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ORIGINAL: MrDiscipline44
I wouldn't say that cheating in a D/s (or M/s) relationship is any worse then cheating in a vanilla one.

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ORIGINAL: HeavansKeeper

I would imagine it's very hard for a man, who is supposed to be in a monogamous relationship, to say "Sweetheart, I want to fuck other women, but be with you."  Maybe it's something someone with a great deal of experience in the d/s world feels comfortable with, but new dominants in particular are often plagued with thoughts of how every vanilla woman they've ever known would react.  I constantly have to remind myself that My Pet is more understanding and patient than my past vanilla relationships.

Telling a woman "I don't want to be with just you." is hard.  Most men have heard the "if you tell me about her, I'll be ok with it.."  Outside of the d/s world, I'd say 94.62% of the time it's a clever rouse that ends with castration.

He cheated, he's a spinelss dirtbag. (and it's hard to write that as someone who was once a spineless dirtbag)

Not all men cheat.  Not all dominants cheat.  My advice is to find a man who is not afraid of telling you that your dress is ugly.  I'm not saying find an asshole who will say "go change, Fatty!" but a man who is not afraid of telling you the things that a man in a vanilla relationship feels he cannot say.

"I disagree."
"No."
"I'm going to (insert place)."
"Wait here."
"I like the red one more."
"I liked your hair more when it was red."
"I don't want to do that." or "We're not going to do that."
"Wear the blue one."

You get the picture.  Why? Because this man will likely be dominant enough in his every day going-ons to have the self discipline to be honest with you concerning the harder truths. (Like "I'm going to sleep around.")

Many men will have a hankering for more. Vanilla or not, things can get boring.  A good fix for boring is a change.  Good changes are getting into new types of play.  Bad changes are cheating.  Personally, if I want to fuck another woman, I just turn My Pet into another woman.... Or sex doll... Or a puppy that one time O.o!!

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is it a Dom tendency to cheat

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ORIGINAL: antipode

Scientifically, is it built into the human animal, for biological reasons.

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How practical

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ORIGINAL: domiguy

I wonder if this is the same subbie4u2use, she joined in Jan '09 and this thread is years old.

Anywhooo,  guys love cheating.  I have found that while one pussy is nice two is often better.  And so on.  I'm sure at some point that there is a diminishing rate of return.  Perhaps when staring down the barrel of a gun or when the numbers on your gash farm is somewhere in the hundreds.

Cheating blows.  but ya gots to be realistic.  New York pussy is nice. Unfortunately it happens to be attached to some woman that lives in New York. Therefore it is not uncommon for one to snap up some quality Chicagoan snapper while waiting for the next flight to the big apple.

Just depends on your mindset and exactly what you are willing to forfeit to make something work.