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RE: BBW's, Is this something as a society that we shoul... - 5/12/2007 12:38:49 AM

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If someone is "very happy" with how they look as they have stated...overweight and all...then why are they posting a pic of a beautiful and "normal-sized" woman on their profile? That is going to be like "false advertising" to most men. You know how they respond VISUALLY and oftentimes only look at pics and don't even read your profile. I thought that WAS the person who had posted until I READ her post all the way through. When you tell most men that is NOT you, it only gives them a reason to respond in that rude and inappropriate manner...which, alot of them do. I say...be proud of WHO you are and HOW you look. Post a pic or pics of yourself unless you have some other reason for not doing so...ie. anonymity purposes. I have several pics of myself on my profile...in all my "overweight splendor"...however, I don't have any full body pics that are recent. Apparently, I photograph smaller than I am. I tell men up front that I need to lose 50 pounds and they just don't believe me. What do they want? Me to shove my "fat ass" in their face and prove it? LOL Obviously, some of them do!

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I notice that all those that have posted on this thread to say they are happy with their weight have real pictures of themselves either as thier avatar or on their profile so assume you are talking about other threads you have read.

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RE: BBW's, Is this something as a society that we shoul... - 5/12/2007 1:00:45 AM

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I am 302 I went to the doctors today , absolutely clean bill of health, except for an over production of histamine in my system right now causing welts. I also have a healthy outlook on food and do not obsess about things like the one ladies co worker, worried that eating 4 bites of food.

There's also someone on here who's skeletally thin but thinks she'd be sexier is she lost 5 to 10 more pounds, she's obsessed with weight loss, and does not look very healthy due to being skellatal. So I'd say us women with healthy self esteme despite being fat, and not obsessing about tiny things, like 4 bites of meat are by far more healthy than the sticks running about worrying about eeach tiny bite when their deadly skinny.

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RE: BBW's, Is this something as a society that we shoul... - 5/12/2007 1:32:37 AM

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I thought about putting this in the health and safety area but figured I would get a better response here. I do not wish to offend anyone or have people think that I only envision real woman as 90lb supermodels. As a person who works in the healthcare industry I am appalled that someone could even be more than 100lbs over their ideal body weight let alone think it was something to flaunt. For those of you that belive the term BBW applies to a voluptuous full figured woman I have no problems with you and can understand the application of the term.

I guess I have lit the fire and look forward to your responses

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RE: BBW's, Is this something as a society that we shoul... - 5/12/2007 2:50:45 AM

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'Though, I'm not the fair, Mia, I would venture a gues-timate of Forty-eleventeen. wwg.
In the northern climes, I enjoy the heat that radiates from a heavy woman; in the South, I kinda-sorta like them less fattened, but still chunky. I don't haraunge those that are charmingly thin, I love those body forms that are ample, or even just a tad less than thick, but, I'm sometimes very aggressive about using a female, hard strokes, spankin' her asscheeks while, I eump-hump her and those that are plumb skinny make Me nervous and if yhey're assless, I doubt that, I'll be making use of them in any manner.
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MzMia, how many hundreds of pages do you think this one will go?

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RE: BBW's, Is this something as a society that we shoul... - 5/12/2007 3:16:25 AM

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As a person who works in the healthcare industry I am appalled that someone could even be more than 100lbs over their ideal body weight let alone think it was something to flaunt.

IMHO, the view you are seeing this through is flawed. Your healthcare industry has made us all very aware of how excess weight effects our bodys mechanics. Society has crawled up on that band wagon and promoted ~thin~ to the point of our fashion industry has created those 90 pound models. What you are calling ~encourage~ has nothing to do with the mechanic's of the working body, healthy self esteem is created
in gray matter.
So, to answer your question...... Yes it is something we should encourage.

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RE: BBW's, Is this something as a society that we shoul... - 5/12/2007 3:19:16 AM

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I kind of like that idea of a gym for fatties only, lol. Can I be the first to join?

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RE: BBW's, Is this something as a society that we shoul... - 5/12/2007 3:24:22 AM

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I don't see anyone encouraging obesity. I see some responders saying they have health problems or like the way they look. What's your issue? If you a woman doesn't "measure up" to your standard, then don't contact her. Hell's bells...THAT was easy. Next?

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RE: BBW's, Is this something as a society that we shoul... - 5/12/2007 5:06:30 AM

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As a person who works in the healthcare industry I am appalled that someone could even be more than 100lbs over their ideal body weight let alone think it was something to flaunt.

so explain why you're appalled? why should it matter to you if that's NOT your preference? i'm a bbbw (big breasted black woman) and i find it appalling that the general populous pass their negativity on others like myself. if God (or which higher power you believe in) wanted all of us to look exactly like a underfed super model then He would have molded and created us the same. what a bore this world would be! we are created in many shapes and sizes for a reason.

i love to flaunt my size around ...i'm not ashamed because i'm fat, overweight or whatever you want to call it ...it doesn't mean i'm scarfing down McDonald's every day either to maintain this shape - i exercise and eat right ...lost more inches again ths week. besides this bbbw submissive does attract Doms as well as vanillas who enjoy meeting a woman with some "meat" on her bones ...not a toothpick they're afraid they might break.

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RE: BBW's, Is this something as a society that we shoul... - 5/12/2007 5:33:28 AM

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Almost every female in my ex's family has a "weight problem". This could be due to some sort of family over feeding or lack of exercise, but given they dont all live together and havent since childhood, this is unlikely I feel. Additionally, the "weight problem" only begins in the mid twenties/early thirties for them, before which they are of pretty "normal" size. This tells me that it must be something genetic that causes it - some trigger within them that causes them to put on weight in adulthood.

Some of them have been to gyms and tried all sorts to reduce their sizes. Of those that have done this and persevered, yes they have lost weight and reduced size, but even the most committed has never realised a "normal" size. There seems to be a limit, beyond which their bodies are not meant to go and will not go, regardless of diet and exercise. Again, this points for me to some genetic trait that makes their larger size, normal for them.

Then there are people like me in the world. I can eat whatever I want, and these days at least I take little exercise. By "common sense" thinking, I ought to be 300lbs in weight. But I'm not - my system just seems to refuse to put on weight. Even in my weight training days, when I ate thousands of calories a day to try to get bigger, it made no difference whatever. It would seem then, that my genetics will not allow me to be anything other than the size which is right for me.

So having established that some are simply not genetically built to be anything size 12 or under, we have to look into the psychological effects of this in a society where size 12 or over is considered a terrible thing. The effects I have seen are that these women, all of whom are attractive women and generally nice people, all have incredibly bad self image. And this only seems to make their "problem" worse, in that they give up and get on with confirming to themselves and others that they are fat and convince themselves that they are unattractive, despite husbands et al confirming the contrary.

Yes, there likely are some (GUYS and gals) who overeat and dont exercise enough, but some people are born to be of a certain size, and the judgements of others about them and their size are not helpful. If one doesnt like it, then thats one's opinion, but it does no good whatever to keep going on about it, and in fact only does harm.

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RE: BBW's, Is this something as a society that we shoul... - 5/12/2007 5:44:36 AM

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RE: BBW's, Is this something as a society that we shoul... - 5/12/2007 5:46:46 AM

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ORIGINAL: LadyEllen

Almost every female in my ex's family has a "weight problem". This could be This tells me that it must be something genetic that causes it - some trigger within them that causes them to put on weight in adulthood.

hypo theyroidism will do it, otherwise i cant think of anything else that could cause it.

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RE: BBW's, Is this something as a society that we shoul... - 5/12/2007 6:14:24 AM

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We all know that Americans have an obesity problem. I don't think most people are encouraging it.
I think that many people have learned to love and accept who they are.
What is it about obesity that bothers you so much?

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RE: BBW's, Is this something as a society that we shoul... - 5/12/2007 6:19:54 AM

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"Ignorance and being shallow and vapid by judging someone simply on the basis of their weight: Is THIS something as a society that we should encourage????"......slave luci

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RE: BBW's, Is this something as a society that we shoul... - 5/12/2007 6:31:08 AM

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no slaveluci, but many in this lifestyle are far from being accepting.
Many in this lifestyle are just as superficial as vanilla folks, maybe even more so.

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RE: BBW's, Is this something as a society that we shoul... - 5/12/2007 6:57:07 AM

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Well it shouldn't be encouraged if only because it's just unhealthy. I like women of all sizes, for bdsm/sex/friendship, but wouldn't marry a bbw mostly because my partner would literally have to keep up with vanilla activities, ie hiking, biking, etc.....

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RE: BBW's, Is this something as a society that we shoul... - 5/12/2007 7:05:48 AM

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no slaveluci, but many in this lifestyle are far from being accepting.
Many in this lifestyle are just as superficial as vanilla folks, maybe even more so.

Most definitely!

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RE: BBW's, Is this something as a society that we shoul... - 5/12/2007 7:10:15 AM

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Being relatively new to the forums, I didn't realize you could have a different pic specifically for the forums? I thought that the pics on here ARE the same as on the profiles and I don't know why they wouldn't be. And no, I don't click on most avatars or pics, etc. and read the majority of people's profiles unless I find them of interest in some way. I was wondering how some pics that seem to violate the TOS IMHO have found their way on here as well...however, that is another thread in itself.

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RE: BBW's, Is this something as a society that we shoul... - 5/12/2007 7:10:37 AM

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I think people are missing the point here, I doubt he's trying to say every woman needs to look like a supermodel, not even close. But when you see a woman who's 100 or more pounds overweight (and I mean really overweight, not what Weight Watchers charts will tell you) that IS unhealthy. There's a point people can reach where it's obvious they're not exercising enough, it's all fat and no muscle, and that's when it gets unhealthy. By no means should every woman weight 120 pounds or less, but when you're pushing four hundred pounds at five foot two inches, that's not something to flaunt, it's dangerously, and to most people ugly. Most of the women who post rants on here about how they're a BBW and they'res nothing wrong with that, there can be medical problems that cause it, blah blah blah, don't even come close to being that fat. Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't ever hate someone because of how big they are or refuse to talk to them, I'm not that shallow, but it's not something we should define as 'sexy'.

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RE: BBW's, Is this something as a society that we shoul... - 5/12/2007 7:34:16 AM

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Being relatively new to the forums, I didn't realize you could have a different pic specifically for the forums? I thought that the pics on here ARE the same as on the profiles and I don't know why they wouldn't be. And no, I don't click on most avatars or pics, etc. and read the majority of people's profiles unless I find them of interest in some way. I was wondering how some pics that seem to violate the TOS IMHO have found their way on here as well...however, that is another thread in itself.

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You can choose whatever picture you like for your avatar on the forums, in fact collarme supply a whole range of pictures just for that purpose. That is where mine comes from as do many others here on the fora. I personally have a real picture of myself on my collarme profile. However, as I am not here looking for anything and am here principally to read and take part in the fora I changed my picture here to something I liked. Others have real pictures on their profiles and choose to have avatars of animals or flowers etc. The fora are very different from the collarme profiles and in fact I know of some here that call the profile part of collarme "the other side".

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RE: BBW's, Is this something as a society that we shoul... - 5/12/2007 7:35:16 AM

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i tried for MANY years to come to terms with my fatness...i just couldnt bring myself to say that at almost 300 pounds i looked "good" ...i KNEW better...TO ME a fat body is just that ...FAT and NOT very attractive. so i finally lost some weight..(about 80 pounds) and i feel and look better. i still fall in the BBW catagory. (sigh) i plan on fixing that though.... Y'all can say its not UNhealthy but thats CRAP...being that over weight IS unheathy....at the very least its REALLY bad on your hips,knees, and ankles...

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