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ORIGINAL: MistressDoMe quote:
ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael Susan, I am not interested in blame or right or wrong, just exploring the differences, real or imagined. Michael, eventually someone will explain the differences, between how Male and Female Dominants are treated and perceived. We will have to wade through the background, history, society, expectations, who, what,where and when posts. Michael asked what are the differences. Not why they are treated differently. ok...I will go out on a limb and actually only respond to that part of the question >" perception" ... ( this is my perception over the course of 15 yrs..and will say it is changing most recently, as I look more closely into the Domme views through CM ) but prior to this changing, I have felt/perceived> Male Top = mostly physical and casual and void of the emotional commitment. Male Dominant = emotional, mental with emphasis on leadership and ownership... Sadist = mostly Top oriented to be able to keep the boundaries in place in order to apply the sadistic. Female domme/w male sub> a Top disposition and mostly perceived as having multiples who serve her, and overall sadistic tendancies & humiliation/degradation playing a big role as well, running throughout the relationships..the lines blurr about the emotional and mental caring( vs the male dominant w/female sub) and lean toward the service sub/slave ownership to take care of her needs.. I have not heard much about the femDom who is nurturing, mostly getting the idea that she's rough and tough and has boys that want it that way ( submission btw to male subs seem to also be about the physical and humiliation ) femDomme w/female subs> tend more toward the emotional and mental..but still multiple and poly relationships and subs/slaves... not hearing too much about the intimacies but underlying less sadistic and more intimate ( than femdom w/male)... I do not know or have heard much about MaleDom/w male sub....so no comment on that one. as I said> you asked for perception..I am not saying I agree with the above ..and frankly, have been on my own quest to further my knowledge about the same> because I'm sure my perceptions are narrow or misguided at times...and have seen evidence to that fact more since signing onto CM.
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Cyndi .."There are two ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it. " Edith Wharton
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