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RE: adult babies--- real and very much a lifestyle!! - 1/24/2006 6:19:20 AM

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How can so many Mistresses know so much about adult babies, know what they have or don't have to offer and how they will or won't help them in their life, when they've never even tried it first hand. Never taken the time to even open their mind to what it is all about.

i haven't pooped in a diaper in about 45 years, but i still know i have no desire to do so. You don't have to experience something to know you don't want to do it. If your into it, that's great, go and have fun. If your not, then your not, and no one should have a problem with that either.

i play with several Female Dommes and they want to be taken care of, not the other way around. Even when i am 4, i can still run and get drinks or do anything else they need. Of course i am a very advanced 4 yr old and soon to be 5.

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RE: adult babies--- real and very much a lifestyle!! - 1/24/2006 6:26:20 AM

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i don't see her post as judging, she simply explained that she had to been to a party and nothing about AB play interests her. Why is that so hard to understand....do you have to try everything before you know if your into it or not?

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With all due respect, I don't see anyone shoving anything at anyone. I also don't think you can juge what an adult baby is all about just from what you saw at a play party. I'm certain that if I was to judge a submissive that I watched at a BDSM play party, I would be seeing a very different sub from what I would see in their day to day life. I think that with most fetishes or life styles, a play party isn't the best way to judge what the life style is all about. It would be like going to a child's birthday party and watching what they do and eat, then assuming that is what they do and eat all the time.

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RE: adult babies--- real and very much a lifestyle!! - 1/24/2006 6:29:05 AM

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As for "your" fetish interest...why is it that "I" (and others) "must" accept it, or even work to "understand" it, if it's of no interest to me (us)? I understand your desire for it.

Because if you don't, he will throw himself on the ground and kick his feet and cry.....

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RE: adult babies--- real and very much a lifestyle!! - 1/24/2006 7:54:59 AM

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I'm certainly not a Domme, nor into age play. I have read this thread and what has been most aggravating to me has been the insistence of the OP, and subsequently others taking up the same stance, that despite the fact the Domme's replying are NOT interested. (To clarify what not interested means. Well it means they don't want to be involved. They don't want to do it. It's OK for you if you like it but they want no part of it.) To repeat: That despite the fact the Domme's replying are NOT interested, the AB's keep insisting that the Domme's SHOULD be interested and that the AB is not leaving until they ARE interested.

What do you expect from a bunch of babies?

I tend to mother subs when they need it (i.e. if they are sick), but otherwise I treat them like subordinate adults.

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I myself have been waiting to see a Baby DOM. I'd like to see a profile with a person in a diaper, passaphier, bib, head piece and the quote is "Change my diaper BITCH!" The profile can then go on about needing to be fed, bathed, and clothed. I wonder how many hits the profile would get?

Probably a ton from Family Guy fans. You never know, he might end up with a Mommy who enjoys having a baby who plans to rule the world.

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RE: adult babies--- real and very much a lifestyle!! - 1/24/2006 11:13:28 AM

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Ok weighing in here. I have read this entire thread and am now ready to make some comments. I hesitated posting, because I had at one time in my profile that I liked age play and AB's. The next thing I knew I was bombed with emails from AB's all telling me their life story and sending photos. I had to take my profile down.
I have had the honor of having several AB's over the years but I have never wanted 24/7 with them, because of the constant demand for attention, the crying, the whinning, the pure brattiness of them, it exhausted me. I loved taking care of them for short periods but there was no way I could possibly take care of them on a 24/7 period. But on the opposite side of the coin, I was always amazed at the amount of loyality and devotion they showed me. Was it the same as my submissives? No, it wasnt. There is a certain clinginess to him (AB) than I had with my subs. I do enjoy the helplessness of an AB, but I love the independence of my sub now. I like that he has a life outside of our D/s relationship. I wouldnt want to change him in any way. I once talked about age play with him, and he was unsure about whether he wanted to do it. In fact I think the jury is still out on this, but I know that if it came down to it, he would, because it would please me. But after reading this thread I realized that he does fulfill my maternal instincts in many ways that do not include changing his diaper or wiping his nose. I play with him, laugh with him and have so much fun with him that I dont think about what I have not had in the past (Children) and more about what I DO have now (Brian).
This is one of the more interesting threads I have read since I have been on CM, thank you for posting it. In answer to the OP's original questions:

Do Domme women really truly think that adult babys are child molesters and pediophiles?
Absolutely Not. I have never saw AB's this way. I am speaking, of course, to my opinions only. In fact, I have had people say that I had pediophillic tendencies because I am interested in AB's.

What is the diferance between an slave who is obedient and suffers infantilism as a punishment than an infantilist who suffers punishment as a slave while being a baby to his Mistress?

Hmm..I have never used adult punishments on my AB's. I use child punishments. IE: corner time, toys taken away, cuddles with-held, no toys at bathtime. I NEVER used corporal punishment on my AB.

Please explain this to me and if possible relate the diff between a slave and a adult baby?

The difference between a slave and an adult baby is the slave is more service oriented for their Doms as an adult baby is more emotionally/mentally oriented for their "Mommy/Daddy's" In other words, I got more emotionally out of having an AB than physically. I never had sex with my AB's, I did however, get plenty of emotional satisfaction than physical. My physical needs were met more with a sub/slave than with an AB. Not that I wasnt or am not emotionally satisfied with my pet now, I just had more of my maternal instincts met with an AB.

As far as the Dom/mes on here not being interested in AB, more power to them. They have just as much right to NOT be interested as I do to BE interested. AB's relax, not everyone is going to share your thoughts or beliefs. OP-Your questions have been answered several times, give it a rest. If you do not understand the answers, re-read them. I have answered them, myself, in this response.

Please also, do not email me with requests to own you, I have a submissive I am extremely happy with and am not looking for any others.

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RE: adult babies--- real and very much a lifestyle!! - 1/24/2006 11:45:15 PM

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it really sux to feel like you are alone and not understood by others doesnt it?

i read your post and see the difficulty you are having wrestling with grasping what is being said here by others and relating it to yourself and the domme of your dreams.

i think there is a fine and subtle line here that that maybe is not entirely clear to you when you make your conclusions of what us subs are or become as a result of submitting or slavery to another.

i quoted several of your statements and i will take a shot at trying to help you with this. Please read this very carefully and give each item diligent thought, this is not an attack on you, so there is no need to be defensive and i hope you will concentrate on the comparisons with the idea of understanding what is going thru their minds so you can better understand your situation as it applies to them ok...

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ORIGINAL: lilbabyboy4u
Please tell me what is the diff between a slave/sub and a baby except the fact that an adult baby is unusual?

i will skip the difference part for now and say that as long as you feel that you are unusual you will not understand what people are saying here ok. There is a huge difference in the mental process of someone who thinks of themselves as being unique or different versus someone who thinks of themselves as unusual.

To grasp this and understand it you have to get unusual out of your head ok... you are unique ok... do you see what i mean?

ok so lets step thru this together.

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Dommes want their slave/sub to be reduced to nothing more than a child and be obedient to their every word

Here you have reasoned that: obedient and sub/slave = child.
Do you agree with that?

You are also correct! by my way of thinking... BUT... only to the extent that (and this is important here), but only to the extent that "certain" "very" "specific" qualities of the sub become comparable to a childs purity of heart or soul, such as honesty as an example, "not" the whole package or the whole person. many use child as a slang way of describing this.

That is the first part. the second part is that we need to recognize that child and baby are entirely two different things. babies do wear diapers and a child does not.

This is very important and you have to fathom this to understand further. Its important to see that being a child is "not" the same as being a baby.

i said that because you believe the whole persons core and all their character attributes and personality and traits become baby like to the point the whole person transmutates into a baby. Do you agree with this?

and you relate your submission or your submissive self to a helpless baby who cannot do anything for themselves. Do you agree with that?

and as a baby you feel the calm, peace, serenity, and security of the womb. Essentially your diaper becomes the womb or at least the catalyst for those serene feelings of being in the womb? Do you agree with that?

and that is the driving force for you to be a baby. yes?

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What is diff than changing a diaper than tieing an adult or dressing him in clothes she likes.

There is no difference whatso ever.
The key thing to remember here is that there are countless dommes who get really wet tying someone or dressing them in a way they find sexy and erotic or is a turn on to them. It is the same for you. i have on rare occasion seen a domme who gets off on putting someone in a diaper. You see they are unique too, and like you more on the rare side.

You need to think about this and understand that when you are unique you need to search for someone who is equally unique and relates to you in the same way you want to relate to her. does this make sense?

Of course it goes without saying that the more unique or rare you are and the more rare the person you are seeking is the more difficult it is to find that good good fit. You see?

So its not so much about the time, or the fact that you wear diapers or wish to be a baby as much as it is compatability of interests. Do you agree?

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I feel the adult baby is very precious and most Dommes(women) dont want to invade or disrupt that innocence so they say it is unusual !!!

Well that is a poor choice of words and really does not descibe you as much as it does the person who said it.

i am sure it was not intentionally meant to hurt you.

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I cant see the diff except that one is an adult way of controling and the other(an adult baby relationship) is an adult way for a Domme to experience motherhood and have her maternal desires fulfilled.

i dont think any woman could possibly experience the filfillment of their maternal desires from roleplay any more than they could experience menopause from it.

There is so much more to the child bearing, rearing and raising them than even the most elaborately thought out role play could ever provide. You have to put yourself in the place of the woman. Do you see this?

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I am not saying the sub is child like I am saying the Domme reduces him to the mind set of a child always dependant and obedient.

Ok you said several things here.
The first thing i notice with this statement is that childlike and the mindset of a child i really think are the same thing arent they?

Yes she will reduce or advance him to obedience.

Only a very small handful of dommes desire dependancy that goes beyond any other normal mainstream relationship, in fact a good deal of them dont want any depndency on them what so ever.

Next i think it is important to realize that being dependant and being obedient are not related or interdependent characteristics.

subs can be dependant without being obedient or obediant without being dependant. you see what i mean here?

Lastly the sub, or what most dommes are looking for in a sub is the same thing any mainstream nilla gurl wants with the addition that he is obedient to her on a 24/7 basis, "not" like a child tho ok? but moreso like a soldier.

She is the commander and chief and you would be her soldier always following orders that she, the commander and chief issues.

and getting back to the question on top

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Please tell me what is the diff between a slave/sub and a baby

i deleted the unusual because i hope we agree that you are unique.

That is the difference. a soldier follows all orders and obeys the commanding officer at all times, on and off duty. The greater majority of dommes out here are seeking the soldier variety.

But dont despair ok The internet to the rescue! You are just on the wrong site for your particular fetish. Check this out. Hope i have helped, hope this helps and good luck man!

http://www.dailydiapers.com/Diaper-Mates/

its to late to proof this sorry about errors

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RE: adult babies--- real and very much a lifestyle!! - 1/25/2006 3:57:13 PM

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This all 'Depends' on your point of reference. Some people in some places do this for a fews days cases in point:

Adult Diaper Sales Soar In China

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Adult diaper sales soar

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If you read one of the above articles, then think about life here in the USA now. In the San Francisco bay area the local BART rapid transit system has had all bathrooms closed for sometime now -- due to terrorism concerns.

Travelers that commute from the far out East Bay area have been known to use adult diapers to contend with the bathroom closers. It is not a pretty smelling site but it is occurring more and more now with bathroom closers and long commutes across the USA.

Additionally, it makes it harder for anti-terrorism and police forces that use body scans and frisking to find contraband when adults are wearing such thick material. The new background full body scans showing up in some airports have a harder time seeing through an adult diaper... thus, requiring a hand search....
And it is hard by hand to tell what exactly is going on through these things... So the question is less bathrooms more diapers? ... or more bathrooms?

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Sales of adult diapers soar over holiday journeys

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RE: adult babies--- real and very much a lifestyle!! - 1/27/2006 8:01:52 AM

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Certainly a interesting thread. After reading all of it, it just shows people with different interests and the reasons. Personally, I would seek someone with this interest rather than trying to convince anyone. Unless of course, they don't know what it is.

The advice of looking on other sites would be ones best bet if searching for someone.
The more you look, the more you will likely find.

Obviously I am a AB, but have no plans to convert someone.
Life is too short....just have fun

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RE: adult babies--- real and very much a lifestyle!! - 1/28/2006 3:31:55 AM

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Thankyou for such a thoughtful response to this topic string. It's so important to get input based on first hand experiences. I would like to mention something that might deal with the demand that an AB puts on a Mistress. The Mistress I served for several years, actually is the one that introduced AB play to me, but she mixed it with domestic service, as well as a few other surprises from time to time. A 24/7 baby wasn't something that either of us wanted, although I would have done that if that was required of me. I certainly didn't feel that way the first time she put me in diapers and babied me, but the bond that we developed over the years while I was her baby, was unlike anything I had experienced before. We became closer than I thought was possible and I know my need to serve and please her became stronger because of my time as her AB. I became a better submissive because of AB play.

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RE: adult babies--- real and very much a lifestyle!! - 1/28/2006 8:49:44 AM

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but the bond that we developed over the years while I was her baby, was unlike anything I had experienced before. We became closer than I thought was possible and I know my need to serve and please her became stronger because of my time as her AB. I became a better submissive because of AB play.

Well i for one am drawn to this way of life basically for the reason of the "closeness". Sure i am a sub, but that is not the driving factor, its the bond. i am not into the baby thing per se' but any relationship that fulfills all ones needs and in addition allows one another to form that kind of bond is priceless. i have been there once before too.

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RE: adult babies--- real and very much a lifestyle!! - 1/29/2006 1:22:32 AM

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I wanted to reply to this thread because it involves an interest of my own. I'll start out by saying that the vast majority of "adult babies" and other wordings for similar things tend to bother the hell out of me and make my skin crawl. Yes you want to be treated like a baby, good for you... why have you been online chatting all day, almost every day, while you crying to some random person or bitch in your blog about how you are wondering where your rent money will come from now that you purchased yet another package of diapers after you got 'let go' from your mcjob due to making people uncomfortable by wearing and using diapers there? Screw your head on straight and get your life in order before you put your wallet into your interests.

With my little rant said and done... I occasionally come into contact with folks who have similar interests to my own and voice the same frustrations in conversations about it. I'm not going to mention them at first however, instead I'm going to talk about a more blatant and larger misconception that another of my interests brings out in folks. I enjoy puppy play... very often I find the question or statement that immediately follows that is "you mean like... you like dogs?..." or "uhh... I don't get into animals". It then involves a long and bothersome backpeddling that involves me explaning that..
* I like dogs, cats, birds, all kinds of things for what they are... but not in that way. In fact I don't even like engaging in puppy play with real dogs around because of how it confuses these instinct driven animals with regards to humans.
* It's basically treating a person or making them behave fully or partially like a dog/puppy.
* No it doesn't mean that I'm entirely a dog and will act entirely like one, but would on occasion enjoy that if it's something you want... if not I'll happily not give it a second thought.
* No it doesn't mean you couldn't tie me up, spank me, or do any other number of things. In fact, I enjoy those things on their own and would enjoy those things being involved with it.
* No... I don't like dogs.
* No it doesn't mean I couldn't easily go back to being just plain submissive me if you told me to.
* No it doesn't mean that I'm going to pee on your furniture, but I'll do 'walkies' (within reason) if it's something you want... if not I'll happily not give it a second thought.
* No it doesn't mean you would need to treat me like a dog all the time, and I certainly wouldn't drop down to all fours and act like one... unless you made it clear you wanted me to behave as one at that time.
* No... really... I don't like dogs.
* Puppies can be very well behaved, and remember... I'm submissive first, I'm most certainly not going to do something to embarass you and quite enjoy making you proud/happy. If that means happily eating a milkbone (blech!) in front of people you know and doing things like roll over before saying "yes Ma'am" and standing up to fetch coffee so it doesn't spill all over the floor or burn people, then so be it... I'll even bark once for yes and two for no for the day if you tell me it's desired. If it involves being 'normal' and just fetching the coffee, then so be it... I'm not going to break down and cause you to potentially be embarased and humiliated in front of others by barking. You know what? I can even fall somewhere between those two if you tell me it's desired or expected. I'd rather be punished for not being doglike enough than embarass or annoy you by acting like one when it wasn't desired.
* so on, and so on, and so forth.

I find that similar problems occur when it comes to AB/diaper side of things. I'm submissive first, I just happen to enjoy more than the basic 'normal' bdsm style things... One of those things can involve diapers, I enjoy the humiliation or loss of control that would come with a dominant saying that they wanted me to wear diapers, ask permission to use the bathroom, and a whole host of other things like the chastity someone mentioned above only if the dominant I was with had an interest in that. Hell... if you want and were interested in it we could even go further with that, but all of the same much more clearcut things I mentioned with regards to puppy play still hold true in this respect too. I don't consider letting it go as being any different than a submissive saying "and I like clothespins too" only to have their dominant say "yea... Those kind of bother me, not really into those... would you mind if we don't involve those?". Unfortunately, even mentioning the topic when a dominant is asking about interests tends to make people immediately suspect you might fall into that screwed up group of folks I mentioned in my first paragaph rant who can't happily be a submissive without that one particular aspect.

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RE: adult babies--- real and very much a lifestyle!! - 1/29/2006 7:25:14 AM

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* No it doesn't mean that I'm going to pee on your furniture, but I'll do 'walkies' (within reason) if it's something you want... if not I'll happily not give it a second thought.

Whats a "walkie" ?

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RE: adult babies--- real and very much a lifestyle!! - 2/4/2006 6:13:45 AM

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I haven't done that in 50 years. AB play isn't always about wetting or messing in a diaper, but even if it was, there are lots of other ways to have wet and messy fun in the alternitive life style realm and I bet you've done some of those. So what's the hang up about doing it in your pants?

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RE: adult babies--- real and very much a lifestyle!! - 11/26/2007 2:06:49 AM

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I agree with you.

First, I would hope that people realize an adult baby is a, well..baby. Most people seek for sexual partners of their choice, and unless your seriously demented, no one wants to have sex with a baby in diapers.

I think more of my AB compatriots have to be realistic. Are there people who want their own bABy? Yes. But more then likely they aren't planning or wish to have sex with you. You have to realize, in that type of relationship YOUR A BABY. Babies don't have sex, drive cars, hold jobs or for that matter have sexual relationships with Momma or Daddy.

The most realistic situation would be where a couple, or a woman or man with a partner allready might wish to have a bABy of their own. This will only come from getting to know you, and trust you. It will mean you will have to compromise. Any woman or man worth their salt that wants their own bABy, usually isn;t in it because they want to have sex with them. I am sure there are a variety of reasons, but that isn't the big one.

I also think, as far as the sub/dom spectrum, that it is true, in a sense that many bABies are topping from the bottom. Things would be better if they just accepted the fact their a BABY. Babies don't decide when they go to bed, what they wear, when and where their changed or what they eat. If you truly wish to live like as an Adult Baby, your going to have to accept that. In a 24-7 Parent-bABy relationsip, your just that, an infant or a toddler.

So my advice is to:

1) be flexible

2) Realize that if you DO get in such a relationship, your life will be VERY different. Your going to spend a lot of your day either in a playpen or a crib, and you will more then likely be required to both soil and wet your diapers. Your going to have babysitters and your NOT going to have a lot of privacy. Last time I checked, people didn't worry too much if people were around when the baby gets changed.
Another thing, your more then likely going to have to take naps. I doubt if your living that way all the time there will be a lot of discression. I can imagine that you will not leave the house too often, and if you do it will be in a carseat or in a stroller. You really can;t expect everyone, probably your family too, to know your living like an infant or toddler.

3) Your NOT likely to get sex. If your ok with Mommy or Daddy going out on you and having girlfriends/boyfriends and you getting no nooky, then your cool. Like I said babies don;t have sex. Your life is going to revolve around children programs on t.v, diaper changes, playing in your playpen, naps, bathtime and maybe going to the park or zoo in a stroller or with a child leash on. Glamorous, huh? Oh, and don;t forget the babysitter LOL. But your not going to get any nooky, so you can forget that.

3) If thats what you want, own it and accept it. You can;t have it both ways. If your going to be a baby 24-7, then your going to have to accept an infant's or toddlers lot in life, good and bad. That includes spankings, corner time and being put to bed early besies hugs and being fed a bottle.

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RE: adult babies--- real and very much a lifestyle!! - 11/26/2007 2:21:51 AM

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Wise words baby73, for those who are AB. Especially about the sex. URGH!!!

I've had my babies, adored them and still do. But I am a dominant, not a mummy. I certainly don't want a slave/sub who wants to be treated as an infant. I have neither the patience, nor the time to indulge someone else. I also can't be bothered with sissies. It is my preference. I dominate someone who is a mans man. I can't think of anything more repulsive than spending half my life with someone who needs 24/7 care AND nappy changes.

But whatever tickles ya pickle.

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RE: adult babies--- real and very much a lifestyle!! - 11/26/2007 2:50:21 AM

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Right. To be perfectly honest, I can;t see why any man would want to be treated like a dog by many of the women here. No offense, but I just don't get it. It's not me. Im not into whips, hot wax and Hitleresque women barking orders at me like i'm a dog.

That's just not for me. I'm not cut that way to let people tie my balls with a chain or put a cigar out on my forehead. Hey if you want to do it, more power to you. That's just not my thing.

I think what the non-AB world has to understand, though, is that for some this is not so much "play acting". There is a certain mindset that you get into when you have a good Parent-bABy matchup. It's an emotional thing, more then anything else.
Being an AB myself, I can tell you that the relationships I have had with Mommies have consisted of loving them, but in an emotional way. I love my mommy, there is no doubt in the world she is my everything. But I also realize, the dynamics of the relationship is far different then the outsideworld understands.

I think you also have to take in the wide diversity of "ages" of AB's. You have some that are just really infants, and then you have some that are toddlers. Yes, the infants are going to soil themselves, it's par for the course. But the key to understanding an Ab is to begin to understand their "baby age".
Let me give you an example. It is perfectly allright for a Mommy or Daddy to expect a toddler AB to "tell" them when they have to go. Toddlers are learning potty training, and so it is perfectly within the rights of the afore mentioned Mommy or Daddy to insist they tell them when they have to go, and insist they use the potty. It is also perfectly within their rights to punish them, in an age appropriate matter, when they don't tell and soil or wet themselves!
So a nuances aspect people don't consider is "Age". It has EVERYTHING to do with what they can or can not do and what you can expect from them. Most two year olds, for instance, are at LEAST being trained to use a potty chair ohatever. If I was Daddying one who was of the baby age of two or older, you better believe I'd spank them if the deliberately messed themselves without telling me they had to use the potty!
Infants, it's different. But then again the dynamics is different. I would much prefer an Ab Toddler then an Ab Infant. I don;t fancy getting up for late night feeds, or having to wipe messy bumbs up much.

So age is a consideration. Then their is personality. Some Ab's are very quiet and submissive. Infants are more or less satisfied to sit in a playpen and play with their rattle or whatever. Outside of diaper changes or feedings, you don't have much to worry about. Maybe putting them down for a nap early or early bedtimes and rocking them, but outside that there easier to care for.
Some Ab's are very boisterous. They get in to things, just like any other baby, and so you have to watch them. Toddlers tend to be more in this class since their more amblatory. Plus, they can stand and get into things they shouldn't. They throw temper tantrums, cry when they don't get what they want and can be very self willed. Discipline is a big deal, and there not necessarily going to passively go along with stanhding in the corner or being put in their crib as punishment.

In general, if you have an AB you have a baby, just bigger. As for it being "real", I would have to agree. Most Ab's can tell you about their "Little"; personality, age, likes/dislikes, gender, e.t.c. So I think it is wrong just to assume that this is just play acting. I guess that's the point. I would NEVER encourage a person become a Mommy, Daddy or Babysitter unless they are willing to deal with what amounts to a big infant or toddler. Their "Little" is very real, and when their in that headspace, you just better assume their what they are and treat them accordingly. So Ab's are better off if people know themselves better and if their willing and able to deal with a big toddler or infant. Otherwise, the Mommy or Daddy can be easily overcome by babies behaviour.

Let's face it, most of us weren;t equipped to deal with a five foot 8 inch 2 year old, right? (:

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RE: adult babies--- real and very much a lifestyle!! - 11/26/2007 3:01:13 AM

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I think I should point out to you baby73 that I, and many other Mistresses on here, do not ever treat anyone as you described in your first two paragraphs. I also do not see infantilism as role playing.

I do not use physical punishment, I do not bark orders and I am certainly not "hitleresque". In fact, I am quietly spoken, very feminine and don't do the whole "corset, whip and boots" thing. I am simply a dominant personality who has a slave who does all the things I ask of him. My requirements are very "normal", such as massage, housework, running errands, etc. That's why I have said, many times, that I do not view myself as "kinky". I don't get off on it, I simply am.

Don't assume all dominants fit into a neat little box. We are as wide and varied as the stars in the sky, just as AB's are.

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RE: adult babies--- real and very much a lifestyle!! - 11/26/2007 3:24:27 AM

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Well, I'm in the habit of expressing my opinions. People are ALWAYS free to disagree with them. That's what makes free democracies so wonderful!

That being said, I'm just being honest. My adult self is not ameniable to being a playtoy or feeling like a mindless sycophant at someone's beck and call. Now, you may disagree with those charcterizations, and if you do so, well so be it. Like I said, were all gfree to express are opnions, that's what makes the world a great place to live.
It's just MHO, that a lot of this is that some people just really get an ego boost from having their little toy or pet jump when they say jump. That's fine if that's what you and the other person likes. I believed there was a woman on this thread that expressed her opinion on what she had seen, and this is my opinion based on what I have seen and known.
Again, were all free to express our individual opinions. Incidentally, I agree with many of the posters here on many of their points of view. Im just not into being someones plaything or mindless sycophant who waits on them hand and foot. I'm sure I'm in the minority in that opinojn, but such is my opinion.
The same thing that people have said about Adult Babies applies to Doms as well. It is not condemning you or anyone to simply say that most people are not interested in being regarded as a slave or whatever. I don't consider myself a slave, nor do I myself seek to be anyones slave. It's fine if others desire that, but I figure slavery went out 200 years ago for some very good reasons.

It is my opinion that the dynamics is different. I may be entirely wrong, but it seems that the Doms want someone who will wait on them hand and foot and jump when they say jump.Perhaps it is easier to find people like that, I really don't know. I can certainly see the attraction some people have to it, having someone who is willing, probably within limits, to do anything you say, in contrast to having what amounbts to an oversized toddler or infant.
That being said, I guess there are lots of men out there who would do such a thing. Again, I think in the context of the discussion in this thread, that most men would see that as an unequal relationship and perhaps might question why they would want to be with a partner who seemed, in word and deed, to feel they are an inferior creature. What is in it for them, really? Sex is wonderful, but that is hardly the only basis for a relationship. It seems to me the Doms are the ones getting the most out of it, and it also seems, in my opinion, that just as women don't want to have to change a grown man's diaper, most men wouldn't be too hot in being addressed as slave or, for that matter, being made to be feel like an inferior, subhuman creature. But then that's just my opinon.

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RE: adult babies--- real and very much a lifestyle!! - 11/26/2007 6:15:06 AM

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Why would every woman be open to doing adult baby stuff let alone enjoying it?

Are you, lilbabyboy4u, open to everything for everyone? I doubt it.

Personally my childhood abuse makes since a scenario very troublesome and I've only done it rarely with my husband who identifies as you do, an adult baby. However he is fully aware it is a rare desire so he finds most of his satisfaction with himself or simply talking with/meeting with others of a similar orientation.

Also personally I just don't honestly see the adult baby as a submissive role. I've taken care of babies, I've taken care of people who physically or medically needed the same care; they were not submissive, sometimes passive but hardly submissive and my job was to take care of them. About as far from an owner/mistress role that I can think of.

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RE: adult babies--- real and very much a lifestyle!! - 11/26/2007 8:39:51 AM

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Well said. I think AB's have to accept the different dynamics of Infantalism. Most women are reluctant to accept step children, no less an adult in diapers.

Plus, you have to realize not everyone is QUALIFIED to do it. To be a good Parent to a bABy it takes understanding, discipline, nurturing and love. Some people just don't possess these qualities. It is irrational to expect them to have the emotions or commitment that a good Parent-bABy relationship requires. You should be releaved that people who simply aren't capable of such a special relationsip, wisely choose other pursuits.

IMHO, it takes a VERY soecial person. Many just don't have it in their hearts or minds what is required to be a good, loving Parent. We should respect that and allow them to pursue other interests like beating people or shackling them to walls or whatever. No offense, but Ab/Parent play may be too gentle, loving and intimate for them. We should respect that.

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