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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

It is quite simple really.  You discipline yourself to become the sort of man she will follow and obey, in short,  you lead.  Despite the lunacy of MrDiscipline44's post, you can't beat someone into obedience or submission, not as we use the term in bdsm.  You must make her want and need to obey and you must give her orders that she can and will obey.  Don't order her to fly or you are likely to be disappointed.  Don't order her to do something difficult without knowing that you may have to be patient in order to get her where you want her to be.

Think of training a wild horse, you don't throw that saddle on day one and expect to ride.  You also don't beat the horse in an attempt to break its spirit because then you end up with a broken horse, you WANT that spirit alive.  So you make it clear to the horse that   your will is stronger and more patient AND that if the horse submits its life will be better and happier.  Only when the horse understands that do you throw the saddle on and ride.

Submissives aren't horses nor are they children but creating a real d/s dynamic doesn't happen overnight, it grows because you nurture them, you show them how much happier they will be submitting to your will.  You do that be leading, by being disciplined, when they roll over on their backs offering sex you say no, not until X is done and done well, THEN you fuck the hell out of them or flog, torment, whatever. 

I would KILL to have my woman 80 miles away, she is 3,018 miles away across three time zones that take eight hours to fly across, so before anyone goes shitting on long distance relationships, think long and hard about it.

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ORIGINAL: feastie

This simple fact of the matter is, you cannot enforce discipline long distance.  The only thing you can do is hope that your partner is honest enough and has enough integrity to behave in the manner you find pleasing.  You should also make sure that you are honest enough and have enough integrity to inspire her to behave in the manner you find pleasing.

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ORIGINAL: julietsierra
um...can we request Oxford? (You know...that one that's in the library that's so big (thick, heavy, thuddy, oooh) that it requires its own table?

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ORIGINAL: bandit25

Not just its own table but a magnifying glass to boot!

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ORIGINAL: celticlord2112

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ORIGINAL: feastie

This simple fact of the matter is, you cannot enforce discipline long distance.  The only thing you can do is hope that your partner is honest enough and has enough integrity to behave in the manner you find pleasing.  You should also make sure that you are honest enough and have enough integrity to inspire her to behave in the manner you find pleasing.

The simple fact of the matter is, you can enforce discipline at any distance.   You just have to be very creative.

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ORIGINAL: MrDiscipline44

Thats right. Because everyone is the same and what you propose is the only "true" way to do it. What a jackass.