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What should I do? - 7/1/2007 3:58:04 PM

defiantbadgirl

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I met this guy on another site about 3 months ago. We experimented and he discovered he's a Dom. Everything was going well for awhile. We both called each other and had regular sessions. I really trusted this guy. All of a sudden, his unmentionable started saying he was either asleep or gone every time I called when she used to put him on the phone right away. I said something to him about it and he assured me this wasn't the case. So I decided to conduct a little experiment. I waited until I saw that he had only been on this site a few minutes ago and made it a point to call then. I did this several times and his unmentionable still insisted every time that he was either gone or asleep. I was sure this time he would say something to her, but he only made more excuses. Two of my friends told me she must be doing that as his request or he would do something about it. We had talked about attending the next munch together and I wanted to order some toys from a website. He suggested that I put the money in his bank and he order them with his debit card assuring me he would give them to me when they came in. The last time I went over there, I sent him a text message saying I was coming over and he replied saying that was fine. When I got there, his unmentionable answered the door and had to go wake him up. He came to the door and asked if I could come back later. Then he came outside and we started talking about the toys on his front porch. I didn't think this was a very good idea with his unmentionable being just inside and I suggested several times that we talk in my car. He refused. A few days later, he sent me a message saying his unmentionable had overheard and started asking questions. He said he was mad at me. First, I talked too loud, then it was my fault because I didn't change the subject. When was I supposed to talk to him about it? His unmentionable wouldn't let him talk to me on the phone and she was always home. He wanted the toys as much as I did. I ended up going off on him. I reminded him that I had asked to talk in my car several times and he was the one that refused. Then I told him I didn't want him ordering the toys because I felt like he was blowing me off since he kept making excuses for his unmentionable instead of asking her to stop refusing to put him on the phone. I was also worried that if she did that on the phone, she could refuse to answer the door too and I'd be out both the money and the toys. He got upset because he felt like he was being compared to a scam artist. I sent him a mail explaining how I felt and why saying I was hurt and confused and he blocked me. The munch and play party is coming up this Friday night. Even if he doesn't show up at this one, he could show up at others. I'm embarrassed about this whole situation as it is. I certainly won't want to be there if he is after he blocked me the way he did, but if I see him and take off it will give him more opportunity to say things behind my back if he should decide to. What if he tells people something crazy like I like talking about bdsm in front of unmentionables? I don't know how I should handle this situation if and when he does show up at the munch and play party. Also, am I the one in the wrong here because I didn't trust him? Is this whole thing my fault?

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