ScooterTrash
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Joined: 1/24/2005 From: Indiana Status: offline
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Interesting question..I honestly believe it is an advantage for a Dominant, M or F to have experienced submission at some level. I compare this to like eating fine food, I think you are a better chef or cook if you have eaten the food you are preparing..silly analogy maybe, but you get the idea. Whether it's full blown as if they started out as a sub, or even if it's as a bedroom subby, only experiencing the physical part, I do see some benefit. I think when most folks start out (I'm sure this is debatable), they are not positive what their role is...sure they may feel Dominant, and they truely may be, but to be absolutely sure is a tough thing to nail down until you have experienced it. Starting as a sub will do two things..it will likely smack you up side of the head on what your role actually is, and if it's destined to be as a Dominant, you will have that experience to tap into the rest of your life. Myself, I had a brief encounter with trying to submit in the beginning, but it was obvious very soon on that even if I could pull off the physical part, I couldn't do the heart and soul end of it. I am certain I would have been a great "topping from the bottom" example..lol. But in the start of someone's venture into the lifestyle I do think this is easier. I have know some Dominants who wanted to experience the submissive point of view, via trying it, later on after they were very well settled in their Dom/me role. I suppose they did actually get a little bit of insite of the "other side", but not enough to get a real grasp of it. I still think it's noble that they made the attempt however and is as valuable of a lesson as the one you stated you learned by trying to be a top. Had you not tried, perhaps you would have always wondered and at least you do understand that it really is work, even on just the physical side, to Top. Yes, I do have the same feeling as you that it would to tough to bounce back and forth...as if they were a switch (hmm..hence the name). Many can, or at least is seems..so if that is possible...good for them. And honestly, I am sure I could still switch on the physical side of it and it wouldn't be that big of a deal. Would I be able to do so emotionally, nope, tried that and failed, that's why in our particular relationship Shifted and I are both Dominants. We could pull off the kink, but that was where it stopped short. Did we enjoy it? I'll take the 5th there so as not to incriminate myself (winks). We understand that although we could likely switch physically, neither of us could truely submit to the other, not to the point of actually letting go of that control. It's not a trust issue, it's simply not in our nature. BUT...by having both experienced that side, even if not to the point as you say, where you go deep inside your core...I still feel the experience is something crucial to understanding our sub(s) point of view even if just the physical part...and there is perhaps a part of it that touches on the emotional part as well, even if it's just the understanding of what is is we can't do, that they can.
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Formal symbolic representation of qualitative entities is doomed to its rightful place of minor significance in a world where flowers and beautiful women abound. -Albert Einstein
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