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ORIGINAL: Petronius

I am amazed at the level of paranoia in the BDSM community reflected in this conversation.

One person presents a paranoid fantasy of almost classical style, of a nefarious hacker of inhuman brilliance discovering a bug in software, and then using it to stalk her in various ways.

The rest of the community buys into it.

When I challenged her fantasy, Lockit responded with more fantasy and imagination.

Why, I asked, would somebody who discovered a bug worth millions and millions and millions of dollars decide to stalk her instead of robbing banks.

Lockit responded "maybe he doesn't need money... maybe he needs a lil slave girl with the right body parts, that comes in an intelligent package and he's a sick puck..."

But this is simply the invention of a new reality to support the old paranoid reality. In the entire history of the world, has there ever been a case where some multimillionaire with a hankering for a slave didn't simply pay to have the slave kidnapped? Look at Lookit's fantasy: he doesn't need the money that the brilliant hack would give him; he wants a slave; he doesn't use his money to kidnap the slave; he uses the multimillion dollar bug to harass somebody online. Again I say it is pure paranoid fantasy, supporting itself with newly invented fantasies of the genius wealthy hacker too stupid and poor to simply buy a kidnapping.

Then almost everybody else in the BDSM community interested enough in the topic buys into it, rushing to help the poor stalker victim and punish the big bad monster under the bed.

Petronius

PS: Actually, another person suggested the core problem may not be paranoia but a narcissist out for attention and using paranoia to get it. That may well be true but doesn't contradict the paranoid actions.

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ORIGINAL: Lockit

DomKen,

I just got online and was rather upset with the charges leveled at me by this person.  I have not been able to address anything else at this moment, but I am working on it.  I cannot function well on this computer and am arranging for someone to copy the advice given so that I can assure better protection on my next machine.

I can only think and type so fast sir.

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ORIGINAL: Lockit

I did call the police and FBI… I don’t know how I can prove that other than getting a police report and posting it… The FBI call I could most likely only prove by phone records.  Both something I cannot present here.  I am sorry you don’t believe that, but as others have said on this thread… these agencies don’t always respond or do anything.  I am not alone in this opinion.  Maybe sometimes it is all a matter of who you get when you call these agencies and their ignorance or opinions of the situation… I don’t know.  All I know is that I have done all I can to get help with this.

I have read all of the post and am trying to wrap my mind around a lot of it.  Trying to figure out how one thing fits into another and what might be best to do. I do not plan on keeping this computer running as it is too far gone.  I cannot defrag, add anything on, download or anything. This man has gotten through Norton, zonealarm, Avg, spam filters, different security measures of routers, using another computer as a firewall, etc.  I have no clue how he has done it and I only know what I have learned from this incident.  Each step of the way, I have done everything I could to combat whatever he was doing or whatever strange thing happened and have taken and done everything everyone has told me to do.  Then thinking I had secured myself, I went about my online activities and there he was again.

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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

Lockit, I can understand not wanting to lose this means of communication with your friends. However, if I had someone stalking me online, the very last thing I would do is put a thread online in black and white where he could read it describing how mad, irritated, scared, tactics I am using, tactics I am thinking of using, advice from others how to deal with him. A thread like this in the hands of a cyber stalker could be used as a guide as you are detailing all of your possible moves and also to satisfy whatever sick part of their mind gets off on your torment.

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[Petronius's] ignorance of opinion is just that.  Tell your line of crap to those who might fall for it… for I am not the only one that has been stalked and hacked into and there are others who have mentioned it here on this thread and many have emailed me.

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Finally you defend yourself by claiming that people support you by email. The classic defense of the net loon.