bigbABygentleman
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I'm not a Domme or Dom. I have been an adult baby and diaper lover for many years. Posting on a 2 year old post is probably like spitting on a forest fire, but, I think I can, I think I can :)
The observations I've managed to make over the years are:
1. Women don't want men as babies, but consider us babies and most immature, BUT not all.
2. Women do want their men potty trained but will do laundry where the underwear should be replaced with trainers at the least and diapers for most.
3. Women don't want to change an adults diaper, unless they're in the nursing field, medical professional etc, since they deal with on a daily basis.
4. Women want a romantic, masculine man to make their fantasies a reality.
5. Women don't mind coddling, breastfeeding or even changing their man's diapers, if they're being fulfilled sexually, emotionally and physically as well as no financial woes.
6. Men that want to do anything 24/7/365 need their heads examined. That's so much work for ANYONE.
7. Men don't understand how women work or how their minds function.
I have had the honor and pleasure of being with very beautiful and caring women that had limits, but diapers weren't one of them. They didn't want me to lie to them. They wanted me to hold them after sex. They wanted me to listen when they talked and at least act like I was interested. They wanted to feel like they were the most important thing in THEIR lives.
Wearing a diaper doesn't make me any less of a man. Using a diaper doesn't either. What makes a man, is what she or he want's them to be.
The women, respectfully that don't understand this fetish/lifestyle, you don't know what you're missing. An adult that loves and is totally comitted to you mind, body and soul. The feeling of someone suckling your breast and you knowing how complete that makes you feel.
I know I'll probably be flamed and I've got broad shoulders and big wide feet to support my frame of 6'7" tall.
I mean no disrespect to anyone, but when someone says this is sick or worse they could never see themselves doing this. I say to that person, how did you feel when you first realized you were Dominant? Did you wrestle with it or WHAM just accept it right away? My guess is the majority of people wrestle with it. I know I did as an AB/DL when I was in my 20's and 30's when there was no Internet and the only outlet was massage parlors and adult bookstores with the occasional story in Penthouse Forum or when publications came out like Letters etc. I was like many of my fellow and fellowette AB/DL's. I thought I was the only one in the world and why on earth did this happen to me?
Then the fetish lovers like me, founded Amber Enterprises, DPF, Infante Press, Linda Latex and places like Sherema and other scene related places like Mistress Uba's bABy boutique in Hollywood California opened up and there were AB/DL parties, where you could actually go and meet other men and women that were into the same thing you were personally. I found out, that I wasn't all that different from them and I like most just wanted and needed validation that I wasn't needing a window room in the local sanitarium or the crossbar hotel for wearing diapers.
The first time I went into a public place to buy diapers, I remember the feeling that everyone could tell they were for ME. Oh my God, the pharmacist knows, the stockperson knows, and the cashier, the cute cashier knows that I wear adult diapers. It's the farthest thing from most people's minds, unless you are into the fetish. When I wore my diapers in public, I could hear every step crinkle crinkle and thought my God everyone can hear that I'm diapered.
Again, farthest thing from the truth, most people are so self-absorbed in their day-to-day lives they don't have time to worry about what type of underwear you're wearing, let alone think an adult is wearing a diaper.
Now if you use the diaper and by chance it leaks, most will think that poor pathetic adult has a medical problem and needs them. Some may even offer to assist you, if you leak badly. I know! My ex used to poke pin holes in the diaper to insure they leaked when I soaked them, unbeknown to me, until it was too late. When an adult soils a diaper, it can be a disgusting event, however there are products on the market to reduce or eliminate odors.
The women I dated thought there was something enpowering when they took away even my most basic bodily functions and gave them to the diaper. You can say you won't use the diaper, but enough fluids and solids eaten and digested and body will eventually prove you wrong. Privately wetting or soiling is an experience the first time that some feel they could never bear, but they get past it. The first time in public and you worry about everyone around you can smell what's happened. Most could care less, unless your Mistress/mommy draws attention to you with humiliating comments or checks your diaper visibly in a very public area then comments that, "you could wait till we got home baby" or something similar. You want to have the earth open up and swallow you whole, right then and there, but again, you survive.
Adult Babies and Diaper Lovers are not always submissive and some Dommes/Mommies don't like that. Some don't want the pacifiers and adornments of baby's. Others on the other hand, want it all, nursery, diapers, panties, bottles, babyfood, changing table, playpen, early bedtimes, wet and or messy diapers, bibs, high chairs, breastfeedings etc.
Some women want their baby in diapers. It acts as a chastity device against other women touching their man/baby. It also serves to remind the man, day-to-day, who is in control of that area of the body. When he has to use the bathroom publicly, he has to choose, risk being discovered in diapers or use the diaper and hope it doesn't leak. Worse is if a mommy wants to put an arrogant man in his place, she might feed him a high fiber diet for a few days, forcing him to use the diaper to soil himself. This is another step toward his complete submission, not to her, but to the diapers. He will have to come home and upon inspection and questioning, have to admit that he couldn't hold any more than a real baby and he used his diapers just like a baby.
The good thing about AB/DL play is that she also has a man that when she's changing him and he get's aroused, she can use that for HER enjoyment. When he's suckling at her breast and they've worked at it and she's lactating, it's an erotic experience for her. He can manually stimulate her, while he suckles, bringing her to multiple orgasms and reinforcing her power over him and his diapers. Also, it should be noted that since this is TWO consenting adults, there can also be adult sexual play. However many women get into a mindset, where they see their partner as a true and helpless infant at times and therefore, potty training may be necessary. But since usually the AB/DL play is NOT 24/7/365, the toilet training may be decreased where urgency needs to be addressed or risk an accident, but total and complete incontinence usually will not result in wearing diapers.
If AB/DL's would remember women aren't not like men. They want the romance, they want their man successful so they can be proud of him. They want him to treat her like a LADY in public and his Mistress in the bedroom. If more men would do this, most marriages would last a lifetime. Quit thinking ME ME ME and start thinking WE WE WE. Communicate with your partner; Be Honest about your desires, but also be willing to listen to hers. Treat her with admiration and respect and you'll find a woman that would do just about anything and then some. You relationship will grow and so will you love and respect for your partner.
Sorry for my rantings, but that's my .02 cents.
bigbABygentleman
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RE: adult babies--- real and very much a lifestyle!! - 
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