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RE: Has anyone found "the one" - 8/27/2007 3:38:22 PM

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I've come to the realization that there is no "the one" for me. I've been played over and over again, and personally, I'm pooped...LOL

It just baffles me the extremes and all the time some put into playing with a person's emotions

I come here for the boards and to keep in touch with buds that I have made on the site.

sorry for the downer... here have some boob

LOL

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RE: Has anyone found "the one" - 8/27/2007 6:06:39 PM

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Greetings to the OP,

Yes, I feel like the luckiest girl in the world to have met Him and we did make initial contact through CM. We live about 20 minutes away from each other and spend as much time as possible together between work, school and other obligations. This weekend, he was hosting an event in his home and one of his friends told me it gave him hope to see us together.

Keep an open mind and heart as you seek your Master or Dom and remember to be true to the qualities you seek when conversing with people. I had a couple of hard knocks before I met Him, but it was well worth it to find someone so special.

well wishes ~ fairer than she

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RE: Has anyone found "the one" - 8/27/2007 6:14:55 PM

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I did, and they found each other on ALT as well.

But it did take six years.

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RE: Has anyone found "the one" - 8/27/2007 6:45:23 PM

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yes, and to me, it's about as funny as calling someone "the one" in my book!

My bad... I misunderstood your post.

Please accept my apologies.

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RE: Has anyone found "the one" - 8/27/2007 6:47:37 PM

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on this site?

Yes.

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RE: Has anyone found "the one" - 8/27/2007 8:56:01 PM

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I don't believe in "the one"....

but I've made some great friends!

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RE: Has anyone found "the one" - 8/27/2007 9:03:17 PM

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Maybe. Time will tell.
But not on this site, another site. Online is online though, huh?

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RE: Has anyone found "the one" - 8/27/2007 9:05:23 PM

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ORIGINAL: plspickme

on this site?

nope...not sure if She exists...on any site

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RE: Has anyone found "the one" - 8/27/2007 9:22:02 PM

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Nope. Lot's of contacts, a couple of starts, then endings. I don't expect to meet the right one here, but the forums are fun.

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RE: Has anyone found "the one" - 8/27/2007 10:16:29 PM

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I am like the U2 song - "I Still Have Not Found What I am Looking For". Seriously, I have to agree with Akisha because there is no such thing as finding someone who is perfect. We are all human, can make mistakes and to those who seek total perfection, will be very disappointed.

I think it is a matter of communication, levels of compatibilities, honesty and sometimes, being best friends first before getting into the inimate area of play can have some pretty long lasting relationships.

People do change but it depends on the direction and growth between the dom/domme and sub(s).

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RE: Has anyone found "the one" - 8/28/2007 7:18:00 AM

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I did i found the "perfect one" for me on this site. We have been together 18 months and still going strong. I got my permanant collat last week. He makes me so happy. He only lives/works about 30 mins from me so we see each other almost every day. So CM did work for us.

Matt's littleone

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littleone - 8/28/2007 11:06:23 AM

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i love your post the best. Thanks for that. i don't want someone whose perfect. Just someone who is perfect for me. Thanks for showing me that it can be done. Enjoy!

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RE: Has anyone found "the one" - 8/28/2007 1:13:39 PM

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YES, YES AND YES!!!!!!! Master and I met here just over a year ago, we are now married, live together and I am collared. So the answer is yes. On another note**** both of us were on other sites prior to meeting here, and all I can say is we were both very pleased to find that each of us was actually what we had represented ourselves to be on line.

Love abounds collar fits well and life is grand. Except the missing girley to play with together now and then. We are still searching for her.

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RE: Has anyone found "the one" - 8/28/2007 1:20:33 PM

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Yes, I have found my One here on CM and posted also in Positive Experiences.

We started out as friends many months ago and the friendship deepened over time. We seemed to always know when the other needed a shoulder, an ear or a swift boot in the arse. I helped him with his slave situation a couple times and he was there for me during my own down times. Then something happened that kinda woke us up. We were already friends, the bestest basis for a relationship doncha think?...so started talking a little more seriously. He knew of my concerns about the Gorean lifestyle and a poly-house right from the outset and knew that I was not considering him seriously because of it. He enlightened me about his point of view on both and then the two of us had some really hard thinking to do. I connected bigtime with Gorean philosophy and way of thinking once I had learned more about it (and his manner of living it). He saw a different perspective of poly once he had learned more about it from the submissive's side. Although the point in time seemed to be coincidental, he also realized that the slave he already owned was not right for him. Besides a huge age difference, there seemed to be a personality clash that rankled. He was unable to talk to her about a lot of things without getting mired in semantics, and he found he disliked temper tantrums in a slave. Come to find out, he wanted more of a Free Companion, a friend, lover, confidante; someone to do stuff with and converse with not just a slave to serve him. He released her before coming to me to "ask for my hand" so to speak. He wanted to be free and clear of encumbrances, just as I want to be free to go to him. I have a UM at home that I need to see settled, and a couple personal issues to bury before I can relocate. He knows this and is totally supportive of my decisions. He wants all of me, as I have all of him, and when I do relocate in December I will be free to be with him utterly and completely. The joy we have found in each other is limitless. We can talk, and have talked, about literally everything under the sun without fear of reprisal or unacceptance or shame. We don't have to walk on eggshells hoping not to set the other one off. We are free to show our own vulnerabilities and insecurities and trust that the other will accept and understand. What a feeling of peace that brings.

My Jarl and I wish all of you to have what we have...total acceptance of the other and happiness in the love you feel. Our best wishes to you all.

Love and light,
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RE: Has anyone found "the one" - 8/28/2007 1:33:53 PM

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Honestly, I've found "the one" so many times that I've given up looking for "the one."

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RE: Has anyone found "the one" - 8/28/2007 1:34:31 PM

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You too?

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RE: Has anyone found "the one" - 8/28/2007 1:41:44 PM

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Two simple words, 'Lay's potatoe chips'.

Anything over two is lagniappe.

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RE: Has anyone found "the one" - 8/28/2007 1:59:46 PM

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It has been my experience in my year's of searching. BDSM personals sites do not work. For some they may.
However a site like this. It is heaven for those who just found the lifestyle yesterday and now want to dive in all the way without knowing anything about the lifestyle in general.
So, naturally those people are going to out weigh the real people here. Making your odds of finding a good person less and less.
Yet, now and then you do read success stories of people who met here. So, it can happen. Overall I'd say it is too far in between to try here.
Of course this is also spoken from someone who is now married to her dominant. So, take my advice or leave it.
However, when I was searching I did have ads out on all of the sites. Many that no longer exist today.
It was a very long journey that ended in despair. It wasn't until I removed all ads from everywhere and I was hanging out in a vanilla chat room. My dom came in, we hit it off.
Here we are working on 9 years together. So, never underestimate where you may meet the right one for you. I wouldn't call anyone "The one" That puts entirely too much pressure on both.
Just be happy with someone you can make happy. Someone you have things in common with and someone who loves you back as much as you love them.

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RE: Has anyone found "the one" - 8/28/2007 3:43:51 PM

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I make no less than 2-3 connections per week (from this site alone) with some very nice gentlemen who write cohesive emails. They seem relativiely sane, local, gainfully employed and decent looking. But there simply isn't a spark after I speak with them a bit. Finding that particular chemistry feels (not impossible) but very rare for me.
In the past 8 yrs, Ive had "that spark" only a few times; and for different reasons, none of them worked out in the longrun.
When I feel like "looking" again, I look, but then I get bored of it and tired of the monotony of the "getting to know you" stage. It's like ya just gotta go through so many of these guys, looking and hoping to feel that bit of chemistry where something just might take root. It gets tiresome and it just makes me want to hang up my submission, right next to my size 5 jeans that I'll never use again either.
I don't know if I'm too picky or what, but if I dont feel that certain 'something' with a man, all the niceness, saneness, good looks, location etc etc doesn't mean jack shit to me. I'd rather just hang out till the right 'one' comes along, than to settle for some 'nice guy'.

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RE: Has anyone found "the one" - 8/28/2007 4:11:49 PM

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Yes, we found each other here and are very happy. Neither of us have ever known such a relationship. We have been living together for 16 months and the wedding preparations are well underway.
Hope you too can find what you seek.
hugs
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