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RE: Dom Tricks? - 6/13/2007 4:22:31 PM

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ORIGINAL: slaverosebeauty

The word 'trick' implies deception, why would a Top-type want to decieve their partner?

sigh, since semantics must of course raise its ugly head here, let me qualify my use of the word, which should only be seen in a positive, and at worst, not overly deceptive context, as follows:

1.a clever or ingenious device or expedient; adroit technique: "the tricks of the trade."

2.the art or knack of doing something skillfully:
capice?

btw, to whomever suggested i use a multipurpose hairbrush...lol. if you refer to my pic at left, I'm wearing a hat. hehehe. if the "trick" suggested is for use on a sub or slave, thanks....tho i don't care for them.

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RE: Dom Tricks? - 6/13/2007 4:29:30 PM

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Treat a lady like a whore and a whore like a lady applies to BDSM quite well. Learning how to see what someone needs sounds easier than it is. Take a beautiful woman, they are often used to being catered to, make it clear that she will no longer be catered to and she will become putty. Take a woman who has never seen herself (or some part of herself) as beautiful and put her on a pedestal and she will worship you for it. Those are pretty crude examples but the truth is in there.

Take a woman to Nordstroms (after having gone in the day before and tipped the arrogant little bitch behind the counter to be nice or not) and have her make up changed. For a woman who is used to getting her way, change it to something that throws her off and that excites you. For a woman unsure of her beauty, having a well done job of makeup and having glamour shots done will make you a night in shining armor to her.

Play with contrasts, beat her hard and then make her cum using only a soft makeup brush. Make gentle love to her, then flip her over, bite her hard enough to leave marks and grudge fuck her till you cum and order her not to. Play the romantic, send her roses but have the card say you are going to use her life a fucktoy later. Go shopping for a dress for her and when you find the right one, take her into the dressing room, flip it up and fuck her right them and there.

Or you could go with an old classic and freeze a giant ball of cum into a ball gag...

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RE: Dom Tricks? - 6/13/2007 4:49:38 PM

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lol, now we're getting somewhere. nice.

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RE: Dom Tricks? - 6/13/2007 5:52:24 PM

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The only "trick" that Valyraen needs to secure is dominance over me is to love me.

Honestly I don't think all these "tricks" are going to help much because what works for one woman will cause another one to leave you in the dust.

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RE: Dom Tricks? - 6/13/2007 6:30:02 PM

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you are of course entitled to your opining. And granted, love is always a powerful catalyst. But I must admit much of what Bringer wrote about hadn't occurred to me, and this is precisely the purpose of this thread. New ideas, perspectives, unthought-of techniques, and ultimately a wider spectrum of possibilities. If you strip away all the negative and doubtful commentary, there has been so far, little sharing of such ideology here. Knowledge is power, and were I a fledgling dominant new to this site, I would hope to find precisely such information available in this peticular forum.

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RE: Dom Tricks? - 6/13/2007 6:46:10 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SirMGD

you are of course entitled to your opining. And granted, love is always a powerful catalyst. But I must admit much of what Bringer wrote about hadn't occurred to me, and this is precisely the purpose of this thread. New ideas, perspectives, unthought-of techniques, and ultimately a wider spectrum of possibilities. If you strip away all the negative and doubtful commentary, there has been so far, little sharing of such ideology here. Knowledge is power, and were I a fledgling dominant new to this site, I would hope to find precisely such information available in this peticular forum.

Well...at the same time...this is a bit of a broad scope.

I could make a very long list of all the things I have learned threw mistakes and lessons.

I am just simply following some of the other people's themes of personal intimate and bonding.

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RE: Dom Tricks? - 6/13/2007 7:09:37 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SirMGD

you are of course entitled to your opining. And granted, love is always a powerful catalyst. But I must admit much of what Bringer wrote about hadn't occurred to me, and this is precisely the purpose of this thread. New ideas, perspectives, unthought-of techniques, and ultimately a wider spectrum of possibilities. If you strip away all the negative and doubtful commentary, there has been so far, little sharing of such ideology here. Knowledge is power, and were I a fledgling dominant new to this site, I would hope to find precisely such information available in this peticular forum.

Try porn. In particular written d/s porn authored by women.

I'm serious.

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RE: Dom Tricks? - 6/13/2007 7:16:09 PM

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ah trust me, I own a vast collection.

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RE: Dom Tricks? - 6/13/2007 7:18:15 PM

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After every order/command/request, before she obeys, she must first acknowledge it by saying, "Yes, Sir." This works in the military, and it reinforces that you are in command. If she does not, she is punished.

Daily emails and daily masturbation, reported in the daily email as well as what she was thinking when she made herself cum. I like highly sexual submissives, and like them to associate sex and orgasms with me.

No underwear, unless unusual circumstances require it, and always skirts or dresses so her cunt and ass are available to me. Never, under any circumstances are pantyhose allowed. Stockings and garter belts only, or thigh highs.

Make up what I call a mantra, a series of questions, for which you have set answers, and use it. For example, what am I to you? My Master. What are you to me? Your slave, slut, whore and bitch. What of yours is mine? my breasts, my cunt and my ass. What will you do for me? Anything you ask, Master. . . . you get the idea. This can go on and on, limited only by your imagintion in coming up with questions. If she makes a mistake in giving the required answer, she gets punished, then start over again.

Just some ideas that come quickly to mind that have worked for me.

Dan

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RE: Dom Tricks? - 6/13/2007 8:30:20 PM

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Dan,

I would think having to memorize mindless phrases would be punishment enough. Seriously, punishment is hot fantasy but horrible as a way to grow an obedient submissive.

Someone above uses a similar technique but the goal is to nurture and grow the submissive not turn her into an actress in your own personal porn flick.

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RE: Dom Tricks? - 6/13/2007 8:42:56 PM

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You might be better off looking there. At least, so far the ideas you've shown interest in are the ones that remind me considerably of written erotica.

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RE: Dom Tricks? - 6/13/2007 9:20:24 PM

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I was with somebody once who broke both arms. For 6 weeks I bathed her, I brushed her hair. I shaved her armpits. I shaved her down under. I dressed her. While I suppose a Dominant could insist on their submissive doing all of these things, the energy in the relationship was far different. From what I could see, I was given a tabula rasa to script my desires on, and the shining and loving look in her eyes as I did them let me know that my care and love were appreciated in a way that words cannot really articulate. She knew during that time that she was cared for and cuddled and nurtured and in my protection.

Sinergy

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RE: Dom Tricks? - 6/13/2007 9:24:03 PM

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ORIGINAL: Sinergy

She knew during that time that she was cared for and cuddled and nurtured and in my protection.

Sinergy

From the point of a female submissive, that's a pretty damn good trick.

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RE: Dom Tricks? - 6/13/2007 9:51:00 PM

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Primate have several instinctual preferences. Being groomed by another is one. Social interaction in a hierarchical construct is another. But you never know. A Bonobo will copulate with the same social significance as when we shake hands.

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RE: Dom Tricks? - 6/14/2007 3:29:26 AM

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Attention PLEASE.
In the hopes of engendering any further sharing of "tricks"(in the aforementioned context). the OP would ask that the usual kibitzers who denigrate and criticize anything and all possible targets in this forum, as a matter of habit, cease, desist.and forego your acidic pleasures, in the interest of of a better, more open environment for those who might hold back for fear of recrimmination, or ridicule from those very forum sharks. This thread should merely be for posting ideas and techniques. Your assessment and opinion of those ideas posted is immaterial and unwelcome, and considered hi-jacking.. They should be for the edification and possible perusal of all. Send them a pm if you just must speak in negativity, I beg.
Thank you.

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RE: Dom Tricks? - 6/14/2007 4:47:09 AM

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In the interests of clarity: Precisely what sort of information are you looking to have us share? "Tricks of the trade" is all very well and good, but it's a phrase that gets thrown around so often it's become cliche, to say nothing of its absolute vagarity. Are you looking for sexual training techniques? Are you looking for us to share kinky things that we do during sex/scenes? No offense intended, but from the examples that you've posted and from what you've responded to, it seems that you're, as someone once so delicately put it, "trolling for wank fodder."

To reply to the spirit of the thread (I think), there are some torments that I particularly enjoy using on Aqua during a scene. I wouldn't call them "tricks" or "techniques" necessarily, just some formulae (combinations of toys and how the toys are used) that I've tucked away to pull out again later. I'd be happy to share a few of my discoveries via a PM, but since every submissive (and indeed, every dominant) is different, I don't know that my posting them here would lead to very much in the way of edification, and it would certainly make me feel as though I were putting something very special to me "up on display", so to speak.

Valyraen

P.S. As an addendum, I'd like to caution you about something. Asking for people to stop posting on a thread doesn't have much of an effect here... if anything, it riles up those individuals who go into threads specifically for the purposes of derailing it, who've otherwise passed the thread by. Since you can't stop anyone from posting here, my advice is to simply see the posts as free bumps for the thread, and if it gets derailed just let it go gracefully. You'll earn a little more respect that way than if you tried to keep it on life support.

I personally tend to think that, if a thread has some worthy content to it, it will survive hijacking attempts as more and more people post to it. If it doesn't have that content, it will be hijacked and eventually buried in the flood of threads. Darwinian theory in action.

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RE: Dom Tricks? - 6/14/2007 5:11:23 AM

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As one of the younger dom types following this thread, I'd like to point out something about the basic concept here...

The OP is not looking for anything.

I am looking for something, and perhaps others like me are as well. And it really doesn't matter what that something is. So stop worrying about giving some kind of impressive Sunday School answer to a specific question. Post activities that you have enjoyed--post activities your significant other has enjoyed--post activities that you'd like others to have an opportunity to enjoy--post activities you feel others should avoid. Thoughts on what works and why--and maybe even what doesn't. Post any knowledge you'd care to pass on to others with less real time/real life experience.

...or be a miser. Whichever.

P.S.

Right, I feel mean just for writing that. Some things are private. No need to call anyone a miser just because they don't wish to share. Nonetheless, I'd still appreciate any information someone feels like giving up. ;)

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RE: Dom Tricks? - 6/14/2007 6:27:09 AM

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I am not sure what's with the whiney bitches and jerks in this thread. To anyone with an open mind it is clear what the OP is asking for, the fun little things we all do. Of course things are person dependent but if they are all so unique why do people take classes on technique?

I have found some of the responses interesting and for those who feel sharing is too personal, I assume you never play in public because one of the reasons I watch others is to pick up the same little "tricks" I hope to see here.

Another trick I use is when I am playing with someone, I am always aware of whether or not I am touching them. I try and remain in contact with them and when I am not it is for a specific reason, build suspense, mystery, etc, but otherewise I try and have some part of me in contact with them.

Voice, never underestimate the power of your voice. There are a few women here who know my voice and I bet almost every one gets wet at the sound of it. It isn't an accident, I work hard to keep it deep and add a bit of vibrato when I can. I am also aware of where on the register it is and when I want an emotional impact I drop it an octave.

Another one is to grow you pinky fingernails long and just before you play, clip them into a point. Great fun for playing out in public, dig it into someone's neck at dinner and nobody will be the wiser.

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RE: Dom Tricks? - 6/14/2007 6:29:31 AM

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quote:

our assessment and opinion of those ideas posted is immaterial and unwelcome, and considered hi-jacking.. They should be for the edification and possible perusal of all. Send them a pm if you just must speak in negativity, I beg.

Don't you love it when sirs beg?

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RE: Dom Tricks? - 6/14/2007 6:34:23 AM

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

Voice, never underestimate the power of your voice. There are a few women here who know my voice and I bet almost every one gets wet at the sound of it. It isn't an accident, I work hard to keep it deep and add a bit of vibrato when I can. I am also aware of where on the register it is and when I want an emotional impact I drop it an octave.

Michael,
As someone who knows your voice well, I can say without reservation that you hit the nail right on the head!

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