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RE: why cheat???? - 8/15/2007 8:23:43 PM

leatherette

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I understand.
Deep, thoughtful yet oh so fuct up.
Thank you

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RE: why cheat???? - 8/15/2007 8:45:53 PM

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You are welcome...I would like a tit shot now.

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RE: why cheat???? - 8/15/2007 8:48:19 PM

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RE: why cheat???? - 8/15/2007 9:00:38 PM

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ORIGINAL: michaelOfGeorgia

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why cheat????

my gf and i have discussed this situation and we both agree, it's only cheating if either or both parties hide their activities.

why not..?

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RE: why cheat???? - 8/15/2007 9:44:27 PM

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ORIGINAL: michaelOfGeorgia

my gf and i have discussed this situation and we both agree, it's only cheating if either or both parties hide their activities.

EXACTLY!!!! i couldn't agree more (can you tell?)....Deception makes it cheating...betrayal of trust...and lying

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RE: why cheat???? - 8/16/2007 8:05:25 AM

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Dear fellow girls, I do believe Mr Disipline was being sarcastic.
Would have to ask him..

Thank you, leatherette, for being smart enough to see that it was sarcasm.

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RE: why cheat???? - 8/16/2007 8:45:45 AM

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It is one reason why I prefer, personally, being poly.

Having an, um, er, pretty good deal of experience with men of all types, I have to say, I do think that between half to the majority of them will cheat in some form at some time, depending on the length of a relationship. (Women will too, but honestly my experience lowers the percentage for them, and I am focusing on men here.) They cheat for sooooooo many reasons, but the main one I have heard over and over is "something different". Now, our hot lil, red corsetted "thelunabird" made an excellent point, possibly missed by many. However, that lure of a "new" pussy is VERY strong. As another poster commented, I agree, in my personal point of view, that there is an instinct for some or many males to "spread their seed".

You will find upbringing and generational differences very strong also. Older men, usually 50 or older, because of the era in which they were raised, cheat less, and now, of course, their libidos (in SOME cases, dont get mad here my elder gentlemen) have somewhat diminished or at the least, have gotten refined as they have tasted the various fruits of life.

Mr D made, in my opinion, a good point in few sarcastic words, with the sting that I bet he gives to a nice ass... but, perhaps I might extrapolate a lil... correct me Mr. D, if I go to far here. Masters (Doms) may or may not cheat, but it shows a lack of respect for the trust that is imperative between a sub and Dom(me), more so, in my opinion, than a vanilla relationship. So one might go so far to say, it is WORSE if a man, claiming to be a Master, cheats. (Cheating here meaning involving lies and deception.)

I know I am being wordy here but this is a favorite topic of mine, and one I see soooooooo often that I really wish at the start of every relationship (of any sort) both parties looked at it as an agreement, subject to change at any time, and canceled at any time, if the agreement is broken. Jealousy and fear are the two worst things, IMO, for any relationship.

To the OP: Pretty one, find yourself someone more worthy, be smarter this time, and be very explicit about what you will and will not agree to. I have no doubt you will find happiness.

(And, Dommiguy is right, your cleavage will lead the way to many, er well not hearts, but, you get the idea. Mwuahh!)

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RE: why cheat???? - 8/16/2007 9:26:26 AM

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ORIGINAL: MistressDaisy73
Mr D made, in my opinion, a good point in few sarcastic words, with the sting that I bet he gives to a nice ass... but, perhaps I might extrapolate a lil... correct me Mr. D, if I go to far here. Masters (Doms) may or may not cheat, but it shows a lack of respect for the trust that is imperative between a sub and Dom(me), more so, in my opinion, than a vanilla relationship. So one might go so far to say, it is WORSE if a man, claiming to be a Master, cheats. (Cheating here meaning involving lies and deception.)

M. Daisy

I wouldn't say that cheating in a D/s (or M/s) relationship is any worse then cheating in a vanilla one. The man being called Master, Dom or Husband makes little to no difference. Both need trust in order to work and cheating just shows a basic lack of integrity on the cheaters part. Whether they are a man or a woman.

But in all honesty, Miss Daisy, my sarcasm was based on the generalization and mellow dramatics of the OP.

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RE: why cheat???? - 8/16/2007 9:40:54 AM

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Ah, I see. My apologies for extrapolation then. I must say I disagree slightly, though of course the importance of honesty and integrity should always the highest, regardless of relationships. I think any of her "dramatics" were the result of her emotions at that moment. But, I see what you are saying.

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RE: why cheat???? - 8/16/2007 10:39:18 AM

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answer me this why can't a psychologist psychoanalyse themselves then you will have your answer.

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RE: why cheat???? - 8/17/2007 7:05:59 AM

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good point :-P

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RE: why cheat???? - 8/17/2007 9:42:16 AM

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and as far as my melodramatics go, i wrote that soon after i found out, so i was a mess of emotions...im not usually a drama queen... i apologize for the tone of the original post. and i agree that cheating isn't worse inside or outside of a D/s relationship...the betrayal is the same and i wouldnt expect a vanilla person to enjoy it either

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RE: why cheat???? - 8/17/2007 5:27:39 PM

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ORIGINAL: subbie4u2use

and as far as my melodramatics go, i wrote that soon after i found out, so i was a mess of emotions...im not usually a drama queen... i apologize for the tone of the original post. and i agree that cheating isn't worse inside or outside of a D/s relationship...the betrayal is the same and i wouldnt expect a vanilla person to enjoy it either

No need to apologise. You are just human and very upset and hurt.
You received a lot of support and postive encouragement.
Clearly people wish you well :)

take care,
leatherette

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RE: why cheat???? - 8/17/2007 7:40:37 PM

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and i appreciate every bit of it:) thank you all!

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RE: why cheat???? - 8/18/2007 6:24:50 PM

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ORIGINAL: MrDiscipline44

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ORIGINAL: leatherette

Dear fellow girls, I do believe Mr Disipline was being sarcastic.
Would have to ask him..

Thank you, leatherette, for being smart enough to see that it was sarcasm.

I perfectly understood that it was sarcasm..I guess you did not notice that I was attempting to show you that I felt the sarcastic response was distasteful..Tempting

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RE: why cheat???? - 8/19/2007 9:40:38 AM

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i got out of a relationship with a Dom some \time ago...it was long distance and im tlaking NY to FL...i just found out that he cheated on me with another sub. We had signed a contract and in it was that we would not play with others unless it was ok with the other party. he knew that i was monogamous from the start and expecte dhim to tell methese things....is it a Dom tendency to cheat?? please, tell me it aint so!

it aint so
been there
the ex still cheats
its who he is
if she (his present) knew
she'd be devastated, like i was
but she believes his lies
like i once did
but, i stopped loathing myself
blaming myself
saw who he was
knew why
moved on
i know what liers look like
feel like
say what they are like
they will never change
but might try to draw you in again
run
run
run

RUN !!

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RE: why cheat???? - 8/19/2007 9:47:07 AM

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It is one reason why I prefer, personally, being poly.

M. Daisy

is this justification ??

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RE: why cheat???? - 8/19/2007 1:45:09 PM

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ORIGINAL: shyinini

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ORIGINAL: MistressDaisy73

It is one reason why I prefer, personally, being poly.

M. Daisy

is this justification ??

my take on that sentence is that theoretically poly individuals have no reason to sneak around and cheat because they are open with their partners and what they're doing.

theoretically. there are still poly individuals who cheat (male AND female) so.. *shrugs*

i dont cheat. my partners know who i'm talking with, what i am and am not doing, etc. but that's me.

kitten, who is taking a rest from packing....

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RE: why cheat???? - 8/19/2007 6:46:20 PM

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Those who cheat especially in a M/s relationship deserve to be removed from the gene pool.

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RE: why cheat???? - 8/20/2007 11:36:54 AM

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very well put

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