Mercnbeth
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Choose as many as you like:
I don't get...(Watersports, Caning, Flogging, Breath Play, Cross Dressing, Public Nudity, Bondage, Collars, Bi-Sexuality, Latex, Bukkake, Cuffs, Needled Play, Gor, Body Hair, Poly, Shackles, Titles, BBW, Crawling, Adult Babies, Human Toilets, Homosexually, Threesomes, Third Person Speech, Piercing, Humiliation, Food Play, Shaving, Messy Sex, Enemas, Crawling, Shibiri, Photography, Butt Plugs, Leather, Tattoos, Furies)
Hope I didn't forget anything or anyone.
Trying to understand one particular activity within any relationship to "get it", is impossible. Isolating one part of the dynamic, either activity or interaction, for discussion or dissection does not provide any insight. It isn't necessary to have experience in any/all activities in order to discuss them. It's possible to do on a clinical level, but it doesn't explain or answer the question - Why?
That is something you can't know without experience. I would guess that their are many who react with disgust to many of the menu list of items I provided and complete the sentence with a few of those particular activities. In a relationship they are not done as menu items, they are a "cell" within the body that forms the relationship dynamic. People who do things have reasons that make sense for them, they don't think about anything other than the relationship in total. It applies whether that relationship spans years, or hours. In the context of pleasing themselves or pleasing their partner/partners; the activity serves that pleasure. That's the answer.
Of course if you have a need to increase your self esteem and the only way to do it is to criticize and apply disgust with someone else's dynamic, go for it. I doubt it will impact anyone or cause them to change that aspect to conform to your standards. However if you want to understand and learn you have to experience the whole. Seeing one cell under a microscope doesn't provide much insight regarding the total body. Wanting to know, in isolation, how one thing "works" is not going to provide a clear answer. You have to see it all, in context, in action, up close and personal.
We use third person speech, we also use or partake in many other of those activities listed. Isolating one for discussion will tell you very little about us, and even less about our relationship dynamic.
I reference this old poem as a consideration: quote:
The Blind Man and the Elephant
It was six men of Indostan
To learning much inclined,
Who went to see the Elephant~(Though all of them were blind),
That each by observation~Might satisfy his mind.
The First approached the Elephant,
And happening to fall
Against his broad and sturdy side, ~ At once began to bawl:
"God bless me! but the Elephant ~ Is very like a wall!"
The Second, feeling of the tusk,
Cried, "Ho! what have we here?
So very round and smooth and sharp? ~ To me 'tis mighty clear
This wonder of an Elephant ~ Is very like a spear!"
The Third approached the animal,
And happening to take
The squirming trunk within his hands, ~ Thus boldly up and spake:
"I see," quoth he, "the Elephant ~ Is very like a snake!"
The Fourth reached out an eager hand,
And felt about the knee.
"What most this wondrous beast is like ~ Is mighty plain," quoth her;
"'Tis clear enough the Elephant ~ Is very like a tree!"
The Fifth who chanced to touch the ear,
Said: "E'en the blindest man
Can tell what this resembles most; ~ Deny the fact who can,
This marvel of an Elephant ~ Is very like a fan!"
The Sixth no sooner had begun
About the beast to grope,
Than, seizing on the swinging tail ~ That fell within his scope,
"I see," quoth he, "the Elephant ~ Is very like a rope!
And so these men of Indostan
Disputed loud and long,
Each in his own opinion ~ Exceeding stiff and strong,
Though each was partly in the right ~ And all were in the wrong!
Moral
So oft in theologic wars,
The disputants, I ween,
Rail on in utter ignorance
Of what each other mean,
And prate about an Elephant
Not one of them has seen!
-John Godfrey Saxe
Source: http://www.mcps.k12.md.us/curriculum/socialStd/grade7/india/Blind_elephant.html
Anyone wanting to visit our "elephant" let us know, you are welcome!
And if you don't, we're good with that too.
< Message edited by Mercnbeth -- 5/31/2007 8:20:11 AM >
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RE: Third speak... - 
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. You decide to do something for WHATEVER reason and there will be those whose day it just ruins. Never made any sense to me at all. 
. The same goes for third-person speak to me. i do use the "slashy speak" because i WANT to. No other reason - don't care how annoying some find it. If you skip every post that i (and others) write because of it, you're missing out on alot. It's not that difficult to read. It's the same letter twice in a row. Not that hard at all. Just pretend the slash isn't there. i'm still trying to remember when i was guaranteed that no one was ever going to annoy me by anything they do. As some are fond of saying, it's "pixels on a screen." It's a slash or it's third-person speech. Not that big a deal to me as i go through life. i think if it makes the poster happy, God bless 'em......slave luci 
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