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Master why do you want to share me? - 7/18/2007 12:21:16 AM

mine2share

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Master says i will grow from this experience but why do Masters share their prized possession? i promised to please Him and be so good for Him, i am feeling anxious. How should i feel? Is Master proud of me?

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RE: Master why do you want to share me? - 7/18/2007 12:29:52 AM

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He might be getting money from whoever he is loaning you out to. Always a possibility. That isn't always true, but please consider it.

Sometimes, they want to show off their prized possessions to show off for their friends. They owe their friends a huge favor.

Is he going to be involved, meaning will he be there with you & beside you while he is sharing you?

There is no way I would loan out any of my submissives for sexual service with anyone. I might enjoy bringing someone else in, but I am damn well going to be there the whole time. But that is just me. And of course, I am a Domme, not a Master.

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RE: Master why do you want to share me? - 7/18/2007 12:47:58 AM

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I never understood why a master would share his slave girl. Maybe I'm just too possessive or not enough of an exibitionist to understand. Maybe there are other reasons.

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RE: Master why do you want to share me? - 7/18/2007 12:48:36 AM

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Could it possibly be a mind f**k?

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RE: Master why do you want to share me? - 7/18/2007 12:48:42 AM

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I confess I am somewhat mystified by this post, as your profile reads:

"Come share the fun you she and Me makes 3

she is "mine" you are free to be pleased and I mean W/we will pleasure you I am her loving Master and I enjoy watching you enjoy yourselves"

so either you knew what you were getting into right at the outset (so why question it now?) or the profile is really owned my some male getting his rocks off. There is maybe another explanation, but if so, please elucidate...?

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RE: Master why do you want to share me? - 7/18/2007 12:56:38 AM

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Yes, it is my profile with Master approved edits to include His status as well.

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RE: Master why do you want to share me? - 7/18/2007 1:01:57 AM

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ORIGINAL: farieanne

Could it possibly be a mind f**k?

i think this is possible at the time it is mentioned, but in a split second i wonder if it is just my wishful thinking and not reality. His statements are becoming more direct and more of a confirmation than a question or request. i think He is for real.

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RE: Master why do you want to share me? - 7/18/2007 1:56:41 AM

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Not all do...in fact, many don't. You promised to be good...did you also promise to be shared? If you can't do it, tell him now...don't wait until it's too late

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RE: Master why do you want to share me? - 7/18/2007 2:52:17 AM

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Do you have any interest in doing this? Does the idea excite you at all? How long have you been with your Master? Has he proven worthy of your trust, proven that he will protect you from harm, both physical and emotional? Have you discussed screening criteria for choosing the other person? Have you discussed limits, STDs, condoms? Can you bail out from the encounter if something causes you to feel unsafe or unhappy? These are all vital things to talk with him about.

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RE: Master why do you want to share me? - 7/18/2007 3:04:37 AM

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A Mistress here. I agree completely with nyrisa. For something like this, you really need to feel safe in the knowledge that your Master is in charge of your welfare. I think most Dom/mes are prepared to set limits before the event and reassure the sub if necessary. If he isn't prepared to discuss these very real concerns (use of condoms, extreme violence, etc.) with you, I would be thinking very carefully if this is really what you want. Possibly being in a position to get an STD or be harmed in some way is NOT submission, it's stupidity.

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RE: Master why do you want to share me? - 7/18/2007 4:24:28 AM

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Is this something you agreed to or wanted? If it's not, why are you even with him? Not all Masters share, a lot of them prefer not to. I know when Master and I got together, he used to talk of it. I then realized it was just a fantasy in his head, when it came right down to it, he couldn't or wouldn't do it.

He needs to realize that if it is something you really are against, he will have to deal with the emotional stuff after. If you really don't want to, you need to stop it all now before it goes too far to put a halt to.

If you do want it and are just nervous, then that is a whole different story. Talk to your Dom about it and let him calm your fears. Make sure he will be there, condoms will be used, and that you will be safe. I am sure for some it can be enjoyable, but it's not for everyone and you shouldn't make yourself if it's not.

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RE: Master why do you want to share me? - 7/18/2007 4:33:22 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mine2share

Master says i will grow from this experience but why do Masters share their prized possession? i promised to please Him and be so good for Him, i am feeling anxious. How should i feel? Is Master proud of me?

Why would he do it? Because that's some people's kink... because they enjoy it, even get off on it.

As for how you should feel about it, or what he's thinking, no one can know but you and him. Perhaps you should spend some time talking about it with one another beforehand, not afterward.

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RE: Master why do you want to share me? - 7/18/2007 4:53:36 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mine2share

Master says i will grow from this experience but why do Masters share their prized possession? i promised to please Him and be so good for Him, i am feeling anxious. How should i feel? Is Master proud of me?

Although i am new to the forum, i am not new to D/s, etc., but that in no means, makes me any kind of expert on this topic. I can say this....I have been shared and the loving exchange between me and My Master, bonded us even more than i thought possible. He explained to me that he wanted to see my fantasies realized and that he had picked up on many of my needs and hence, came the order. i did grow out of jealously i'd previously had, and learned what 'unconditonally" meant.

However, i must add that in saying he did not force me, demand it of me; rather, took time and patience w/ me, and the reward for Us/us was immeasurable. He was present and controlled the entire scene.

Good luck to you. Every D/s relationship is different and that is one of the wonderful dynamics of the lifestyle.

Blessings,
wgirl

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RE: Master why do you want to share me? - 7/18/2007 5:43:42 AM

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There is nothing to dictate how you SHOULD feel. Even if you agreed to it in the beginning that doesn't mean that you can't feel nervous or anxious or whatever.

If you want to know if your Master is proud of you, ask HIM, not us.

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RE: Master why do you want to share me? - 7/18/2007 6:35:01 AM

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In answer to your question of why some Masters share:
There are a multitude of reasons actually. I have no idea why your Master wants to share you but here are some reasons maybe one of them fits why.
He is proud of what you are and whats to show you off
He feels that you want to be shared but may be afraid to actually ask for it or are embarressed to ask for it
He wants to push you to learn more about yourself
He wants to see how committed you are
Its a kink for him
He has further plans and this is one thing that has to be done, like a building block for the future
It could be a mind fuck
He wants to see if you will stand up to him, (respectfully) if you are really against it
He is a jerk and doesnt care about your feelings
He has fantized about it and wants to do it
Then again none of these may fit why and he has a reason that only he knows why.
Bottomline we all have the right in this world to say no or yes to anything. Yes people may say that you have no choice in this because this is the life you lead, but reality is that we are all free people to do as we wish. This is a free country.
If you trust him and he has taken care of you and he is responsible and you feel safe with him then do the best you can to follow what he wants. Are you going to be nervous and scared? It seems you are, but it also seems like you arent saying no just having a bit of an issue with nerves, this is normal for anything new. I will assume that he has had you perform tasks in the past that made you feel the same way and since you are still in love with him and want to serve him then he must have taken care of you through them.
Trust your gut, look at how things have progressed in your relationship and act accordingly.

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RE: Master why do you want to share me? - 7/18/2007 6:50:01 AM

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why do Masters share their prized possession?

Because they can.

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RE: Master why do you want to share me? - 7/18/2007 6:50:28 AM

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Make sure that this is something you are interested in doing, if it isn't then I suggest that you do not do it. There is nothing wrong with expanding boundaries but you do not want to be damaged in the process. If you do decide to go ahead with it make sure that your Master is there to keep these guys stay in line. Also be sure that condoms are used and that they know your limits.

Many Dom/mes use the "it will expand your horizons and teach you something new approach" and it possibly could or it could be a way to apply pressure/guilt on you to make you bend to his will.

I am sure there are going to be two schools of thought on this. One is from the perspective that if you are a slave you are just property, you need to suck it up and do as your told. (I do not hold that view) the other is you are property but you are a human being first and you do have the right to say no to anything that could be damaging to you.

Good Luck,
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RE: Master why do you want to share me? - 7/18/2007 6:56:44 AM

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I was once with one who told me that one didn't truly own someone if they couldn't lend them out to someone else. Or something close to that thought. I wasn't so sure that I bought that concept. The current man's thoughts on this is...he owns me which means he doesn't have to share his toys. I like this concept much better. There is a fantasy appeal to me about being shared. I think the reality of it would probably fuck me up in the head though.

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RE: Master why do you want to share me? - 7/18/2007 6:59:31 AM

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Sir shares me because he knows it is in my nature to be sexual...He gives me an outlet to express that where he is still in control and I am in a safe environment. He enjoys seeing me express that sexuality, he enjoys showing off to others what he owns that they dont...lots of other reasons too...but those are the main ones I think of now...

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RE: Master why do you want to share me? - 7/18/2007 7:02:32 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

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why do Masters share their prized possession?
Because they can.

Kinda what I was thinking. Although I don't presume to be Master's "most prized possession." I have value to him but not sure about the most prized thing as he has not referred to me as such.

I suggest you relay your fears to him so perhaps he can help you sort through them. It can be scary to think about, but working through those thoughts and serving him by doing what he wants of you can feel quite wonderful. When Master has allowed others limited enjoyment of me, I went into it knowing it was Master I was serving; not the other person. He was quite pleased with me afterwards, which made me happy of course.

The question is, do you trust him? If you trust him, then have no worries. If you don't, then you best talk to him about it. Meanwhile, it is normal to feel anxious about doing something big and new. But he needs to know what you're feeling.

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