angelikaJ
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ORIGINAL: YSG I admit, I came to an epiphany yesterday. I admit, there's times Im too nice to people, and end up feeling taken advantage of when they arent so nice to me. I admit, I think the most effective soluton would be dont be so nice to people, especially the ones who dont deserve it. I admit, this concerns me because I dont like being a dick to people either. I admit, I just watched the US Mens Basketball team play Nigeria I admt, it wasnt even close (156-73). It really isn't a matter of being too nice vs: being a dick. It is about having healthy boundaries with other people (and sometimes ourselves). I choose to treat people wit compassion and kindness. However, when they behave towards me in a way that does not feel good, I can choose to detach from them, I can choose to let them know that when they do X, I feel Z; there are options. It is easy to want to lash out when one feels cornered or like one doesn't have any choice but to accept bad behavior from others. Choice = Empowerment. Impotent rage is a nasty thing. We always have more options than we think we do, provided we know that positive action has to come from us. We can't always count on people to sweep their side of the street, but if someone is throwing garbage out a window, you don't have to stand there and bitch about the garbage they are dumping on you. You can always move out of the way (and being a dick has nothing to do with that).
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