Oh yeah..........the co-worker. Her husband still uses her for a punching bag. Her son's do it to their S.O.s and her daughter gets it from her husband.....as do her children. Hell of a legacy wouldn't you say?


quote:

ORIGINAL: KMsAngel

i've just heard from my daughter (aged 25), that one of her high school friends, with 2 young children, still back in hometown, was murdered by her ex.


These are powerful words spoken by powerful women. Please listen to them, Sophie.

The complacency you are demonstrating  might seem heroic in your eyes. Perhaps you see yourself as stoic. I am very sorry to say i see you as abusive to your children.

Read what LaT wrote...

"Her son's do it to their S.O.s and her daughter gets it from her husband.....as do her children. Hell of a legacy wouldn't you say?"

This is the legacy you are leaving for your children? THIS is what you are teaching them? You do not have that right. You simply do not have it.

Stop with the victim mentality and be the woman you want your children to see.





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RE: I Admit It I........ - 4/8/2011 5:20:58 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		I admit there's a part of Me that wishes I had known Holly and DRH when I was a young parent.  I could have used your wisdom.  The Things and the LO are so blessed to have Mothers like you.

I freely admit that I paled as a Mother in comparison.


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RE: I Admit It I........ - 4/8/2011 5:21:37 PM   
Kalista07


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Status: offline 		I admit it Sophie there comes a point in your life when you must face the reality that you are no longer a victim you've become a volunteer.

I admit it sweetie, your ship has arrived. You are totally volunteering for this level of depravity and abuse.

I admit it you are also setting the stage for your son to spend his adolescent and adult life degrading and beating the shit out of women, and potentially going to prison for these things.

I admit at this point you don't need sympathy you need people who are just going to be straight up honest with you, and here's the truth: I think you need professional help of several varieties..

I admit at this point the very last thing you need to do is to have any access to alcohol, drugs, fire arms, or frankly your child.

I admit that I think you need to stop trying kill yourself by having other people beat your ass or  assault you. If you are that desperate you need to admit yourself to the hospital.

Kali

< Message edited by Kalista07 -- 4/8/2011 5:47:00 PM >

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RE: I Admit It I........ - 4/8/2011 5:23:05 PM   
Phoenixpower


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Status: offline 		I admit I am relieved that Summers ordeal seems to be over now as it is 3.5 hours ago that she had her last cramps and blood loss.

I admit she is curled up next to me lieing very relaxed on her back, presenting me her belly...

I admit a moment ago she pushed her claws from one paw gently against my thumb as if she is saying "I am ok now, thank you for helping me today."

I admit for now it looks like as if she will be fine to wait with her check up until her son gets checked in to get fixed next week.

I admit this was the worst day of my life in regards to my furrys over here.

I admit a moment ago I let curry in as the noises outside were as bad as never before.

I admit I don't know who was threatening him, sadly, but am glad that he is inside now...and wish spicy would be inside, too.

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RE: I Admit It I........ - 4/8/2011 5:23:39 PM   
gothikbutterfly


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Status: offline 		i admit i had a broken spacebar and tried to post on the forum with my old keyboard and ticked off a couple of people because i didn't explain.


Sorry folks

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RE: I Admit It I........ - 4/8/2011 5:29:08 PM   
Daddysredhead


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ORIGINAL: sirsholly

The complacency you are demonstrating  might seem heroic in your eyes. Perhaps you see yourself as stoic. I am very sorry to say i see you as abusive to your children.


I admit that Holly can quote me anytime.

I admit that, in turn, I am quoting her for truth.

I admit that when I was working in Juvenile & Domestic Relations Court, this was the type of thing that could get kids put in foster care until the enabling parent got help and proved that the home situation had been remedied to the Court's satisfaction.

I admit that I know you love those babies. Now is the time to show them.

I admit that LaT's post was spot-on. The legacy continues, oftentimes, we choose the path it takes.

I admit that my ex-husband (my "Manny" as I call him now) and I saw that our relationship was destroying our children, esp. Thing 1 (who has an emotional disorder that was made worse by seeing and hearing us fight), and we finally decided that we couldn't do that to the two precious babies that God saw fit to let us bring into the world. So, we divorced. It was hard, but we have worked like mad to become good role models for them, and now, in his hard times, he stays with us until he can get a job again, and his own place. We are best friends again, with no emotional attachment except that we both cherish our kids, and want the best for them, and will do whatever we can to help the other be a good parent.

I admit that if you two don't have children together, there is no real reason to be in each other's lives, except that you all have become addicted to the chaos.

I admit that walking away from him, can mean taking a step closer to your kids.

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RE: I Admit It I........ - 4/8/2011 5:35:00 PM   
frazzle


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Status: offline 		i admit after the post before yours you talking about your cats, show your complete lack of empathy for anyone but yourself.

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RE: I Admit It I........ - 4/8/2011 5:42:50 PM   
frazzle


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Status: offline 		forget admits.

My son watched the abuse i got from my family, He could have followed suit. Thankfully he, due to my parenting decided that wasnt acceptable.

I only do family stuff with my son beside me, he will not cave in and allow it.

Does that make and him popular??? hell no.

Does it mean we can go to family stuff, Yes.

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RE: I Admit It I........ - 4/8/2011 5:42:55 PM   
Phoenixpower


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ORIGINAL: frazzle

i admit after the post before yours you talking about your cats, show your complete lack of empathy for anyone but yourself.


I admit it ain't my fault when you can't read that I had my say.

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RE: I Admit It I........ - 4/8/2011 5:44:38 PM   
frazzle


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Status: offline 		Whatever hun. Your cats are far more important than people.

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RE: I Admit It I........ - 4/8/2011 5:52:04 PM   
MaxsBoy


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ORIGINAL: frazzle

Whatever hun. Your cats are far more important than people.


I admit that maybe the best thing we can do for Sophie right now is to let the conversation move on rather than feeding into her drama.

I admit Phoenix said her piece, then moved on.  Others will probably follow suit.

I admit there's really nothing more any of us can do.  We are, as one poster says, just pixels on a screen.  If Sophie wants help, she'll have to reach out and get it for herself.  None of us can rescue her.  All we can do is give her our best advice, then move on.

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RE: I Admit It I........ - 4/8/2011 5:52:10 PM   
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ORIGINAL: frazzle

i admit after the post before yours you talking about your cats, show your complete lack of empathy for anyone but yourself.


I admit that this admit doesn't say anything good about you and your caring for others either.

quote:

what she said

not to mention the countless cases around the world where people not only potentially fail to protect themselves but where their own children end up getting hurt (and worse) due to the hands of their partners and due to insufficient practice from professionals realising it, as it was with this dreadful incident here in recent years

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1194161/Baby-P-doctor-failed-spot-boys-broken-sues-hospital-sacking-her.html

Its up to you to break the cycle or not sophie and I will only respond to this once as I agree with LaTigresse...I am not going to keep licking wounds from someone who knows how to do better but fails to take actions for herself.

My parents didn't bother to stop abuse, and did on top of that their own part to it in different ways. My parents simply never cared about their second kid, but I am blessed that my grandparents did...which gave me my resilience.

So quite frankly, being abused doesn't have to mean not to care about myself to change that situation.

There is a difference between living as a victim and living as a survivor.

And quite frankly, I love myself enough to make sure to look after myself not to remain a victim.



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I admit the above, posted by phoenix farther up on this page, shows you to be wrong in your admit.

I admit that it would be a mighty fine thing for you to admit you were wrong, especially to someone who has had the rough day that phoenix has.

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RE: I Admit It I........ - 4/8/2011 5:52:24 PM   
Kalista07


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ORIGINAL: frazzle

Whatever hun. Your cats are far more important than people.


I admit it Frazzle just treat this poster like a bright light.... Don't look directly into it and don't make direct contact with it......

Kali

< Message edited by Kalista07 -- 4/8/2011 5:54:26 PM >

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RE: I Admit It I........ - 4/8/2011 5:53:59 PM   
SorceressJ


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Status: offline 		I admit that I think frazzle may be misinterpreting the post she refers to. I admit that we all know the subject of the hour and are feeling sensitive and upset about it, but that should not all of a sudden mean that that's all there is to come here and talk about; this is not a thread which is dedicated to a single subject. Please, good people, let us not allow this thread to be infected so, with negativity, misunderstandings and strife; we all care about sophie and want the very best for her, but in the end, nothing any of us says will matter any more than it has prior to this - she must make the choice for herself (and her child).

Love and peace, now more than ever.. )O(

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RE: I Admit It I........ - 4/8/2011 5:56:55 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		I admit, quit the crap.  This thread is here for anyone to get anything off of their chest at any given moment.  If that's about cats, so be it.

I admit that I've come to this thread without reading the recent history and vented about what was happening in My own world.  I admit that I have always found this a safe place to do so.  If that changes, I'm out.

I admit that I have pissed and moaned here at times.

I admit, every time I did, I felt better for it.


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RE: I Admit It I........ - 4/8/2011 5:58:00 PM   
SorceressJ


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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I admit, quit the crap.  This thread is here for anyone to get anything off of their chest at any given moment.  If that's about cats, so be it.

I admit that I've come to this thread without reading the recent history and vented about what was happening in My own world.  I admit that I have always found this a safe place to do so.  If that changes, I'm out.

I admit that I have pissed and moaned here at times.

I admit, every time I did, I felt better for it.



THIS. Every word.

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