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I never thought I would be asking this but.... - 5/14/2007 12:37:09 AM

canupleaseme

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I am just looking for some information. Ive come to a point in my relationship where I feel ok having sex and doing other things while i'm on my period. Its not for fetish reasons just it seems silly not to when he obviously doesnt mind.

I have a few questions though.
I'm easily iked out by stuff , does it really make such a big mess?
Can fisting when your on your period make you bleed more?
Or does it make you uncomfrtable?
We know to use gloves and condoms etc, I just want to know what to expect if we do it.?
Thankyou I know its a gross subject

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RE: I never thought I would be asking this but.... - 5/14/2007 12:49:33 AM

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Personally, I'm usually at my, um, horniest, when I have my period. Sadly, any type of penetration during my menstrual cycle causes me unbelievable cramps. My sister on the otherhand says that penetration relieves her cramps...so, there ya go. Guess you will just have to give it a try and see. As for the mess, yes, it is messy but only because it allows what is typically semi-trapped to be released more freely. Just put down some old towels that you don't mind messing up, or some other absorbent items.

In any case, I'd start with simple penetration before moving on to something like fisting, just to gauge how your body will respond.

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RE: I never thought I would be asking this but.... - 5/14/2007 12:59:39 AM

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different peoples bodies react differently, but a lot of peoples bodies turn into a gusher. If it's really icking you out, you might start experimenting on one of your lighter flow days and see if you can get used to it.

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RE: I never thought I would be asking this but.... - 5/14/2007 1:15:33 AM

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Great thanks guys. I will see what happens wednesday then

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RE: I never thought I would be asking this but.... - 5/14/2007 5:07:59 AM

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i have actually found the penetration to lighten my flow.

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RE: I never thought I would be asking this but.... - 5/14/2007 6:50:48 AM

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The penetration doesn't hurt or feel any better to me during my period but I have noticed when I orgasm that is makes my cramps worse for a period of time but it seems to help in the long run with my period not hurting after the intial cramps.

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RE: I never thought I would be asking this but.... - 5/14/2007 7:30:14 AM

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I know if i have been having a play myself at that time its never made it worse luckily I dont get period pains too badly now and it did seem to make my flow lighter. So im crossing my fingers that that will happen when we do it.

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RE: I never thought I would be asking this but.... - 5/14/2007 8:22:52 AM

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canupleaseme.
I think it's wonderful that you're becoming comfortable with a natural process that occurs each month within your body. I greatly commend you for that!

For women who have discomfort during "that time of the month" sexual activity can actually relieve their symptoms. Exposure to a man's semen (meaning sans condom) as well as a woman having orgasms are both known to help relieve any cramping and other discomforts that she might have.

As for any "mess", I recommend that you use a "depends", the plastic lined disposable towels that are about 24" x 36". I use them for all kinds of play in order to protect the sheets on the bed from lube, liquids and other things such as in your case: menstrual flow. They will readily absorb far more than you can possibly discharge during a session and can also be used to help wipe yourself off while cleaning up after the fact as well.

I can't answer any of your questions about fisting during a period, but when you stop and think about it, the flow is from the release of blood that's lining the uterus and there's a limited amount of it to start with each month. So I doubt that it could possibly increase the total amount of flow that happens during a woman's discharge cycle for the month. However, it might temporarily increase the flow during play or perhaps on the following day; I really don't know. But if it did, I'd expect the days that followed to be relatively light as there'd be only a certain amount left in the uterus that would need to be discharged by it during that particular cycle.

To me that seems logical, but I'm not a doctor or medical anything, so YMMV as the EPA says. Enjoy your body's pleasures and listen to what it tells you would be my advice.

BTW, there is a book out on vaginal fisting called "A hand in the Bush" by Deborah Addington that you might want to see if you can find a copy of. As I recall, Amazon used to carry it...

A few minutes later... I just checked the copy I have here and it said in the FAQ section that there weren't any real problems to worry about with fisting during a woman's period. It also said that the menstrual flow tended to dry faster so you should expect to need to use more lube. The extra lubrication from the menses helps to a point, except when it's exposed to air and starts to dry. It had some other things to say as well, but those were the most relevent things that you'd want to know which I could readily find.

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RE: I never thought I would be asking this but.... - 5/14/2007 9:19:03 AM

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I'm easily iked out by stuff , does it really make such a big mess?

Depends on your period flow and exactly what you do.

Some women never have a heavy flow, and some women never have a light flow. As well, most women have times during their period when they are heavy and when they are light. I'd say- what would happen if you laid in bed without a pad or tampon in?

Then, factor in the moving around- the more you move around and do multiple contacts, the more mess area you may have.

For me personally, I find on low flow days, with a towel on the bed and no terribly excessive physical activity, it's nothing to be worried over.

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Can fisting when your on your period make you bleed more?

Only if it tears your veginal tissue which would cause actual blood to flow rather than menstrual blood.

Fisting might prevent the normal flow at the time and thus may gush out later- but it's no more or less than it would have been otherwise.

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Or does it make you uncomfrtable?

It may. You have to find out, some women have no change in during their period, some women have huge change.

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We know to use gloves and condoms etc, I just want to know what to expect if we do it.?

It's not gross at all- that's the problem right there. There is nothing gross about a woman's period. It is what it is.

Experiment, if you don't like it, you can always stop.

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RE: I never thought I would be asking this but.... - 5/14/2007 9:47:56 AM

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I'm one who agrees that before my hysterectomy if I had sex on my cycle my cramps were lighter and it even took away headaches sometimes.
I too don't like the mess.
I could fool around all I want and not be grossed out about the blood till we were done. Then when we stopped I could get way grossed out by the blood all over us and everywhere.
What I did is we mostly would just do it in the shower.
That way it was still not leaving his whole belly coated in my blood, and no messy materials needing to be cleaned up.
In a fisting presentation I went to they said if you're period is due soon it may prompt it to start right then or soon, lol and then the poor demo girl did indeed start 3 days early right there that night.
They also said it may make the flow seem heavier, but it's not causing you to bleed more, it just opens you up to expressing the stuff out that's already there a little faster as you are doing all that pushing & stuff.
There's also those ugly plastic flock/flannel backed table cloths at the dollar stores.
Lay that on your bed material side up and then you can just pick it up and throw it out instead of cleaning blood off things too.
Good Luck and congratulations in reaching more self awareness and acceptance.
suzanne

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RE: I never thought I would be asking this but.... - 5/14/2007 11:11:59 AM

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Sex in the shower, can't beat it. All the fun and the 'mess' goes down the drain. I am not a fan of sex during my period, but, I won't usually turn it down if we are in the shower. If I remember correctly, sex during your period can help things along as well as help to eliviate cramps somewhat.

For the most part, my body becomes 'off limits' unless we are in the shower or bath, then its slow and sensual.

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RE: I never thought I would be asking this but.... - 5/14/2007 11:16:08 AM

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Pixel slave Thankyou so much for your advice. Its so silly I am quite happy to pee all over him and alsorts but I've always felt embaressed about this it seems so personal. We have just got to a place now where I dont feel uncomfortable or embaressed by the idea of it and as silly as it sounds its seems quite special that I want to with him. I know he is seeing it as that anyway and is being very supportive about it all even though I keep coming up with weird scenarios and asking how whe would feel if...... happened. I have some of those pad things I never even thought to use those so thankyou for that it will save me a towel lol

And for the lube advice, blood does tend to dry quicker so I will definatly keep a few tubes to hand.

L.A Your quite right it is what it is and shuldnt be seen as gross. I think I am weird about it becasue the only time Ive ever gone to try this before was quite a few years ago in a vanilla relationship with a bloke who decided once he got there that it was vile and wrong and made me feel very embaressed and ashamed for even asking if we could. That was 8 years ago lol so its high time I just went with it. And yes if I dont like it we can stop. Ive nevre experienced pain when Ive used a dildo on myself when on my period so I hope everything will be ok with him. And with the fisting as long as we go slowly if it hurts we will just stop. I hope it doesnt though

Suzanne Wow I wish they did a fisting demo round my way. It has to be my all time favourite thing to do ever lol. Letting him do that to me was such a big thing for me and doing this seems just that way too. I think it would be good to have some baby wipes to hand (excuse the pun) too for if i do get iky afterwards. I think the only thing that worries me is him looking at himself after and going eeuurgh but I have told him that and even though I know he wouldnt be that insensitive he has promised me to make sure he behaves properly and makes sure I'm not unhappy with anything.

Lol after all this worrying watch me love it and him just pass out ha ha, if he does ill just stick my hand up his arse lol

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RE: I never thought I would be asking this but.... - 5/14/2007 11:28:04 AM

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In my experience, yes, it makes a mess, and I'm not a big fan. It kinda makes the bed look like a murder scene. But I know other people are into it. To each his own.

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I'm easily iked out by stuff , does it really make such a big mess?

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RE: I never thought I would be asking this but.... - 5/14/2007 11:32:33 AM

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L.A Your quite right it is what it is and shuldnt be seen as gross. I think I am weird about it becasue the only time Ive ever gone to try this before was quite a few years ago in a vanilla relationship with a bloke who decided once he got there that it was vile and wrong and made me feel very embaressed and ashamed for even asking if we could. That was 8 years ago lol so its high time I just went with it. And yes if I dont like it we can stop. Ive nevre experienced pain when Ive used a dildo on myself when on my period so I hope everything will be ok with him. And with the fisting as long as we go slowly if it hurts we will just stop. I hope it doesnt though

Yeah I hate that. Obviously if something really does seem gross to someone, then it is. I think the smell of all air fresheners are gross, but obviously tons of people adore them.

And it sucks when it's someone else. I know for me I've always loved the smell and taste of myself, and then one guy came along and it totally turned him off. After nearly a decade and tons of partners, ONE guy gets turned off and suddenly it's an issue for me. I hate that.

He didn't last long.

And I quickly regained my enjoyment of my own smell and taste.

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RE: I never thought I would be asking this but.... - 5/14/2007 11:48:42 AM

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L.A its so strange how things like that can affect you isnt it? I'm embaressed to say that for about 4 yeras I wouldn't let anyone go down on me because I'd been made to feel bad about myself and having it done. Christ its not like spunk tastes like peaches and cream but I'd never tell ayone they tasted vile. If my boy wasnt so o.k about it all and didnt make me feel like it was the most natural thing in the world, which as you have pointed out it is, then I would probably still find it a no no.

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RE: I never thought I would be asking this but.... - 5/14/2007 12:48:07 PM

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i have an absolutely ridiculous flannel sheet (sky blue, with little sheep jumping over fences) that i keep for just such occasions.

a shower curtain over the bedding, then the flannel sheet over that....and its nothing to worry about. of course since we tend to make a puddle of the bed, that's for all occasions that sex might happen.

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RE: I never thought I would be asking this but.... - 5/14/2007 1:01:56 PM

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I have had sex and been fisted whilst on my period and to be honest regular sex used to ease my cramps and also speed things along

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RE: I never thought I would be asking this but.... - 5/14/2007 1:20:37 PM

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I personally wouldn't want to be fisted during my period, at least the first day or two, because I always feel all bloated and swollen and tender and don't really like to be penetrated with anything then. I doubt if being fisted could do any damage (other than the normal possibilities) just because you're having your period. But I see how it might cause a bit of a "suctioning" action that might increase the flow for awhile. But it wouldn't make additional flow.

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RE: I never thought I would be asking this but.... - 5/14/2007 2:21:27 PM

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Pixel slave Thankyou so much for your advice. Its so silly I am quite happy to pee all over him and alsorts but I've always felt embaressed about this it seems so personal. We have just got to a place now where I dont feel uncomfortable or embaressed by the idea of it and as silly as it sounds its seems quite special that I want to with him. I know he is seeing it as that anyway and is being very supportive about it all even though I keep coming up with weird scenarios and asking how whe would feel if...... happened. I have some of those pad things I never even thought to use those so thankyou for that it will save me a towel lol And for the lube advice, blood does tend to dry quicker so I will definatly keep a few tubes to hand.

You're very welcome for the advice and I'm quite honestly very pleased that I could be of help.

Your boy is indeed very lucky to have the opportunity to share such an intimate experience with his Mistress! I'm honestly green with envy that he'll get to experience that kind of intimacy with his hand fully inside his Mistress (but don't tell Mistress, oh, I guess I just did).

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I think it would be good to have some baby wipes to hand (excuse the pun) too for if i do get iky afterwards. I think the only thing that worries me is him looking at himself after and going eeuurgh but I have told him that and even though I know he wouldnt be that insensitive he has promised me to make sure he behaves properly and makes sure I'm not unhappy with anything.

Lol after all this worrying watch me love it and him just pass out ha ha, if he does ill just stick my hand up his arse lol

The baby wipes sound like a very good idea. In fact I almost suggested them when I posted the first time around. LOL!

I honestly wouldn't worry about your sub getting squicked or passing out. I'm confident it will be an emotionally bonding experience that the two of you will never forget. I've cut the cords on both of my unmentionables when they were born, and there's nothing quite like it in the world I can remember. The blood was the last thing on my mind at the time, although the scissors they gave to use with the first one seemed really quite dull!

Just relax, enjoy what nature has given you and I sure the two of you will have a great time!

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RE: I never thought I would be asking this but.... - 5/15/2007 3:55:19 AM

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I know its a gross subject

Nono. It's not gross at all. (We need to get a circa 1970's love our bodies groove going, here!)

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