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RE: Tributes done right. - 7/25/2007 8:46:33 PM

ElanSubdued

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Pandora,

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MissDiscipline: WHo the f$ck cares - I have never met so mant self righteous cheap ass subs - who want to jerk off at descriptions of their pending punishments and pics of their potential Domme and then become jerks a nd scurry off at the mere mention or thought gifts, tribute, payments. Pay me the f$ck for My wasted time on you - wanne be psuedo subs - Some times the intereactions are wonderful - Some time you couldnt tribute Me to interact again. I say do what ever y'all agree on. If you are so offended - just keep moving.

MisPandora: Some might be willing to pay to make an attitude like that go away...

I pondered this same thought myself.

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RE: Tributes done right. - 7/26/2007 10:53:48 AM

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Tributes done right...........I must laugh a hardy laugh......

How sad that anyone would need to resort to this to supplement their income.

I rule all women and I never seek a tribute from anyone of my subjects.

WOW, never knew I was ruled. Come here little one and we'll see who rules who.

Women don't give tribute, they give gifts......it's a girl thing....smile....to demand payment in cash from a woman would get you laughed at. Men measure their worth via money...so handing over cash is as dear to them as handing over a piece of their soul. Until that changes, women will demand money and men will feel good handing it over. And if you don't think so try and refuse gifts and/or money from a male sub. They POUT for days. Weeks even. I Know, I have never accepted any gift of any kind from any sub. And I have refused quite a few. Blows the male mind to smithereens......you are rejecting THEM if you reject their offering. But still I do it. Habit I guess.

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RE: Tributes done right. - 7/26/2007 11:37:28 AM

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isn't it funny how some things become different along gender lines? A female slave would never think of money but I find they almost always love buying gifts well within their means which make me feel appreciated and generally this enhances the moment for us both and often leads to a dinner out or shopping to surprise her. I would think a male slave who is focused on his success would enjoy demonstrating it, or if a poet in writing, or gardner in flowers ect. I certainly have known more women taken advantage of finiancially over the years than men

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RE: Tributes done right. - 7/26/2007 11:46:02 AM

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Mistress Cass, with respect i dont measure my worth in monetary terms. Money comes and goes, my self worth is constant. I have to agree i pout when a Mistress refuses a gift, it only happened once but the gift was from the heart and not the pocket, and thats why it hurt. Once Mistress saw this She graciously accepted.

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RE: Tributes done right. - 7/26/2007 12:06:07 PM

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Once again I am caught in my own sweeping statements......Let me change that to "MANY men measure themselves by their ability to make a good living" AND every man defines "good living" differently.....so you didn't buy into the "monitary evaluation" of "Manhood".....but many men do......and to refuse their gift, regardless of cost, is to refuse them....in their mind.......Not yours.....unless it is from your heart.....smile....

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RE: Tributes done right. - 7/26/2007 2:44:31 PM

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My biggest worry about the whole "tribute" drama is that generous (spirited) men and those classy gentleman that, by their nature, enjoy giving thoughtful gifts will start to back off for fear they are being taken advantage of. In this thread, I am talking about genuine tributing -- the kind where you do something generous of spirit and finance (sometimes) to show affection and as part of the courting process and you get pleasure in doing the act itself.

A big problem with women that do make it clear they expect tributes is that a man does not have the opportunity to surprise her! After all, how will she know if he's doing it just because she told him it is expected? She will never know! If a woman says NOTHING and does not give hints, then it's up to the man to really decide when and if it is appropriate to show his affection and attention and really wow her.

Guys, what examples can you give of times that you showed genuine interesting via courting and surprised a lady who did not ask or demand a tribute? This is your chance to wow the ladies and demonstrate that it's better to let a man operate on his own imagination rather than be pushy and demanding. What ways did you totally surprise her?

Ladies, what are some of the generous gifts (of spirit also) that you have received, without coaxing or demanding?

Akasha

While I make it clear I expect some type of Tribute the ones who come truely want to give something by the time I am done with them.
Sorry if that sounds snooty...I am good at what I do and submissives give because they want to.Some enjoy the whole scene of paying something so it plays into a fantasy they have.
I must be doing something right they keep coming back for more even if they do have to pay in some way.

Some of the gifts I have gotten just because...
Copper pipes dropped off when I wasnt home to build the jail cell.
A medical exam table,rope,hooks,paddles(thank you Instynctive for the hand),lava lamps(those are way cool for dungeon effect).Clothes...love clothes

I'm not really the poetry type,or into flowers unless they can go in the outside garden.I would rather have something that improves the dungeon so everyone can benefit.

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RE: Tributes done right. - 7/26/2007 2:55:45 PM

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I would rather have something that improves the dungeon so everyone can benefit.

What...Like a prisoner Ma`am ? ( Acts all innocent )

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RE: Tributes done right. - 7/26/2007 5:46:50 PM

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by inexperienced Dominas and the 'net boys who like to play this game.

What are net boys? Never heard of them..... *Shrugs*

Sorry, haven't been here in a few. 'net boys...Those who like to play on and pretty much limit themselves to the internet. They would probably run into less "tribute" problems if they ever bothered to spend a little time at a munch or some live events.

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RE: Tributes done right. - 7/27/2007 6:16:38 PM

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paddles(thank you Instynctive for the hand)

You are very welcome, Mistress. There is much more where that Hand came from too.. :-)

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RE: Tributes done right. - 7/27/2007 7:15:51 PM

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I would rather have something that improves the dungeon so everyone can benefit.

What...Like a prisoner Ma`am ? ( Acts all innocent )

Well if you wernt so dang far away...
I'd love to lock you in the jail cell.

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RE: Tributes done right. - 7/27/2007 7:20:43 PM

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paddles(thank you Instynctive for the hand)

You are very welcome, Mistress. There is much more where that Hand came from too.. :-)

Now that was a gift from a fellow Dom and had nothing to do with a session.
Just a gift for a Friend.Just like the ones I have given Him.
One of the cool things of having Someone close by.

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RE: Tributes done right. - 7/27/2007 7:20:53 PM

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I'll be right over Mistress..

Oh.. wait.. it wouldn't be proper etiquette to leave poor precious suspended from the ceiling, would it? :-)

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RE: Tributes done right. - 7/27/2007 7:28:11 PM

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I'll be right over Mistress..

Oh.. wait.. it wouldn't be proper etiquette to leave poor precious suspended from the ceiling, would it? :-)

I assume shes on the ceiling now?
Poor precious...and NO its NOT proper...

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RE: Tributes done right. - 7/27/2007 7:46:00 PM

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Fucking cops.

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RE: Tributes done right. - 7/28/2007 3:13:07 AM

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I would rather have something that improves the dungeon so everyone can benefit.

What...Like a prisoner Ma`am ? ( Acts all innocent )

Well if you wernt so dang far away...
I'd love to lock you in the jail cell.

Blushes a bit..... i doubt i`d be quite so lippy if i was that close Ma`am

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RE: Tributes done right. - 7/28/2007 1:13:10 PM

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I would rather have something that improves the dungeon so everyone can benefit.

What...Like a prisoner Ma`am ? ( Acts all innocent )

Well if you wernt so dang far away...
I'd love to lock you in the jail cell.

Blushes a bit..... i doubt i`d be quite so lippy if i was that close Ma`am

I am quite sure you wouldnt be...lol

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RE: Tributes done right. - 7/28/2007 1:21:23 PM

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MistressSassy66,

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While I make it clear I expect some type of Tribute, the ones who come truely want to give something by the time I am done with them. Sorry if that sounds snooty... I am good at what I do and submissives give because they want to.

I'm damn good at what I do as well. Wanna' tribute to me? Really, I know you'll *want* to after we've played.

(Why yes indeed, I *am* being a brat. :-)

Elan.

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RE: Tributes done right. - 8/12/2007 10:28:58 PM

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pollux,
very well stated-
soo many cloud the issue by saying be generous - when they mean PAY ME.. and others say be financially stable when they mean - let's explore the possiblility of being real -

it is soo gamey at this point that it makes a true - stable - giver- and real person - throw up the hands and want to quit..

yuck....

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RE: Tributes done right. - 3/7/2008 3:08:36 AM

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At the end of the day it's all about what works for the parties involved....my only lament being the financial scams people keep getting suckered into.

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RE: Tributes done right. - 3/7/2008 11:05:23 AM

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Well my first time meeting anyone in this Lifestyle, Who I still Meet. She Never asked for anything all she every asked me is be myself, being honest, and just being you. She never asked for tribute (which I'm shocked) since I meet her every week. I only knew her for like 3 weeks, ok we only met 3 times and I told one weekend I wasn't gonna see her because it was my Birthday and I would be hanging with "the guys" And she laughed and I asked, her why she was laughing she told me that her birthday was the following day. I was like no way!! This was a couple of weeks before our birthdays I would see 1 more time before that. So I decided that it would be cool to get her a card for her Birthday and a girft card to Blockbuster. Well just because it was her birthday, But also as a friendly thank

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