themischievous1 -> RE: Why are we wrong? (6/26/2007 1:10:26 AM)
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With the right person I can be the epidemy of submission and wallow in completely surrendered bliss. Unfortunately, that kind of person is damn difficult to find in a world where possession of ethics, honor, and integrity are rare character traits; so I'm not sure how prevalent my submissive side will be in the future. It's really vulnerable being submissive and I'm a little tired of always being vulnerable. Recently I began to accept that I've always been told I'm a natural dominant and that I spend the majority of each day being dominant. Truly that does come the most natural to me. I just haven't spent much time excercising that quality in the bedroom persay. The real reason why people look down on switches from my perspective is because the bdsm masses generalize to every switch a sterotyped impression that a switch simply can't be taken seriously and that they don't know what they want. It's similar with bisexuality. There's a stereotype that goes along with bisexuality that a bisexual is going to be out there screwing men and women and can't be faithful to either gender. Not only is this not the case with all bisexuals but it's definitely not so with me. I can love either gender but be entirely faithful to the partner of my choosing and that's my desire as well. I'm truly monogamous, but that doesn't fit with the stereotype of bisexuals. With switches, I think the sterotypes are very similar. There's little respect and most don't understand how the capability for different modes of being can exist in the same person seriously and consistently, nor do they see that this person can be one or the other or even both and engage in a meaningful, sincere, even monogamous relationship. Personally, I think I will probably make an excellent domme should I find the right submissive to explore that role with, yet I can also revel in my submission should I actually discover a dom/domme who can be trusted -- problem is it's going to depend on who I fall in love with and am attracted to and compatible with that will determine how it all plays out in the future. And then it's entirely possible I may find an individual who desires both from me and while that will be unique and different for me, requiring a little getting used to, it certainly won't be boring. It's not that I can't make up my mind about what I want and it's not that I'm not completely serious about one or the other. It's that I now believe I am honestly capable of enjoying and being in either role as the situation dictates. One thing I really like about labeling myself switch more and more is that I don't have to listen to that absolute crap I used to hear when I sometimes acted more domme than sub, dependent on my mood, the situation, or whatever. Now I can just be who the hell I am and that can be aggressive, confident, demanding, strong, or whatever. I can be me and no one can say a damn thing about it! Finally there's real freedom! Nothing wrong with the freedom to just be who you are, is there? In fact it's a breath of fresh air.
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